We live together for about half a year and moved in right away at the beginning. It went fine for a few months but then he just started to be so controling and starts to do very hurtful things, When I try to talk to him about something that's important to me or thats bothering me, he either falls asleep, says it's boring to talk about and if he does talk to me he makes it into a battle of just wanting to be right and not listining, turns it around to be about me and that i'm being stupid basicaly and I end up saying sorry for having the argument. Now lately he's been complaining we don't have enough sex, about once a week (or less), he wants to have sex 3 times a week. But he's simply not intimate, caring and respectfull with me, I really hate having sex with him, it feels like a chore just to make him be nicer to me. I told him I need more intimacy prior to sex but he doesnt seem to get it and just blows it off he even said his grandparents do it more just to hurt me.What should I do?
2006-11-19 22:45:27 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My gosh! Reading your story brought back sooooo many memories of my last relationship. I really really loved him and always ended up apologising for things he had done! I only realised what I was being put through when i left him.
It is so easy to say get out now, you can do better, you don;t need him - but it is harder actually doing it. I really feel for you. If you're not happy then you do really need to get out. Try keeping a diary. That really helped me. I wrote down every time he was horrible to me or every time he wouldn't give me a cuddle or anything. Looking back at it now i think how could I have stayed with him for so long! He ended up cheating on me and leaving him was the best thing I ever did.
Being able to talk to your parnter is one of the most important aspects of a relationship. He doesn't sound like he has any respect for you at all. Please do what you feel is right in your heart and not in your head!
Good luck honey xxx
2006-11-19 22:54:00 · answer #1 · answered by Little miss naughty 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow you and me are the most opposite relationships I want it all the time and he doesn't."Wanna switch?" JK I doesn't feel good either way. My bf is 33 and I am 25. Sometimes it makes me feel like I am not attractive enough and he is no longer interested in me. We talk about it and he says he loves me and that has nothing to do with it. Then we start talking about him possibly being bored w/ me and wanting something else and he swears up a down he loves me. To make a long story short, he has gotten a little better and I know he has sex w/ me more than he wants to. When you are in a relationship you need to meet somewhere in the middle. Average person has sex like 3.5x a week I am lucky to get it just 1x a week.
2016-03-29 02:30:38 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't take it anymore, why still stay with the creep? He is just using you to satisfy his sexual urge. He doesn't really loves you. If he really loves you, he would not do anything that could hurt you phycically or mentally. Leave this heartless monster while you still can. Get a new life or a better guy that's really cares & loves you. You are a human being with emotion & feeling not an animal or machine. Wake up my friend!!!!
2006-11-20 16:48:34 · answer #3 · answered by CM C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did I write this? It sounds just like my situation. Only we have a 2 year old son involved. I know he is capable of caring about my feelings and spending time together. He was fine until after our son was born. I couldn't stand it anymore so today I gave him an ultimatem. Either grow up or get out. I guess I'll to wait and see if he comes home from work tonite or not. Good luck to you. I'll let you know how my situation turned out. e-mail me if you like and we can talk.
2006-11-19 23:05:10 · answer #4 · answered by caj04072 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he cares about you but not by much. any man that says hurt-full things and doesn't care to listen to your hurt feelings and complains about not enough sex while not taking the steps to be closer to you outside the bedroom is not into you. both of you move in together to fast and now his true feeling are showing, move out and move on to a man that really does love and care about you and your needs. Anything less is cheating you out of love and respect.
2006-11-19 22:52:20 · answer #5 · answered by autumnbrookblue 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cut this scum bag off and tell him to hit the road or you leave, whichever is the most prevalent for you.
Get out of that situation before there's kids involved. He's not going to change, he'll be like that for life until he starts seeing someone on the side (cheating) then your out anyhow, you'll see.
I don't know how you young people get into situations like that? it's beyond me.
2006-11-19 23:19:22 · answer #6 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he is forcing u for sex than,i think u should clearly ask him one question that will u accept me if i m getting pregnant? (as u r not married ), if he says yes than he may love u.
now to ur problem girls always need intimacy more than sex.
u should clearly ask him, whether he loves u or not if he doesn't, than u should not keep ur relationship long lasting, because it will only heart u. he is just using u. u can find better than him. he is not only hope for u.
bye.
take care.
2006-11-19 23:02:42 · answer #7 · answered by Jeny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Living together, or even having sex at all not being married is your problem, no need going any further. Get rid of him and turn your life around.
2006-11-19 22:47:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
dump him, if he cant be just a tad bit grateful for even having a girl, hes not worth it. keep your cell phone handy while you pack his stuff. and as for you saying sorry when a fight is over, dont say that EVER again. hes manipulating the conversation in his favor, so if you ever get into a fight, just drop it before it gets too far. just watch your footing around this guy.
2006-11-19 22:50:40 · answer #9 · answered by acampion2000 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
sounds like you already know the answer hun you need to break up. If no other living options i am sure family will help but it has to be better than that situation. You deserve better
2006-11-19 22:47:37 · answer #10 · answered by mommyblues78 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋