I have been married for 3 years. Recently, I have a stronge feeling of creating a family and having children. However, wife doesn't really want to have children due to her busy school, plus she is afraid to have another miss carriage like 2 years ago. What are the bettery ways to open up the disscussion about having children. She doesn't have as much sex drive as before. Please send me some suggestion. Thank you very much.
2006-11-19 22:41:22 · 9 answers · asked by Nate L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Be patient, guy! Let her finishes her study and her dream. She will give you chance to have children later on. Please give her support for her study. It's better to do than force her to give you a baby. And stress of her study makes her has less sex drive than before.
I wonder how can both of you raise children while she still study? Raising children is not as easy as you've think. Children need loving care and others not only food and clothes.
For addition, in Muslim world it's not as easy as you've known to divorce your wife without best and tough reason. God hate divorce. God will asked your responsibilities of divorcing her at the Judgment Day after you've died, and later on, God will punish you if you have wrong reasons and you did wrong assessments after you'd divorced her.
But whatever, nobody cares.
2006-11-19 22:52:45 · answer #1 · answered by eddy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how much you love her and you can't think of a better way of showing each other how much you do, than by creating a baby together! Talk about the miscarriage and her fears and if you need to, both of you go talk to her doctor and let him relieve some of her anxieties! And you might be surprised at how her sex drive will increase!
2006-11-20 06:57:39 · answer #2 · answered by kelley1031 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like the Miscarriage could have possibly caused more problems than you know.. Miscarriages are very tramatic on us females... The loss can be can be so devastating that the thought of trying again can bring on " what If's" what if it happens again" ... I truly do not believe that without counseling on this issue , you are gonna be able to get through to your wife...
Seek a good counselor on the subject of miscarriages /...She is afraid and thus is not gonna want to try..
As for school: well thats also important but most woman will put aside their ambitions for a child .. So, I truly do not believe that is where your problem lies.. I believe it lies with the miscarriage and until that is solved , its not going to change , in her eyes and heart..
Seek help ./..Good luck..:)
2006-11-20 07:08:18 · answer #3 · answered by Joann 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having a miscarriage is a total emotional wreck for a woman, not to mention physically. Naturally, the sex drive will diminish from such event; she doesn't feel too attractive right now. You have to be gentle in your words, show compassion and let her know she's still the most beautiful woman in the world to you. Support her with her motivation to finish school. I assure you one day soon she will passionately want to have kids with you. Don't worry...
You're welcome...next question...
2006-11-20 06:57:56 · answer #4 · answered by pn3drb 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You mention her schedule, is she real busy? maybe this is the problem. When I was going to medical school I was so busy I was going 'till sometimes 2 in the A.M and my wife became ill. I didn't recognize it and ignore her. I was just to busy.
Maybe this is her problem. Anyway, I'd suggest a marriage consular for both of you before this becomes an issue.
2006-11-20 07:01:06 · answer #5 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry shel get bac 2 u soon wth the idea of havg a baby..
giv her some time and kind words..
good luck
2006-11-20 07:02:35 · answer #6 · answered by sunflower 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
surely, marriage is an institution! who wud like to live in an institution anyway!
2006-11-20 06:50:47 · answer #7 · answered by curious cynthia 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
please be gentle and calm...I am sure that she will come around....if need be encourage her to talk to an expert to soothe her fears about possible miscarriage again...
all the best,
Amit
2006-11-20 06:46:44 · answer #8 · answered by Amit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the muslim world, you can legally divorce a person if they won't or can't give you children....tell her that...
2006-11-20 06:43:33 · answer #9 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 3⤋