I have a friend (male) who I met in England. We were drunk one night and snogged but the relationship never got any closer than that. We then went to France for a week and toured around. Once when he was living in Australia, I went and visited him there for a week as well. Over the past three years we have caught up by email.
Just recently, he came over for her work. I told my Fiancé that I wanted to go for a walk along the river with him or out for dinner or a Cafe or something. He is not happy about it and wants to come with us. I just want some time to connect with him again and I think my Fiancé's behaviour is controlling?
2006-11-19 22:37:41 · 14 answers · asked by Triestobewise 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sorry, but would you want your fiance to do this to you? I personally think if its important to your man, you need to take his feelings into consideration and bring him with. I would consider him controlling if he freaked about every guy you talked to, but not this. I think he is right.
2006-11-19 22:43:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
I don't think his behaviour is controlling. You guys are getting ready to get married! Try outting yourself in his position. If he had a friend (female) he hasn't seen in a while has known and talked to for a long long time. Now imagine he wnats to see her again. Wouldn't you be scared/afraid that there could be feelings for that person?
I think he has a good reason to be jealous. He doesn't want to lose you to another man that you have known and liked. You have been half around the world with this guy! Let your fiance go with you or just cancel the whole thing.
Hope i helped out at lwast a little bit.
And remember, try putting yourself in his position!
2006-11-20 10:25:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
In the first place, this is beyond a friendly handshake you have with your friend. I believe left alone for a time, it could go beyond what your saying and, your faience sees this also. You made a choice when you became engaged, you committed to this relationship just as in marriage.
Maybe you better rethink your relationship with your fiance, and then you can reacquaint yourself with your friend, and see where that goes.
You have to make a choice here, if your friend is that important or your fiance, your friend.
I certainly wouldn't want my wife or fiance going out with other men, especially ones they've become so attached to. I'm sorry but, I'm not on your side.
2006-11-20 06:49:41 · answer #3 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First, what is "Snogged"? If it was sex, that is a red flag for your fiance. Most men are possessive, by nature. They like to "claim" their woman, even the sensitive ones. If your fiance feels that this man has an emotional claim on you, for any reason, he may feel insecure. Also, that's a LOT of traveling around for "just a friend". You may need to examine what your feelings are about this male friend, because a lot of alcohol tends of loosen feelings that were there already.
2006-11-20 07:10:09 · answer #4 · answered by Judy W 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Any fiance on this earth will never agree with the type of your suggestion , he is not controlling , he just can not digest that other person is spending good time with you, while he is around& Ithink even you will not allow him , if he comes up with the same type of request to spend evening with another girl , while you are sitting home , thinking and wating for his return .
2006-11-20 06:44:48 · answer #5 · answered by your noon 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if you're not going to do anything then there is no problem with letting him come with you. chances are you talked about him a lot and now your fiance thinks something might happen due to your past history of getting drunk and snogging. once he sees that nothing is going on, he'll get over it.
2006-11-20 07:58:42 · answer #6 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
this is the man u are going to marry, and no he is not being controlling, he is protecting what is his, how would u feel if he wanted to connect with some girl from his past? he has every right to go along with u, unless u have something to hide. if u truly love your fiance and want to marry him, don't disrespect him like this if u want to keep him. this person does make him feel threatened and unloved.
2006-11-20 13:42:03 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, this is one situation that happens alot. your guy isnt being controlling, hes just worried that you are cheating. all you have to do is find a way to reassure your fiance' that you arent cheating, and are just meeting an old friend. be warned: this subject is very touchy, so sit him down and talk about it.
2006-11-20 06:47:04 · answer #8 · answered by acampion2000 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is just a little jealous cant say I blame him. You may know that you are just friends but it isn't comfortable for you guy. See your friend and let your guy hang out with the two of you too maybe that will make him feel better.
2006-11-20 06:44:26 · answer #9 · answered by Belinda 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Because he's jealous and insecure; but if you're proud of your fiance, your husband to be forever and ever, then let him meet the other guy. This will show that you like him to trust you, and to put him at ease about your long time friend.
You're welcome, next question...
2006-11-20 06:46:31 · answer #10 · answered by pn3drb 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋