Suicidal....................?

Question

you feel like you want to die and you have tried self harming but you never have the guts to go the full way.
have you felt like this before?
and do u think its not as imrportant as someone that dose alot of self harming and have tryed to kill themselve?
as it seems you dont get help unless you try to kill yourself or if you have cut yourself loads.
what do you think ? and what would u do?

Answer 1

Consult a Doctor immediately. My sister was exactly in the same situation her arms are a mess after years of self harming. I know there is a lot of questions around self harm and the majority of people say it is for attention. It is somewhat but it becomes addictive and no matter how much help you get you get stuck into it . It destroyed my realtionship with my sister as i was so young my whole family were rocked by her self harming and yes it may not have been suicide which would have hurt us more but it was just as bad watching her do that. She needed help it wasnt just attention seeking and she was seriously ill. Dont get to that point its horrible. And if you've already consulted a doctor go again and get more help. I started feeling suicidal and automatically went to the doctors because of my sister's experiences. You can get help sometimes your brain creates road blocks that get in the way and you just need some help through. If your worried about medication dont be. For a start you don'ty need to take it the doctoir can give you alterantve approaches and secondly it isn't extremely addictive and you can usually wean yourself off within a couple of weeks without any side effects.

To stop self harming you first need to want to stop if you dont want to then you'll get nowhere but there are plenty of methods that we used to help my sister. Holding ice cubes helps as you get the pain but none of the damage. Create a file of good things that you look at whenever you get an urge. Cut into wood or wax. Draw red lines on your skin. Count to 10. remind yourself of the day where you are and that your ok. Draw or write.

Most importantly DON'T try and stop with other self harmers in fact try and dissassocate yourself from them as much as possible without loosing friends because its a destructive pattern that you get yourself into. Further more talk to real people in the real world and keep in touch with reality

Answer 2

If you are having suicidal thoughts and are self harming, whether it is a one off event or a way of life, there is obviously a problem in your life that you need to sort. People who are contented with their lives and happy do not want to die. What you need to do is pinpoint what the problem is and deal with it so it isn't such a massive life threatening thing to you. The best thing you could do is talk to someone, or lots of people about how you're feeling. Your GP is bound by confidentiality and can put you in touch with other organisations that can help you. Its hard to start talking if you've been bottling it all up, but it really is the best thing you can do. You might feel alone with this but there are others out there that will understand and not judge you for the way you are feeling.

Best of luck xx

Answer 3

I felt like this when I was suffering from depression. I would try to slit my wrists but didn't have the guts to go through with it and just cutting them made me feel better. But I realised that I could help myself and decided that anti-depressants were not the answer. The only way to get over depression is to do something about it, not make it go away temporarily by taking anti depressants. I focused on all the good things in my life. At the time there were not many but the little things I enjoyed, I focused on these like music and my fav T.V progs. I always said to myself when I felt like killing myself 'If I killed myself now, I would miss the next episode'. I also had a brilliant friend who would not judge me or have a go at me. She just listened to me when I went on, put up with my strange mood swings and didn't give me the third degree when she found out I had tryed to slit my wrists. Gradually things started getting better for me. And now 6 years on I am so glad I am still here becuase I am enjoying my life to the full.

Answer 4

Any time someone has serious suicidal thoughts and/or is into self-mutilation there is something wrong. If this is a young person (as I suspect) it's time to talk to someone like a school counselor, or a clergyman if the parents aren't considered approachable.
Today's children are under more pressure than any previous generation. It only stands to reason that many of them are exhibiting/feeling the effects f/ this.
The signs that you mention result f/ disturbances in life, leaving that person distressed and deficient in happiness.
Often times this person is unaware or unsure about why they are depressed. This where communication w/ the right council can bring the problem to the forefront and enable the affected person to face the source of what's bothering them w/ confidence that can be used to overcome it.

I'm responsive to email if I know someone is seeking to talk about helping themself.

Answer 5

U don't have to hurt yourself to get help .You just need to go to the hospital and tell them you need to talk with someone from the psychiatric ward and tell them how you feel that you want to die etc and they will admit you in the psychiatric ward for at least 3 days to start and then you see a doctor and they will determine what kind of meds and how much longer they will keep you.Make sure you tell exactly how you feel.The bad thing is as a teenager i was put on Zoloft then i would feel great an take myself off the meds and save them .then i would get drunk n black out n get suicidal without knowing although i felt that way i was to scared to do it but then eventually it did get worse and i almost succeeded and my mom found me in time.I woke up in intensive care with my family surrounding me.I have to children now and have never done that since a teen and with my kids well i love them to death n on the days i am feeling bad i think of what makes me happy my children and think what would my kids do without me they also love and depend on me i couldn't even think of doing that.This is good that you are in touch with your feeling so go n get some help this is a way of asking for help n if you need to talk plz send message and we can chat k bye for now and hope you get the help u need and feel better about u .

Answer 6

yes i have.... i was a cutter when i was younger
and if you are hurting and depressed it is just as important as anyone else no matter how far you do or do not go
if someone (you?) felt this way they need to get help
when i went through major depression i was in school so i saw my school counselor and she had me go see a therapist
when i was older i went through a difficult relationship with a man who i did love (at the time ) but was bipolar and made me think i was the crazy one (ect ect) i was lucky enough that my mom worked for a woman who is a licensened phsyciatrist (

Answer 7

SUICIDE WILL BE PAINFUL THAN THE PROBLEMS IN THE REAL LIFE.

RATHER WE CAN FACE THE PROBLEM INSTEAD OF GETTING SUICIDE

SUICIDE IS MOMENTARY MADNESS

Let me tell you my own experience. I am not just saying this to convince you. This is real truth.

Incident 1 :
I met with great insult in my life and I want to kill myself. I wanted to cut my vein on a hill so that no body can see me. But I could not do it and I decided to face the insult

Incident 2:
I met with great insult again in my life and I wanted to kill myself by taking poison. I have taken the poison but vomited. I took that god want me to live than to die. Not sure about the complications it will have in my rest of my life, my kidneys may fail... . Right now I am ok and doing well in my life.

But one of my friend got the guts to do it all the way till the end. We found him dead taking poison with alcohol. He vomited throughout the room. Still he consumed and died. Must be a very painful death.

DO NOT SUICIDE !!!!!!!!!!1

Answer 8

There is not one problem made by man that can not be solved you are a beautiful person one of Gods own made in his image and remember a doctor is also one who is special and has the training and knowledge to make you feel even more beautiful so go see one and get the cure cheers

Answer 9

Ive recently lost a family member through suicide i think its something that isn't looked into enough we had no idea he was feeling this way it came as a complete shock and we shall never no why he felt this was the only way out. most people that hurt themselves or attempt are looking for help and want to be healed in someway those people who go throu with it i think feel its there only escape i would talk to anyone who felt that this was an option to see how they honestly feel about there life..................

Answer 10

to be straight with u everybody has his up and downs .. but it differs how to deal with such cases.. recently i lost more than 40,000 $ in stock market.. i felt im done with this life since i got no other sources to overcome my lost.. but i kept my faith in god and i will be able to move on ,,, dont harm your self, cause u r so precios to your self.. think deeply what ever was the case