Men , do you also think that some of you , were the reason for some men to turn gay?

Answer 1

I am likely misinterpreting what you are asking here but I am choosing to answer the question which I believe should have been asked if it wasn't. That question is: Do straight men in our society play a role in the evolution of the gay male and therefore bear some of the responsibility for the eventual outcomes?

Here is what I believe on this matter although I have no proof. I believe that gay males are born different from straight males. What those differences are in anatomical, physiological, biochemical, genetic terms has not to date been determined. We are in the very early stages of learning about these matters and it is imperative that we all remain open-minded with respect to just what they might be.

Regardless of the exact nature of those inborn factors, I believe that in certain societies, among them our own and all Western societies, these inherited differences establish an essentially inescapable proclivity toward the development of homosexuality.

At a very early age, I believe, much too early for the gay male to even recall the events, the inherited differences begin to affect his interactions with his male peers who are destined in adulthood to become straight males. He gradually becomes distinctive in many ways from those other male children. In our society, distinction leads to more distinction leads to more distinction like a snowball rolling downhill until finally all those small distinctions add up to rather large differences and the end result of all this for many is aloofness, separation, segregation and finally alienation.

I believe all of this takes place in the earliest developmental years, long before sexuality kicks in. Fundamentally, it has little even to do with sexuality. It has more to do with aggression (or lack of it), power hunger (or lack of it), and the inevitable social pecking order which is surreptitiously established. No one sees this occurring, not the child who will become gay, not the child who will become straight, not the parents nor the teachers, not the researchers, no one. It happens so early in life and so gradually that it is, in effect, invisible.

I would suspect that as a child and as a teenager many gay males have a love-hate relationship with other males. The reasons for this are too varied and too complex to go into here. Suffice it to say that over time the gay male learns more and more to gravitate toward his own kind. And the rest, as they say, is history. By adulthood the truly mature gay male has put all of this into perspective and is able at that point in time to accept the (non-homophobic) straight male as not-necessarily-any-longer the enemy.

In my view, homosexuality begins with inborn hereditary distinctions and continues to develop after leaving the womb with further differentiation of those initial inborn traits, influenced by psychological and sociological factors. This is not such an outrageous claim. After all, isn't everything we our born with influenced at some point in life by environmental factors?

The more outrageous part of my claim, perhaps, is that in our society children and teenagers who are destined as adults to be straight actually play a role in the evolution of the gay male. If this is in fact true, then the (someday-to-be) straight male in our society in some strange, as yet undefined sense bears part of the responsibility for the eventual outcomes even though he was never aware of his own role in the process. This is ultimately what makes homophobia so ironic.

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Answer 2

One does not turn gay, one just is gay. I am thankful for meeting the gay men I did when I was becoming aware of my sexuality. Without the support and positive role models they gave me I may have ended up in the closet - still gay but full of self hatred and fear.

Answer 3

I didn't think being gay was a choice. I didn't think you could turn gay, that you were either born that way or not. Isn't that the popular augment now days?

Answer 4

I think some women sent some men gay... I am not near the point of going gay, I want women, bring them on.

Answer 5

nothing "turns" someone gay...that's the way they are born. only bigots believe in the stereotypical "reasons" that someone actually "turns" gay....and they are all wrong!

Answer 6

People don't turn gay. They are gay or they aren't gay.

Answer 7

No. Since you have already dismissed the fact that "we" are born that way, you have no real point to your question. You've already made up your mind and thusly are doing nothing more than trying someone to agree with you.
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Answer 8

are you asking if I turned people gay? haha .... that would be cool, but it's not a choice

Answer 9

You're gonna get slammed by the "gay rights" advocates who will take exception to your suggestion that people can "turn gay."

After all, they believe that gay people are "born that way."

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Answer 10

NO, you are or either your not. (there are people that has the desire that are in the closet for years)....