alot people were cry and killed theirselves caused love, even me i were cried for long time and for nothing i just only hurt and still wait believe that person will be back but nothing going on about my love
2006-11-19 22:13:02 · 12 answers · asked by 2Q 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Love needs to be kept independent from the situation that is created by the loss. As long as the ideal of what love was, the time spent together, and the time looked forward to is not lost in the essence of what created it, then the beauty of what it was is still present in what you are.
The loss of self in the situation created in the darkness of loss, and waiting is never easy. I am unwillingly seperated from my wife and family... it is an extremely painful process without what would seem an answer to a detrimental quandry. Being somewhere similar to where you are, hurt should not dimish what the heart is emotional caught in, even if it seems to be wretching, and without purpose to continue... patience is a virtue, no matter how hard things are, just sometimes even the most patient become impatient...
If love has left, there's nothing left to do but continue to love what this person was, or cut them loose to allow youself to heal. Though the wounds may sting, they eventually scar... become a memory and eventually forgotten. It takes 1/2 the time you were with the person to get over them. The mind without time to reconcile what has occured tends to dwell, without timeframes, or prospects for resolution. I can to a degree greatly associate to what you're going through... had many a night crying myself to sleep, and staring at the clear star filled sky wondering why I cannot be with my wife... why it's such a detriment to be in love???
I've no answer for what to do, I can't even figure it out myself, and don't even know if there is answer to stop what's going on inside... if things get too bad, let someone know... depression can get the best of all of us sometimes. Peace... I wish you resolution...
2006-11-19 22:52:20 · answer #1 · answered by Vandel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its sad when your whole self-esteem is caught up in a relationship. Maybe you needed that person to validate your existence as I did. There are other fish in the ocean, as they say, If you recently broke up, don't rush a new relationship. I cried over the one I lost for 2 years. Thats a long time. I still miss him a lot. But God created you for a reason, and if you pray for a mate, he does provide. Just be careful of the wall you may build up around your heart. Mine was pretty thick.
2006-11-20 01:30:19 · answer #2 · answered by :-) literary cappy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
focus on yourself, and don't think too much if they will come back or not, has alot to do with your own self esteem, and not being able to accept this breakup. it is hard as hell to loose the person we love, but if they don't want to be with us, we got to set them free, and set ourselves free, we all have cried over lost loves, it's part of the growing up process, and we do get through it, and it does make us stronger. not too pleasant when it is going on hurts alot, we do some crying, but we have to accept that the person we loved may not come back. know that there are plenty of fish in the sea. if it doesn't work out with one, there will alwasy be another one come along after awhile. but we need to learn from every bad hurt we get, there is something in it we must figure out. life infact is one big learning process. maybe this just isn't the right person for u, and maybe you haven't met the person you are destined to be with yet, just hang in there and don't make any life threatening decisions.
2006-11-20 09:15:11 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh confident. This music has been around for an exceedingly long term, and that i think of it's going to be one to pass from era to era. that's totally genuine all of us learn plenty from love and it does injury yet in addition can experience stable too.
2016-10-04 04:06:35 · answer #4 · answered by huenke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never take a permanent solution to a temporary situation. Good luck
2006-11-19 22:25:00 · answer #5 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an old saying but it is true: It is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.
2006-11-19 22:23:02 · answer #6 · answered by devil's advocate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait and See in couple of years you will think differently good luck
2006-11-19 22:31:54 · answer #7 · answered by R P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love hurts but still a beautiful feeling.
Dont worry for your love story...its a saying .".If you love someone let him go.if he comes back to you he'll be always urs ,if not he has never been.."
Peace
2006-11-19 22:38:52 · answer #8 · answered by Mysterious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love does not hurt.
2006-11-19 22:39:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yah it hurts alot, if u really love tht person..
if nothg is happeng, forget it, an dchange ur self//
b happy
2006-11-19 23:12:12 · answer #10 · answered by sunflower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋