Have you seen how people who have long relationships before they marry eventually get bored withe each other? Well I imagine when you get married at some point you become bored with your partner.
Those who are married please mention how long it took you to get bored with your hubby/wife and what you did about it. Does sex become routine?
2006-11-19 20:53:05 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is what you make of it......if you get boring she is gonna get bored with you. If you one of those people who gets stuck in a rut and likes routine,,,,,,,,,shes gonna get bored, If you never want to do new things etc........its gonna get awfully boring. I don't feel there is ever an excuse for being in a stale mate.
2006-11-19 20:58:25 · answer #1 · answered by WitchTwo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I guess you would have to ask everyone's definition of bored.
I get more frustrated than bored with my husband. There's also a longing for the " zing" that we felt when we were first dating.. but that isn't really meant to last forever. That's just the excitment of meeting someone new.
A marriage is something both have to "work" at. Like a second job. You both have to keep the marriage interesting and at the same time there has to be stability.
It's not easy to always find a way to agree and compromise and trust and forgive and love someone, but that's what a marriage is. It's giving all you have and doing all you can to make you and that person you swore was the most perfect person for you happy and healthy and safe.
Long, happy, healthy lives full of love and laughter are all we can hope for... everything else doesn't mean that much. Don't wait until you loose someone that really means everything to you and you just don't remember why.
Find the reason why. Look at them through the eyes of when you were dating :
really think about these words : don't kiss me like we're married, kiss me like we're lovers ...
2006-11-19 21:26:50 · answer #2 · answered by Kris17 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I dated for 2 years before we got married. We've been married for 17 years and I've never been bored. We are both best friends, we do things together, try new things and have a good relationship and lots of friends. Sex is hardly routine, because any relationship is work. Like everything else in life you get what you put into it. If you are out there living life and doing things together and apart, changing and growing as life comes at you why would you get bored? I think people who get bored are people who sit back and expect things to happen, guess what they won't! You have to make things happen and you can't do that sitting on your .....
2006-11-19 21:14:47 · answer #3 · answered by Guinness Guy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The "honeymoon" portion of a marriage usually wears off in about a year, and then everyone settles into their routine tasks of the marriage.
Of course sex can become routine, but it is up to the marital partners to fan the flames. And marriage takes work as does any partnership. When new and different factors enter the marriage, like children, the partners must now continue their committment to the partnership and learn to work as a team.
Sadly, a good many people do not follow through on their dedication to the marriage and when they hit a road block they go their separate ways instead of combining efforts and working through the issues.
The "7 year itch" also seems to be a real phenomena, and many people choose to "duck and run" as opposed to re-examining their committment to the marriage.
Peace.
2006-11-19 21:01:53 · answer #4 · answered by -Tequila17 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Of course, you are going to get answers all over the map.
We have been married over 17 years, knew each other for three before that, and dated for two of those.
Not bored yet, neither one of us, and we don't expect to be.
Here is the main reason we have come to understand: we are very different from each other. Though we share the most basic of values, morals, religion, and cultural heritage, on the rest of things, we couldn't be more opposite. I think that's the key to having things always be interesting and not boring ever. I am humanities/social sciences/psych. leaning, whereas he is a scientific/mathematical/practical kind of guy.
And sex NEVER gets routine when you love each other deeply! You've got to experience a very long term relationship to understand!
2006-11-19 22:49:28 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the motivations behind. If they marry just only for fun and romance, it'll not take a longer time to divorce. Family life is not always having fun and romance those you can find in romance movies.
Many things should be prepared well for develop family life. Loving care, responsibility, sharing and consequences of different habits among couple should be concerned before get married. The best that can be done is to find the similarities of the couple and live with them. And be patients of spouse's differences and try to adapt with them.
And sex is a little part of family life, actually. Sex just to make family life fresher and more fun beside a lot of family problems to be solved. The routinized sex is depending of each couple to decide. No ideal pattern for each couple to be followed.
2006-11-19 22:38:04 · answer #6 · answered by eddy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got bored with him when the TV became his nightime companion. I'd lay there sometimes til one o'clock in the morning waiting for him to touch me, before I gave up and went to sleep. I'd go for up to three months without a hug, kiss or sex. This was a little over a year into the marriage. We have been married for 13 years now.
I've learned the hard way, if you expect nothing, you won't be disappointed.
2006-11-20 01:34:26 · answer #7 · answered by :-) literary cappy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i've got been married 4 years and that i'm not bored. Relationships exchange. there is not the preliminary exhilaration there exchange into as quickly as we first have been married, yet we've a deeper bond now. We understand one yet another's needs greater valuable, and we nonetheless comedian tale around and snort and talk only as plenty if no greater beneficial than as quickly as we first have been married.
2016-10-22 10:00:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm on my 2nd marriage. But at 48 and going on 25 years with this one. Learned one good thing 2nd time around. If I'm bored I must be boring. Sex routine? Can be. Again. Look in the mirror. This is stuff you can change. If you do s/he will too. Try this.
http://www.marriagemax.com/tele-boot-camp.a
2006-11-19 21:11:00 · answer #9 · answered by outdone 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Since my wife and I were virgins at our wedding night, we're still having a great time sexually with each other. Since ours was an arranged marriage, I haven't gotten bored with her even after all these years and kids...because there's always something surprising that I discover in her and she in me. We're still in love and very much attached to each other so I'm all for no premarital sex and short relationships before marriage.
2006-11-19 20:58:54 · answer #10 · answered by DrSH 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋