We have 2 children and I dont feel any romance with her. Is that normal and real?
2006-11-19 20:45:33 · 20 answers · asked by itsme 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It depends on the sexual drives of both of you. If both of you are happy with it, then yes, it is normal. If, however, it bothers you and you are not satisfied, then things are not normal, and you need to let your wife know about it, so both of you can find the way to make things work.
2006-11-19 20:54:50 · answer #1 · answered by OC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
UM Yes I am afraid so. I think that as we grow together we become more like sister and brother. But lets face it, there is more to marriage than just sex.
If you want to try and put the spark back into your life then remember a few vital things.
Women like to be cuddled without it leading to sex!!
Women also like to lie in bed and snuggled in all nice and safe, with out having a ***** stuck in there back. (not attractive)
Make an effort to find out how her day was.
Help around the house and with the kids.
Arrange some couple time, take her out for a meal. Buy her a surprise to tell her how much you appreciate her.
But just because you do, dont presume you will get sex, leave it to her to make the moves and I think you will find, that she will feel more attracted to you.
The other thing is in ottakars they have a book that has 100 things to do in bed. Buy this and as the pages are sealed an you chose one each ( one male) (one female) maybe that will put the edge back in your relationship. Good luck.
2006-11-19 20:56:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I was checking through all the answers and I liked "Bee's" answer the most. i.e. ..... welcome to ...."married life".
Well, I am not married (a bachelor) and I think its much better than a married man's life. Being single means more freedom. No offence towards married men though.
After nine yrs of marriage with 2 children ...once a month is probably OK. One reason why a man may not feel romantic towards his spouse is that either her figure is out of shape or she is no longer as attractive as before.
Anyway take care pal.
2006-11-19 23:18:23 · answer #3 · answered by shankd67 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not normal , better you start taking care both of your health by eating regular all the three meals / start morning walk with some jogging and light exercise & some meditation , tell your wife pl do stop arguing / nagging / complaining and maintain a good neat and clean house & she must recieve you in the evening with charming smile with some drink . I am sure you will get new but old fire & spark in your life .
2006-11-19 23:16:19 · answer #4 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What people consider normal and what is acceptable are often two different things........I would never tolerate such infrequent sexual contact....but then you stated that you don't feel any romance with her........what are you doing to create that romance? Don't you think you are responsible too, have you talked to her about it? Maybe she is tired......maybe she is upset that she is doing a lot for the home and family and your not....perhaps its the opposite. You will never know if you don't sit down and discuss it. She has a marital obligation she is not fullfilling.
2006-11-19 20:53:18 · answer #5 · answered by WitchTwo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, no it is not normal,but at one time it sounds like things were better for you, with 2 kids obviously you and your wife were having sex. Is it you or her that doesn't want the intimacy? Maybe a marriage counselor can help you.
2006-11-19 20:52:07 · answer #6 · answered by txflowerblossom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is normal.sexual relationship is not the only factor but one of the factors which makes u feel satisfied in a relationship.there should be a lot of understanding,love,respect and care.have you tried going out for a vacation where you get to spend a lot time with each other.this will help to bring the spark back
2006-11-19 20:56:49 · answer #7 · answered by dhwani b 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most women lose interest in sex because they have never had a real orgasm. Read the book A mans guide for sex. you can find it on mens health magazine website. good luck. alot of really good useful tools in there things you would have never known.
2006-11-20 03:33:47 · answer #8 · answered by tigerbaby322006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not normal at all she may harbour a desire or feel negleted,position ur self in her place with totall honesty,u will get d answer,my advice,take a break leave d kids in d care of someloved ones,go 4 a weekend 2 a totall strange'n'new place it shall definately ignite passion'n'romance if u had or have any!!!!!!!!!!11
2006-11-19 21:04:42 · answer #9 · answered by simm 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is not any min or max. It relies upon on d companions. 2/thrice an afternoon is astounding. oftentimes after d early days of marriage couples have interaction in intercourse on a longtime 2 or thrice in a week.
2016-11-25 20:54:19 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋