My problem is I am scared to get a divorce...consequences may be bad esp in India?

Answer 1

Divorce is not at all a happy experience. Your identity is not clear but 'libido' being a woman has answered as if you are a female. But in case of males also a divorcee is always looked down upon by a closed society, with askance. Unless, it is on the point of no return, do not go for divorce. Reconciliation is a better step. Social consequences is a pretext you are citing; but actually you are scared of the obvious. You know very well, how much you have contributed for the situation to develop to the current level. Contain your own ego and try to repair the damage at your level. Rest will take care of itself. Please excuse me for being harsh.

Answer 2

The key to your decision lies in how bad your situation in marriage is. I am an Indian too from a pretty conservative family. Yet, I believe that if there is no hope of compromise and marriage is physically or mantally abusive, counseling has already been tried, then a woman should get the divorce and move to a metropolitan city perhaps where people are more open-minded, and try to start a new life.

Answer 3

U have nothing to fear except fear itself. If U have reached the point of no return, it is better that U cut your loses and let go, Yes societal stigma may B there especially in small cities. But mental torture is 100 times worse than social stigma. So if all other avenues R exhausted, take the bold step & go for the divorce.

Answer 4

yes you are right. a divorced woman is not treated well by the society in India. there is always a social stigma attached to a divorced woman in India. but that should not be a cause to prevent you from taking a wise decision whether to separate from your husband.you tell your problem to your parents and well wishers if they amicably solve it, you need not go for divorce. you did not mention the reasons for going to the extent of seeking divorce. if you are in a city or a big town consult a counselor and seek his/her professional advice. if possible, both you and your husband take counsel ling.

Answer 5

If you need a divorce bcoz you dont think you can love your partner anymore then its ok its your right as well as that of your partner as both of you deserve to be with the person you love. but if you are taking a divorce becoz some one suggested that you should then its absolutely wrong.
similarly, not going for a divorce for the fear of the society will be very stupid thing to do. first be happy yourself and then think about making the people around you happy.

Answer 6

Question is not giving enough info for others to judge i.e. why do you want a divorce? Does your spouse mistreat you? He/she is not physiaclly attarctive? His/her intellectual level is not upto your mark, you think?

Hence, a simple yes or no is not possible on your question.

However, I feel, if you are conducting yourself same way as your question is i.e. not giving enough and clear signals to others that you are unhappy and for what reasons, then problem might be lying with you as well.

Think, communicate and try to resolve first.

Answer 7

Are you going to live your life unhappy because of potential consequences? I know tradition is hard to fight.....but, it is your life. If you have done all you can do to make the marriage work (such as couples therapy).....then cut your losses and end the marriage.....be sure to protect yourself financially.....she has the upper hand with american courts.

Answer 8

run away. I've heard about those divorces in India

Answer 9

That's what happens when people are forced into a marriage instead of being aloud to marry the person they love.

Answer 10

well...if you don want the marriage just end it. you gotta be brave honey, tell yourself is the life u wanna lead for the rest of ur life
if NOT than take your sari high up and run as fast as you can....
migrate to other city
best go other country
disappear from his patethic life
GO GO GO...!!!
the moment you procrastinate you are done!!!!