What is a good bedtime for 14& !6 yr old girls? (the 14 is emotionally about 11, and the 16 is about 21, so?

Question

so it seems). I've chosen 9:30 during school, and unlimited during the weekend, yet I prefer to see them in bed by 11pm on weekends.

Answer 1

First of all the younger girl will need more sleep in order to be able to function properly during the day (explain to her that she is still growing and her body has more need for sleep as when she's asleep that is the time most of growing is happening). The older one doesn't need as much sleep and is at the stage of becoming an adult and should be able to decide on her own considering she has more responsibilites ie. homework, chores, etc. But I have found that if you set a time for them to be in bed (especially for the younger one) not necessarily asleep just getting them to unwind from the day as part of relaxing it helps them in the long run.

Answer 2

I would approach this problem differently. If your 16 year old is tired in the morning... then she needs to get to sleep earlier. Same with your 14 year old. They need different amounts of sleep to stay healthy.

Teens need about 8.5 to 9.25 hours a sleep each night to function best. Only about 15% of teens actually get this. Teens that have irregular sleep patterns may affect their ability to learn, listen, and concentrate. Worse still is that it makes you prone to pimples since skin repair generally occurs while you sleep. Sleep deprivation is also linked to weight gain.

As for how to wrestle them into compliance -- appeal to their sense of beauty. They'll look and feel better. It's actually in THEIR best interest.

As for a strict bedtime... there are always exceptions... but, work out something like a "sleep bank". If you're short one night... try to make it up some other night. It's hard to prescribe a reasonable bedtime since I don't know when they have to get up. If they get up at 6 AM, then they really need to get to bed around 9:30-10PM. If they get up at 5 AM, then they need to go to bed earlier.

Answer 3

10 to 10:30 always worked for me through my entire teen years. When I got a little bit older like junior and senior years in high school, my parents wouldn't make it so strict because they knew sometimes I needed to stay up late for homework or to wind down from a busy day. But, if they noticed that I wasn't waking up so well in the morning or I was always taking long naps in the afternoon, they got a little less lenient and waited awhile until they let me stay up later again.

11 on weekends is a little early - especially for the 16 year old. 12 - 1 is a decent time (or if they are doing something with you and you are staying up, let them stay up as well), but make sure they get up at a decent hour or Sunday so they can still get to bed at a good time on Sunday night to be ready for school on Monday.

Answer 4

um... as far as bed time think about this ur 16 yr old is 2 years from being 18 a legal adult. you cant really force her to go to bed at 930 most teens dont wind down till 11-12. make sure shes in bed by 12. the teen will most likely not fall asleep at 930 but instead feel like she has no room to be a young adult. talk it over with her. as long as grades and attitude dont suffer to much , see what your teen is captable of doing.. the 14 year old shouldnt be allowed to stay up past 11.


i am going to bed :D - getting tired!

Answer 5

14 should be asleep by 10pm and the 16 year old should not be told when to go to sleep because she is nearly an adult and might like reading or studying later in the evening. If it is necessary to choose a bedtime for the 16 year old I would say 11:30pm .

Answer 6

Well this is how my mother did it with me and my four sisters after 10 she didn't give us a bed time we went to sleep when we wanted to but we still had to go to school on time and when we camehome from school of course we wold want a nap but she woldn't let us go to sleep and see the they'llset thier own bed time of like 10 becuase they'll sleep through the whole nigth and come home and around 9:30 they will just naturally get tired and go to sleep on thier own. My 14 year old sister puts herself in bed everynight at 10 it makes it easier on her as she learned.

Answer 7

I talked to my teen. We talked about how many hours of sleep is healthy for her. They need at least 8 hours. But if they are not tired, they should at least have a quiet time - reading listing to music.
When she comes home and looks tired, I say she should think about getting a hours more sleep, she reacts like a grown up and says yes.
Now I am not saying it always goes good, but explaining the importance of good sleep helps. That is needed for the brain, good figure, and a healthier looking face. The weekends I kept open, unless we had to get up next day. I thought she might be up all hours, but no. I sometimes go into her room on the weekend to say its time, and shes fast asleep.
I told my daughter that she has the responsibilaty for her sleeping, but I as a mother have to tell her when it seems that she needs alittle more sleep. And now she sometimes tells me to get more sleep because i am looking tired.
Hope it helps.

Answer 8

10:00 PM for the 14 year old, unless it is a special occasion or exception for weekends/holidays, and a good idea for the 16 year old is to have her stop using the computer/tv/phone etc. by 11 PM to encourage her to go to bed before midnight.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

I have a 6 and a 13 year old.....My 6 year old goes to her room at 9:00......My 13 year old is usually in his room ALL night...lol....But he has not had a bedtime in 3 years or longer.....The rule at my house is as long as you get up in the morning WITHOUT being grouchy.....I really don't care when they go to bed.....If they are grouchy.....Then my 6 year old gets to go to her room and hour earlier for one night.....My 13 year old has to have the TV off early for the following night.......I really don't have any problems.....My kids are pretty good at knowing when they are tired and going to sleep when they need to......Try it and see if yours is responsible enough to listen to their own body and see how it works....They like the sense of Independence it gives them too.....