why are teenagers full of attitude?

Question

my daughter has terrible attitude she is 16

Answer 1

We don't mean to be.
Being a teenager is hard work man.
School, teachers, parents, and friends are all expectations you have to live up to. Most teens are still trying to find who they are, or who they want to be. We're constantly being pressured to know everything at this age (what we want to do in life etc), when we're still kids.

Most teens try to impress everyone as well. I don't but if you added that to the equation it becomes a lot to handle. You feel like your parents are constantly pressuring you, your teachers are constantly pressuring you, and then there's the bitchy girls at school you have to deal with.

Most teenagers don't know how to handle situations very effectively, and most get stressed easy.

That's why we're full of attitude.

Answer 2

The obvious things are hormones and the fact that they have reached an age where they can see through adults, in particular their parents, who they previously had on pedestals..It's a bittersweet realisation that parents are not always correct, which empowers them to question just about anything ,if they are so inclined.
many teens do not communicate with their own parents and so often a parent may not know something which is bothering them . to them their romantic emotions and friendships are not always taken as being real emotions ,which keeps them silent.

yes some parenting may be faulty, but kids also see how their friends communicate with their parents or others and will try their luck.
they are at a difficult time where they want acceptance from their peers, they are materialistic which basically makes them feel the world is not a fair place where they don't get their way all the time. they do need to learn some responsibilities,which should have started when they were younger and more keen to please their parents.
it's not fair to paint all teens with the same brush , and they are aware of the general opinion .
personally , and I know this debatable, I think that by making 16 the cutoff age for compulsory school ,contributes to the problem. kids that are 15 going on for 16 think that they are nearly finished school and that they are full fledged adults . the extra 2 years will definitely make a difference to thier maturity.they are allowed to grow up too quickly by thinking 16 is adulthood. They should be treated as apprentice adults .

Answer 3

Teenagers are "full of attitude" now because they are in this rebellious stage where they do not want to listen to what anyone tells them to do. That is very understandable. They are almost adults, but that's the key word: ALMOST. They want to do things by themselves without someone giving them rules and they want more independence of their own. But having "full of attitude" within can be good. That is a sign you are mature and you are ready to be your own person. The world would be a boring place if everyone just acted the same.

Answer 4

It happens in other species too.
My daughter and I used to watch the seagulls at the pier and throw them french fries, which they love. If you throw a fry to an adult bird, there is some competition from others, but basically it's fine. If you throw one to a fledgling (you can tell by the dark plumage), fine. But if you throw a fry to an adolescent (plumage half juvenile, half adult), all the adults converge on it and have a collective hissy fit.
As outsiders to the species, we couldn't see what the problem was that the adults got so upset. But as a human mother, I can see the problem with my teen daughter very well!
I'm told that they grow out of this offensive developmental phase, just like the seagulls.

Answer 5

i wish we could put it down to hormones which sometimes is part of the problem but dont forget at the teenage age they r just finding out their identity who they really r and how far they can push u but also if they feel like they r being treated like a child they tend to act like 1. when i was 16 i was the same i thought the world was against me and i thought i knew it all oh how i was wrong !!!!

Answer 6

Homones, hormones, hormones.it's tough to be sixteen, all those emotions....as long as she is not disrespectfull to you, it will pass. Girls just seem to have a harder time than boys. She just needs you to be there for her, listening and supporting is the best thing you can do for her at this time. Good Luck

Answer 7

Like quite a few others you probably didn't teach her to respect others strongly enough as she was growing up (dont react!!) or she maybe thinks that the people she disrespects have stupid ideas.
Ask her to verbalise her feelings and discuss them with her. Agree where you feel she may have a point and put an alternative point of view forward if you dont.

Answer 8

Because she discovered that she can have one. It's normal that a teenager would her parents for limiting her action. Don't react and try to be her friend.

Answer 9

hormones! one minute ther UP the next ther downnn.Cant blame them really! but its hard to be understanding when ther so ARGHHHH and slamming doors! try to be on a good vibe with your daughter,some people make the mistake trying to be ther childs 'friend' make sure she knows whose boss but you can also be fun to be around and she can always talk to you.Good luck!

Answer 10

Cos they are full of messed up hormones they are to old for toys and to young for boys they are testing boundaries
I tell mine to leave home now whilst they still know it all