how can i stop being sad?

Question

i seem to get really sad all the time...went to see a conceller a while ago and she said that i am not depressed or anything because ppl who are depressed are really just angry and turn the anger inwards...i dont think im angry about anything or at myself...so why do i keep feeling sad? i think its a mixture of stresses from school, work, friends, family, boys, body image...just everything i guess...i just cant stop feeling sad and that just makes me even sadder...my mum is always asking me if im depressed and i always tell her that im fine...i just dont really know what to do :-(

Answer 1

well i kinda know how that feels, been in that situation many many times, still kinda gets like that too, school stresses me out and so does my family, all u need to know is keep ur cool, just know that u have family that love and adore u, and as for body image and stuff sure everyone has that

but what i feel bothers u most, is the fact that u feel u are depressed and u wonder why, just go out there and think about what u have the good things in life that many people dont really have that u are lucky to have.. we live only once honey!

boys come and go, trust me they aint worth ur time if they dont get to know the real u, u need to be happy and thats all that matters...ur not depressed ur just going thru a phase so dont let any one tell u ur depressed coz ur not aite :)

just take ur time and figure out what may be bothering u and work on it, sure it'll take time, but im sure ull be alot happier coming out of it dont ya?

Answer 2

what your counsellor said acutally sounds off. Anger is a secondary emotion, therefore there must be underlying emotions in order for you to feel angry. Such as hurt or sadness. Yes, anger can be turned inward, but from what you have written you don't seem angry and you said you don't feel that way.

It is possible that it's depression. Depression is defined as long periods of feeling sad/down. Often people who are depressed sleep more often, have changes in their appetite, lack energy, cry often, feel less motivated to do things.....
In the DSM, the criteria for depression includes 2 or more epsidodes of depression.

Every emotion we, as people, experiance is there to tell us something. Emotions don't just happen. There has to be a reason for what you are feeling, one that you might just not know.
Imagine that someone kicked you....you would feel pain and your nereves would be like "ouch...pain". If no one kicked you, your nerves aren't going to tell you that you're in pain, because their is no reason. It's the same thing with emotions. I
t could take a while to figure out what's bothering you and that's ok. You may find it beneficial to see another therapist to try and track down the root of what is truly bothering you.

To help you when you are down, try some distress tolerance skills. This includes distractions (t.v, being with friends, any activity that keeps you temporarliy distracted.), self-soothing (any thing that involves your five senses that helps you to relax and feel good about yourself)

These are just a couple of many, many skills used. They really work if you let them. You may also want to talk to a doctor and consider the option of taking a low dose anti-depressant or mood stabilizer. Being sad all the time is no fun, you should not have to feel that way constantly. I have been there and it is horrible.

Good luck, I hope some of this helps.

Answer 3

Change your way of understanding the life. Try to love everything and everyone, as much as you can, for every good they have and do not consider about their bad side. Also don't thing a lot about yourself not even a little. Try caring first and always for the people that surround you and if you manage it, take some time to care about your problems. Loving everyone except you will give you a great happiness!

Answer 4

Stacy I understand completely. My dog also died 3 months ago and I too am still grieving. Time will help and so will a memory box. I made a memory box of with my dog's collar and lead and the special toys she liked. I have some photos of her in the box and a large photo of her on the top of the box. I have her ashes and a framed photo of her on a small table in my bedroom. I keep fresh flowers on the table to honor her memory. I'm of no help to you in advising you how to get over it but I wanted you to know that I understand. Our dogs were very much loved dogs and they are very much missed. One thing we still have is our love for them. That love is alive and well, in our hearts and it can't be taken away.

Answer 5

There's nothing in your life to make you happy. If you worked on it, you could figure out what it is that you need in order to be happy. So try concentrating on that rather than on what's making you sad.

Answer 6

you sound like you are in a rut. you might want to find new people, new interests, new places to go, etc. you dont seem to be doing things that you really want to do. you might want to seek out new ways of looking at the world. :)

Answer 7

I know how u feel I'm always sad because I have A.I.D.S. and im goona die but all you have to do is what i do. Think about a happy place!

Answer 8

Become an alcoholic, when your blacking out, you won't feel depressed (or anything else for that matter!)

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