Her family told me I was no good. which I agree they never wanted upkeeping of the child and wanted me out of there lifes or else!I got on with my life and have 2 kids in my current relationship.The point is Is now there after me for her 2nd child which isnt mine and are saying its up to me to prove it.My present spouse is now thinking I have another child I hadnt told her about.Have I rights?Its 10 yrs later and they want thousands now!
2006-11-19 19:16:28 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
They both died when I was 12 so NO GOOD.CHEERS
2006-11-19 19:19:00 · update #1
Get a DNA test, and from there you will know more on what to do with your situation.
2006-11-19 19:18:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you cannot be the father of the second child, you have nothing to worry about. This why.......
For a start, a genetic DNA test would be conclusive, and would confirm the fact that you cannot be the father.
Secondly, THEY have to make the running, and not you, so if they want to take it to court, let them get on with it.
Thirdly, you place it in writing that you are NOT the father, and COULD NOT BE the father, but then agree to a DNA test to prove the facts.
At that p[oint, I suspect that they would take it no further.
The important thing is to be able to call the bluff of these bullies, and show them that you will stand up to their allegations.
If you receive further threats after writing such a letter, you would have a case for harrassment or intimidation, and may even be able to call the police.
Hope this helps.
PS: You were a very naughty boy!
PPS: You do NOT need to take legal advice at this stage. THEY would have to start any proceedings before you need to spend money on legal advice.
2006-11-19 23:12:43 · answer #2 · answered by musonic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only presumption in law when it comes to paternity is that a child born to married parents is the child of the husband. That's when the man is required to prove that he isn't. Otherwise, this is a complete try-on and it is for the woman concerned to bring any evidence to court to prove that you are the father and if you're not, she will probably get cold feet when it comes to DNA testing, as she can be pretty certain that the tests will show that you're not the father, which will be utterly humiliating for her. Just leave things as they are and she'll probably back down: otherwise, go along with it all and offer a blood test if they require it, just to prove that she's wrong.
As far as your wife is concerned, this is more difficult. Even if you prove you're not the father, it won't allay her suspicions that there's no smoke without fire. Just be frank with her and show that you are prepared to go along with the DNA tests, if matters go that far, to prove that your not the father, but tell her that you haven't had any dealings with the other woman since that early business ten years ago and that it really is all a try-on. She'll want to believe you.
2006-11-19 21:43:11 · answer #3 · answered by Doethineb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't answer this from a legal point of view, sorry!!!
But what a nerve she has .... Are you absolutely sure you are not the dad?
MAybe you should take a dna test and then find a way to sue them for suffering and mental stress/trouble in relationship or something.
I mean was she sleeping around at the time the second kid was conceived or something ??
Why do they think you are the father ?
As for the first child, I hope you have a way to prove that they didnt want upkeeping ...
GOOD LUCK!!!!!
Sorry I couldnt really help
2006-11-19 19:22:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you look at the legal side of this, I would think the mother would have to prove you are the father. This would require a DNA test to prove paternity. I dont think you would have to pay for this and only a court of law can demand you submit for testing, well, in Australia, it could be different where you live. Sounds like they are trying to bluff you into paying for the DNA test or think you will hand over the money if they harrass you enough. Is there any, I mean any possibility that you are the father? If so,it would be better to pay because the legal fees to fight this will be your cost if it is found the child is yours.
Good luck.
2006-11-19 19:22:34 · answer #5 · answered by kate d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not fair, intelligent or morally right.You sired a child you could not provide for nor did you care for it at any time. A parent is supposed to be there for the child, you were not. A parent is to set the example for the child.What example could you provide? Your present relationship seems to be going under and since you don't mention the mother of the first child you couldn't be deeply in love with her which indicates what your relationship with her was. Be fair, don't show your face around your child. It's life has been hard enough already. That's another indicator, you never spoke of the child's sex. You really bonded with the kid,right?
2006-11-19 19:37:58 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offence, but what were you thinking when you were getting it too serious with a 17 year old when you were 15?!!! Didn't you know about birth control? Anyway, I think your best bet will be DNA testing, if it doesn't match to the kid, the kid is not yours. And afterall, if you didn't see the girl for 10 years and now after she got her 2nd kid, they want money out of you, they are jerks.
Sorry to say but there are people like that. Get a lawer too, like some sugested. And talk to your wife and explain to here what happed, how it happened, just be honest with her. If you were loyal to her and never cheated, or was suspicious in any way to her, then she should understand.
2006-11-19 19:31:14 · answer #7 · answered by Desert Rat 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It will be up to the mother to prove paternity,if she is wanting support. She maybe saying your the father to make her self look better...2- children,1-man. It's really her reputation that on the line. Shock everyone & go to the local health dept for free paternity test. When you prove your not the childs father, then shock her my going to legal aid requesting cusdity of the child you had at 15 yrs of age. This woman is unstable regardless of what her family thinks.
2006-11-19 19:27:29 · answer #8 · answered by LCee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do a paternal test and explain to your spouse that it is not possible for you to have had another child and that you would prove it to her by the test results and do get hold of a good lawyer coz you would need one to advice before you take any rational steps.
2006-11-19 19:28:03 · answer #9 · answered by Jessiefer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay the relationship with her at 15 & 17 is not right...
All you have to do is get a court to order a DNA test. If you really aren't the father then you have nothing to worry about.
2006-11-19 19:19:32 · answer #10 · answered by Wicked Good 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The CSA will dictate what you do or don't owe as far as upkeep. They won't make you pay for a child which you say is not yours and she will have to prove otherwise if she wants maintenance.
2006-11-19 22:30:46 · answer #11 · answered by Skippy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋