I used to date this guy I met in AIT. It didn't quite work out so now we keep in touch. Lately, he's been getting into trouble, smoking alot of pot, dropping out of school. He didn't do any of those things when I was with him. He sent me an email saying that he misses me and that he still loves me. He called and sounded really pitiful. I told him there is nothing that I would rather be doing than hugging and kissing him. So, whats the problem you ask? I'm pregnant with someone else's child and engaged to that someone else. My ex is not ready for a child(especially if it's not his) but he says he doesn't care. He still wants to try to work it out. Even though we tried once, I think we can do it. But I don't want to hurt my fiancee. On the other hand, I believe that if you love someone(mainly an ex), no other relationships work. What should I do?
2006-11-19 18:17:04 · 5 answers · asked by dtwnangel04 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I was on birth control and I'm not impulsive. But I love him so much and don't think that the marriage would work.
2006-11-19 18:24:15 · update #1
When we become mothers its not about us anymore ..stay with real father and it will be best for the child..stop all contact with your X..I stayed in a horrible marriage for the kids so im last person to be giving advice but the kids were better off ..now that they older well things are different(im divorcing him).. for you and the babys sake plz attend a favorite church and try your best not to think of the other person tell the babys father go 2 one attending usually never works ...plz if that guy smokes and hasnt a good job how good will he be for the baby ...understand when we bring life into the world we become responsible for their best No Matter What..good luck...
2006-11-19 18:28:55 · answer #1 · answered by dreamy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's called a "break up" because it's "broken" don't expect any real changes from previous tries, probably will be worse.
getting back very very rarely works in the long run especially if he's "getting in to trouble"
I suggest run from your ex and be thankful for what you have. And you are right your relationship with your fiancee won't work either if you are not committed. And you will hurt your fiancee no matter how hard you try not to.
2006-11-20 02:25:39 · answer #2 · answered by hogie0101 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is hard, r u in luv w/ ur fiancee? U should of closed the other chapter in ur life before u moved on now ur at risk of hurting someone else. Also do u actually think that another man is willing to raise another man's child? Ur ex doesn't have it all together, really think hard about what u want to do. Remember u have to think for u and ur baby.
2006-11-20 02:23:47 · answer #3 · answered by songbirdz03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eh. the other guys is already into trouble and smoking pot. Id stick with the real father.
2006-11-20 02:20:11 · answer #4 · answered by Cody B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't get pregnant until you know what you really want in life. You should get yourself on some birth control after you have that baby. Stop being so impulsive.
2006-11-20 02:20:25 · answer #5 · answered by amber n 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋