I'm 17, and sometimes I have to go into town to buy clothes or other items by myself. I feel nervous, like all eyes are on me, espesically when I see big groups of teenagers walking around, or couples holding hands. I know its stupid because the world obviously doesn't evolve around me, but I hate doing stuff alone, outside of my house. I can't even walk my dog down to the beach by myself because I get so self-conscious. What should I do?
2006-11-19 17:51:26 · 11 answers · asked by Steph :-) 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
it's revolve around you...not evolve. but cute, though. i laughed.
honey...get over it. you'll miss out on so much if your worried about doing things alone. and really, some things, like shopping are better and more productive if your alone.
or here's something you can try...make up a story with the end-point being that you're meeting someone. let's say you're meeting a friend for coffee, but you have some time to do some shopping first. or that you're a personal shopper or running an errand for a friend. or you're walking the dog on the beach and hooking up with your lifeguard boyfriend or something like that.
it's fun and it works on getting you out of the house and moving. try it!
2006-11-19 17:54:07 · answer #1 · answered by monkiegirl37 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I 100% mean this when I say: It's all in your head. Seriously, going to the mall, you may glimpse at a stranger - perhaps they are attractive, interesting looking or acting, whatever. But you forget about it and move on. You don't harbor any feelings about that person in your head. You don't remember them later. But think about it - there are maybe hundreds of people at the mall, many alone. Nobody notices. Nobody cares. Your normal.
You do exhibit signs of social anxiety. If you don't like something about yourself, change it, nothing's stopping you, really. But it's not easy. If you don't think your able to do that, there are things (like drugs, psychologists, etc) that can help. Nobody should have to feel uncomfortable for being themselves.
2006-11-19 18:17:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mind is powerful. Just walk imaging you're alone in this world; ignore everyone and do what you please. You're right, the world doesn't evolve around you. But if you still feel uncomfortable, stay at home watching a movie, reading a book or doing handcraft. Your feelings are part of your maturing process. Soon you will grow up and will stop to feel that way. If by your 20's you don't feel better, seek for professional help.
2006-11-19 18:00:07 · answer #3 · answered by Sory 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This sort of thing is very common and nothing to be concerned about as long as nobody was being forced or hurt. If there was a larger age gap, I'd be concerned but it is very common for siblings close in age to play doctor, explore, experiment, etc. Your brother probably doesn't even remember it.
2016-03-29 02:18:56 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're young. You just need a little experience at it. Take baby steps. It's possible you will never feel comfortable alone, if so it would be disappointing in the long run. Experiencing things alone gives you the opportunity to formed judgments independent of others. Good luck.
2006-11-19 18:01:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You and I have a thing called "social anxiety". Most people would tell you to see a psychologist, and get on Zoloft or something.I think that you are feeling rejected. I have over come this by realizing that it is not so much as I don't fit in with everybody as they don't fit on with me. You probably harbor who you truly feel inside, feeling that they wont except you.
2006-11-19 18:07:49 · answer #6 · answered by dumbblond 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get involved in something that's not about you. Volunteer at the senior center, read to the blind, go roller skating with the mentally challenged, sing songs to crack babies in the hospital, whatever. Find something that appeals to you that you can get into and focus on THAT, and you'll stop worrying about the rest.
2006-11-19 18:05:35 · answer #7 · answered by Its Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
still u r very young i will not tell u because you grownup now u increase your confidence and do not worry i think you feeling subconsciously for others of course they will look up you but you think they are looking up you good things not your bad things. to get confidence start to do yoga everyday.
2006-11-19 18:08:04 · answer #8 · answered by you 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not trying to burst any bubble here, but aside from the usual guys who look at girls anyway, no casual stanger really pays attention to you, or even sees you.
2006-11-19 17:56:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
simple answer:
dont be insecure and dont mind them. just think. I dont care if they are looking at me. i'm just enjoying myself to go shopping.
and that's it. you worry to much. just enjoy the outdoors. its very simple. everything to you is too complex. the world does not revolve to you.
2006-11-19 17:57:15 · answer #10 · answered by Ruth G 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋