how do u handle when your best friend dies?

Answer 1

I am so sorry for your loss and the suffering you are having to endure. Have you considered joining a bereavement group for those whose loved ones have died? Call a hospice and ask if they can refer you to such a group. You may find some much needed support there. I hope you find comfort and peace.

Answer 2

I went through it. You just somehow handle it.

First you have to get used to a whole new life without your friend. You kind of have to try to keep busy and try to find other friends to socialize with because even though it isn't the same as before, at least you're doing some socializing and using up time you would have otherwise spent alone.

You have to give yourself permission to laugh and have fun and move on. You need to remember that your friend would have wanted that for you.

You take it a day at a time and try to do new and different things rather than doing the same old kinds of things and being so aware that your friend isn't there now.

You tell yourself that everything happens for a reason.

You remind yourself that what you had with this friend was so special both of you were lucky to have had such a nice relationship.

If there are lessons to be taken from the death you learn them.

If there is wisdom to be gained you gain it.

You tell yourself that it is too painful to be thinking of your friend right now, get your mind on something else, and tell yourself you'll get back to thinking about the friend at some later time after you've done some healing.

You get up some fight and tell yourself that whatever it was that took your friend's life and took your friend from you will not take yet more from you.

You look at the road ahead of you, look around and see that for now you'll be moving on without your friend, gather up whatever it takes, and head on out alone - a little sadder, a little stronger, a little tougher.

Know that you'll be happy again sooner than you think you will.

Remind yourself that there are people who go through life without ever having such a good relationship with a friend.

Answer 3

We lost one of our best friends many years ago. He died unexpectedly of a heart attack.

We talk about him all of the time, remenicse about all the good times we had together and what a great guy he was.

I believe the best way to handle losing a best friend is to celebrate that person's life -

Answer 4

My friend died 20 years ago this year..I never got to go to the funeral or see the body. Part of me always doubted he was dead...This last year I got to go visit his grave. I have cried every since that day. almost a year ago. We were to be married. Life continues though...I wish I had died with him but since I didn't I have to live each day. I cry and think about him a lot but life has to continue. I lost my son 6 years ago..Same process but I have to live everyday to the fullest. I do believe that's what they both would tell me if they were allowed to come back for 1 day... (of course, then I would go with them) You will feel sad, angry, cry...cry all you want. YOu will bargain God to bring your friend back and you will do anything for him. Therapy is helping me but I still cry over them..I am very lonely and I miss them both so much but the world can't stop..it has to keep going..Sorry I have to end this, I am crying.

Answer 5

One of my friends drowned, and my best friend was hit by a garbage truck while I was walking with him to school. I was sad about my first friend drowning, but am grateful that my other friend is still alive, albeit paralyzed, but regardless. Much worse could have happened, and I share your pain... As for the length of the sorrow, "Time heals most wounds, but some leave scars..."
Michael Hilweh

Answer 6

Surround yourself with people you love--mom, dad, sisters, brothers, other friends. Also, you might look into grief counseling. It helps to talk things out with people who are not involved in your life. Just someone to listen and offer advice. Just try to remember the good things about your friend and remember the funny things. Laughter is the best medicine. You'll never get over it, but you will learn to deal.

Answer 7

well there are many ways that someone can deal with such a terrible thing. Don't try to deal with it on your own, see atleast some kind of counsler atleast twice..and talk about how you feel and the things that you are going through...some good coping stragities are finding a way to express your feelings through a hobby or activities and not shutting yourself out...lean on your family and friends to help get you through these troubled times.

Answer 8

Read a book called embraced by the life it talks about life after death and what happens When I realized this is not the end and love does not end at the grave that it is stronger than in this life I may miss them but do not feel sorry for them anymore .helps you to endure.to know that they will always be with you.

Answer 9

I'm not sure.. But dont try to forget what has happened because thats just meaning your not a very good friend because if you just try to move on in life trying to forget then eventually it will all fall back on ya. im not saying dont move on. im just saying still keep him or her close and dont forget. and dont try to replace the person because everyone is different and yeah...

Answer 10

Very badly for a long time. Time will help and remember they are still there with you for ever and ever. All you have to do is sit down, and think and they are there.