i consider myself bisexual but i tend to fall in love with women but on the other hand i am more sexually attracted to men. (no people that say you shouldnt worry about labels. labels define who you are.)
2006-11-19 17:29:22 · 10 answers · asked by n9i9r9v9a9n9a9 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
There is a scale called the Kinsey scale to measure your sexual level of attraction to both gender. It also might be that you have some issues to resolve. I have been in relationship with both. Society find it more acceptable for men to go out with women. You might just want to please your family and friends. You are the only one who knows. Seeking counseling is a great solution to find some clarity.
2006-11-19 18:37:06 · answer #1 · answered by JPR D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, that's tough. So (to clarify): you feel more emotionally attracted to women, but more sexually attracted to men? Well, I'm a lesbian, so I can't give you a bisexual's viewpoint. But hopefully this might help. Are you not attracted to women sexually at all, and vice versa with men? If there's grey areas on both sides, then that sounds like bisexual to me. Just trust your instincts--I think that's your best guide. When you meet the right person, you'll be attracted both ways to him/her.
As a lesbian, I'm not attracted sexually at all to men--the idea of sex with men feels gross/weird (but I understand that it's not like that for others). I'm not attracted to them emotionally either, though occasionally I'll enjoy hanging out with them as friends. But then, it feels more like a brother-sister relationship to me. So for me, it's a pretty black/white situation. I don't know, but I thought hearing what being a lesbian is like from someone who identifies herself as a lesbian might help clarify things for you. Hope this helps!
2006-11-20 01:46:28 · answer #2 · answered by kacey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O.K., I know we should not worry with labels but it seems that you need to work through issues to define your own self so you can be more complete in the way you are feeling.
My recommendation is to work through your feelings with a counselour or Psychologist, I think that an impartial question session or 2 can help one see what answers they need to find in themselves.
2006-11-20 01:45:48 · answer #3 · answered by southernboy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, labels do not define who you are...they can put you in a box that you can't grow out of. You be you and enjoy your life!
2006-11-20 01:32:03 · answer #4 · answered by evemarkra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
n9i9r9v9a...,
I thik that us male bisexuals have many problems. We are non committal by being men, yet that is times ten if we are bi men.
I would waith until you knew yourself better to place any value on any relationship enough to "fall in love."
If you are young, I think that a part of that is because you are young. Later on, you will settle down. Relationships that are 'mature' are better.
2006-11-20 01:36:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to find a she-male, just kidding, unless you want to do that. I have no idea what you can actually do, try to find man that you can connect to emotionally or a woman you can connect to sexually, or perhaps a man who acts like what you consider a stereotypical woman. Good luck.
2006-11-20 01:44:39 · answer #6 · answered by Rageling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh wow
i went thru the EXACT same thing for so long...
you should read up on g0ys.. (with a zero) my friend sent me the link today...read ALOT about it tho, cuz like with any subject you get alot of BS...i can give you the link he gave me...
good luck.
2006-11-20 02:26:43 · answer #7 · answered by pete 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a tantric therapist. They can help you find your libido with the female very effortlessly.
2006-11-20 01:38:54 · answer #8 · answered by splatterchew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to discover what events in your life screwed you up. Then work to exercise them from your head.
2006-11-20 01:40:31 · answer #9 · answered by chuck y 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You cna't have your cake and eat it too.
make a choice,. You cannot have it all !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-20 02:17:38 · answer #10 · answered by blackbird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋