large part of what contributes to people's happiness and mental well-being and health in general, however this is NOT my personal expereince. Family is often the source of stress, demands, burdens, and lack of freedom to be who one is, in peace, so unless one has a rare situation of unconditional and accepting love from family members, seems to me that it would be healthier to not have to deal with all the crap of judgements, etc. So, what atre your thoughts?
2006-11-19 16:55:40 · 10 answers · asked by Salsa 3 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
The idea is that FUNCTIONAL families contribute to happiness, well-being and health.
However, I'm not sure who came up with that theory because I have yet to meet a functional family.
2006-11-23 04:12:14 · answer #1 · answered by Voodoid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bottom line is that we don't choose our family, the way we choose our friends. Some people are blessed with parents and family members that they get along with. Some are not. And there are a whole lot of shades in between.
However, often we don't get a clear picture of our family until we are grown up. The reason is, that as young adults, we don't fully understand the reasons why our parents put demands and constraints on us. That's really the parents' fault, because they should be explaining and communicating. But it can also be the teenager's fault, because he/she refuses to listen.
2006-11-19 17:15:55 · answer #2 · answered by Kylie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Family is the greatest blessing one can be given. Family IS NOT, however, always the group you are born into. Some are lucky enough to find that perfect blend of people in their birth families; others make their own. My birth family can be very giving and will fight to the end when the chips are down but they suck sometimes on the day to day. My family of choice is there through thick and thin and I know that if I've had a bad day and just need to ***** or when I lost my mom and could no longer be the "strong" one, they were there.
Find your true family. You will know them when you see them.
Pax :)
2006-11-19 17:06:26 · answer #3 · answered by Nita C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must be very pissed off with your family about something...
anyway yes although there were many world wars in my family, and at times there seems to be no "peace" at home yet at the end of the day we are always there for each other though matter what. I have many many many happy memories of me and my siblings and parents. They accept who I am without being judgemental and critical. That is for my immediate family but as for my father's, they can never be together there is no such thing as a happy reunion. I guess it just depends on how well parents/kids communicate with each other and how much one is willing to give and take
2006-11-19 17:30:12 · answer #4 · answered by igottanoe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What helps defines a person are the challenges one faces emoitionally, intellectually, socially, spiritually and physically. The family is the source of these constant challenges. Yet at the same time, it is often the source of strength and love that we find to overcome these challenges. At the end of the day it is all worth it if we run the race faithfully.
2006-11-19 17:04:52 · answer #5 · answered by Dewdrop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the family. Parts of mine suck and I feel like maybe I was adopted. Then I meet people out there who are so family oriented and I feel like something must be wrong with me cuz I'd rather spend Thanksgiving with my dog than with my folks and my aunt fighting and making unnecessary comments about people's weight and then eventually talking about dead people. It's frustrating.
You know you could always make your friends your family. At least you get to pick them.
2006-11-19 17:06:41 · answer #6 · answered by Suni J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We choose our parents and families to incarnate through as souls because this particular set of parents would match perfectly our soul’s needs to grow and move ahead on its journey to perfection, so every imperfection that we can spot in our family is exactly the thing we came here to over come. That way our parents are not just the living examples of our life lessons are but also they are its constant reminders as well.
They collectively represent the possibilities of where life can go wrong and right for us, if we are careful enough to learn from their lives we can take our lives ahead using theirs as a spring board rather than chain that keep us from claiming our destiny.
Simply put, they are the flower bed we chose to grow into. The lessons were ours and so were the blocks of fear and also karma we need to clear up with and through the, they are not just the providers of our life, but also of the toughest lessons of life we need to understand in this life time, that way they are our biggest allies as souls.
Whatever we dislike in them and through our association with them represents exactly the soul journeys we need to undertake while we are here, so making peace with them no matter what the face we might see on them is the first step towards self healing.
2006-11-19 17:24:24 · answer #7 · answered by Abhishek Joshi 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes my family just bug the h*** out of me, sometimes I love them with all my heart, but all in all I will always love them because they are the family I was born into
2006-11-19 18:12:55 · answer #8 · answered by anna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on your age. The older you get, the more you value your family and you realize that all of that "crap", in the end, never mattered.
2006-11-20 02:05:58 · answer #9 · answered by Big Bear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well mine drives me crazy, but I still love them. Even when they get on my nerves to the point where I feel like changing my name and location lol!
2006-11-19 17:20:55 · answer #10 · answered by Robin W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋