A year ago I met a guy at work, we struck a friendship, over the year he knows Im gay, and he's straight and I dont see him sexually one of those guys that reminds you like yr little stupid brother. He's one of the few that overlooks my gayness and see's me as a friend. I've helped him with whatever he needed such as high school homework, loan him my laptop for research ect. Since I quit my job months ago, we talk for a bit he sometimes he comes to my house for burn cd's and we talk for a bit. He refers me as his big brother/sister he jokes around. My gay friends tell me "He just wants freebies" that Im a stupid F*g, giving stuff away. He called me tonight asking for help filling out the selective service letter he didnt do last year, something bout going to jail HA! My friends found out cuz I was with the bunch when he called, and Now I feel like a big Gay thing.
2006-11-19 16:48:34 · 8 answers · asked by zuegma1977 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Thats all I do/give Ben , its because my friends are straight up raunchy gay people. Everything/everyone wants something in return. Im viewed as a "Momma", sometimes I think with emotions than with the head.
2006-11-19 17:01:26 · update #1
It is possible for heterosexual people to be friends with homosexuals. Don't let your friends past negative experiences with straight friends taint your friendship with this guy. Not to be offensive but most straight guys wouldn't even consider being that good of friends with a gay guy but obviously this one is a little more secure in his sexuality and can be your friend without feeling threatened. However, if there is a possibility that he is using you, just ask him. If the two of you have a big brother/little brother relationship then you should be able to ask him about it. Good luck
2006-11-19 16:54:33 · answer #1 · answered by ALeoStar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to change friends...you have better values than they do. They may well be jealous that you do fine in both worlds, but who knows. Stick to being yourself, whatever that is. You sound like a generous guy with time and friendship...stay that way. Ignore those idiots who do nothing but complain, warn, etc...they have little or no life, and do not like the fact that you do. I assume you have no ulterior motives for the help you give at times...big deal. I do the same, and I get the same when I need it. IT is called life and friendship, not everything has to be sexual. Good luck and don't change. You are the better man of the bunch.
2006-11-19 18:43:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him how you feel. Tell him how your friends have been feeding you such doubts that you can't help but feel this way. If he's just using you, he'd bolt. If he's not, he'd explain his side. Besides, if he's really using you, he'd be getting money off you by now. Since he's not, he might just look up to you as an older sibling. Whatever it is, just be honest with him, and take it from there. G'luck!
2006-11-19 17:11:12 · answer #3 · answered by - iceman - 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that someone who stays around for a year is using you because he asks you to do something.....How much are you giving to him? If it's just burning cd's and talks I don't see the problem---but i suspect there's more than that involved.
2006-11-19 16:53:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your gay friends seem to be distrustful of straight people, and although some straight people deserve not to be trusted your gay friends seem to be a bit closed minded (just like the straight people they distrust). Your gay friends are wrong and as long as your friend doesn't judge you on you being gay, you shouldn't judge him on him being straight.
2006-11-19 17:31:53 · answer #5 · answered by χριστοφορος ▽ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely she's the single whos beating you up. she's meant to experience responsible. she might want to've killed you if a automobile got here by. yet freinds shouldn't beat one yet another up if that is bugging you, then perhaps you should come across a lot less violent friends
2016-11-29 07:22:09 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not worry about it too much unless on the occasion, you've needed something he could help you with, he didn't.
He sounds like a pretty normal friend.
2006-11-19 17:18:32 · answer #7 · answered by rostov 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not clear what you feel guilty about... But whatever it is. Stop it! Usually little mix-ups are all about failed communication. Be honest and communicate!
2006-11-19 16:55:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋