If you spank a child and they scream 'child abuse'...?

Question

Can you get arrested for that? I was wondering because nowadays a lot of my classmates had no discipline at all. And to me it appears as if the parents are scared. What if the teen or child did something wrong to you or anyone, can you hit them? In your house, public, wherever and if they call the cops, can you get in trouble?

I always wondered that, because a lot of teenagers in my class say they never get spanked or else they would seriously run away, or call the cops.

Answer 1

You CAN spank a child with an open hand across the butt--WITHOUT leaving a mark...I have done this, it is OK. I have 3 kids!! As long as you don't leave marks on your kids, punch, slap, or use ANYTHING other than your hand to disipline, you won't get in trouble.
Yes, children can cry "child abuse". But if they want to live in foster care, so be it. They don't think about that before they pick up the phone. Some kids don't realize how much nicer their home life is compaired to foster care.
I also believe things should be taken away: phones, TV's, stereo's, things like that. Rules should be followed. Respect should be given. And children shouldn't be acting the way they do just because they didn't get their own way, and I see that a lot!!
However, I have seen a lot of actual child abuse cases and nothing was done. It seems like the cases that should be dealt with aren't, and the ones that shouldn't, are...it's crazy.
I don't think teenagers should be spanked either. They are too old for that. Grounded, yes. Things taken away, yes. But not spanked. You can get arrested for assaulting a child in public, or if there's physical evidence and witnesses that can say that a child was abused anywhere else, you can be arrested, yes.
Some parents just don't care and let their kids do what ever they want. I didn't. I had rules and things to follow.If you have parents who care about you, you'll have them. And be glad that you do.

Answer 2

The parents ARE scared and uninformed. It depends on there being witnesses and proof alot but not solely. In this town cops will look the other way if a parent disciplines the child, but I'm not talking about abuse. They will come down hard for that.

Like it or not, a parents job is to mold these little people into responsible adults that won't ruin the future. In order to mold the child, there needs to be respect. Sometimes that respect is earned by parents following through with threats of consequences, and rarely a child is just naturally an easy, responsible child. Kids like to think that parents just have them for fun or a new friend. They don't need parents to be the friend. They will respect and love you more if you are the adult that sets boundaries. Eventually they will see that you are protecting them and appreciate it.

Answer 3

I don't know if you can get in trouble for it, and I don't have anything against giving a child a swat on the backside if they need it, but I do think a teenager is a little old for spankings. I think other forms of discipline are a lot more effective for teens (no computer, no friends over, no leaving the house except for school and school activities, taking the car keys away, etc.). Those things are very effective as long as the parents are consistent and don't get lazy and give in.

Answer 4

Spanking has to start when the child is young, as all discipline does. I spanked my children when they were clearly being disobedient. It was always a smack on the bottom and not done in public as to embarrass them. When my daughter was 14, she came home from school and proceeded to tell me and her father that we could not spank her because it was against the law. My husband sat her down and explained that there was a difference between how she was spanked and how some children were abused and beaten by their parents. He also explained that we will continue to spank our children because we love them enough to teach them that there are consequences for disobedience and that if she felt like we were bad parents and wanted to live with another family, then she could call the police and they would come take her away to a srangers house to live. She began to see that we weren't so bad after all.

Answer 5

I have 2 kids one 19 other 23. When they were young if someone did it then there was a risk of investigation. Now, they tend to look at the situation. When my kids turned about 7, 8 and 9. They threatened to "tell" if I spanked them. I told them "if I can't discipline you for what you KNOW you did wrong then call. BUT remember if you call they will take you away and you will not be able to come back." They took their 3 wacks on the butt and believe it or not there were less spankings from there on.

Answer 6

The answer you need really depends on what state you live in. Every state has a different law for that. Where I live--you are allowed to spank your child just as long as you dont leave a bruise. I have no fears or guilts about spanking my kids. If all other disciplines fail, then I wont hesitate to spank them. I know several other people who wont spank their kids, and most of their kids are little heathens! My kids never act up in public, they do good in school, and not only do they love me but they respect me too.

Answer 7

Ther is two ways to look at this question. Either your an abuser or a concerned loving parent. The concerned loving parent will spank and disipline as they feel is needed within the acceptable standards of parenting throuighout the world today. This means that any spanking needs to be followed up with clear explanation as to the reason for the spanking and what is acceptble behavior to prevent a reoccourance. An abuser neither explains nor stops

Answer 8

I feel at age ten and up its a pop in the mouth. As long as you don't use anything to pop them. However do not do it too hard. And at age 1-6 Its 2 smacks in the butt. And 7-9 that's definitely a smack on the shoulder, hand, or butt. Another suggestion is hot sauce, unless they like it of course, whenever I would talk back, scream, or throw a tantrum, I would get hot sauce swiped across my teeth or mouth, and I hated it, it was all I needed to stop whatever I was doing, things should also be taken away. Like phones, radios, mp3 players and such. Or even television, or playing outside privileges. 😊 Remember, when you spank, nothing major.

Answer 9

If that's how they act as a teen then the parents didn't teach them right from the beginning or that is just a very disrespectful child and a future jailbird. You can have discipline in the house without spanking. There is obviously a much bigger issue here.

Answer 10

you are seeing what us adults have seen for a bit.....without discipline the very fabric of it begins to break down.

I have no kids, but when I have been around them with gf's, I spank. To me to spank is fine but those parents that lose control and spank over and over and over again, then that is abuse.

But if my kid let say is 6 and says b*tch while out shopping, before she finishes that word I will have slapped her mouth to make her brain register that is flat up wrong.

I was spanked, I had my mouth hit, I was sent to bed without dinner, I had to pay my sisters back 3 times the amount I ever stole. Was it tough as a kid at times....sure. But my adult life is great, I have no troubles with anyone, nor the law, I'm not abuse or anything.

The goal of parents to turn and mold a child into a proper adult to fit into society well and to function as a part of that. To not discipline a child as part of that plan destroys the entire plan. These kids that say no to spanking will wake up and change their ways when they have kids and have to live through exactly what they dished out to their parents.