I am a big guy and I have been described as hot. Some of my male friends have said if they looked like me they would get every woman they ever wanted. The only problem is, my brain is broke. All I do is eat. I have a nice car, nice place, nice clothes, but I don’t care about anything else. I see a woman I like and I don’t talk to her because I see the trouble that comes with the girl. I see the phone calls all the time. I see the VD she will probably give me. I see everything through suspect eyes. I think everything is bad. I stopped having sex because I got sick of being scared that every girl I slept with gave me AIDS. I want women but see trouble so I don’t have sex. I like drinking but I stopped doing that too. Here is the problem. Those things I don’t do for fear that they will kill me are the only reason why I want to live. I love women and I love booze yet I do not indulge because I think they will kill me so now I am living but I am miserable. How do I get out of this catch 22?
2006-11-19 16:13:23 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
There is nothing wrong with abstinence and not drinking alcohol. That would make your life easier. When you meet a girl and she is right for you, you would know. You can both get tested for STDs and you can marry her. That will make you feel more at ease.
2006-11-19 16:23:40 · answer #1 · answered by Amara ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good question, let me tell you that you are on the path to true wisdom; the more you learn you realize the less you actually know, i don't know how old u r, or what kind of work you do, but the guaranteed way to grow as a person is to educate yourself, trust me, even if you take a welding class at a community college, or watch a documentary on european history you will, expand your scope of knowledge, as for drinking, who the hell really needs it im 35 and just realizing how much better off i am without it actually i do drink some , a glass of wine with steak or a beer after a hard day (running would be better though) but the days of binging on whisky and pissing in the street are over, i don't miss a thing about that especially the public intoxication tickets and DUI, as for the femmes i can tell you that it is in us all to naturally want to reproduce our DNA that is our main desire, btw beleifs+desires=action,if u believe in soulmates find that if not and u got a lot of luck w/ femmes be selective find a nice girl with a lot of good virtues and commit your self to standing above the rest of all the BS when you have kids and teach them about morals anth the rules of life i promise you will reach a level of fufillment you never dreamed of especially when you see your kids succeeding and establishing their own sense of judgement i hope this helps gl
2006-11-20 00:42:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy, by knowing that alongside life, there will always be dangers. My solution for your dilema or problem is to simply live within your own limits, who has told you to stop finding joy in life, there is always death associated to living your life. Just know those limitations, but do not allow yourself to forget the joy that comes along with saying yes to life..Come on there are to many self destructive humans on the planet. Do not be that destroyer of your own happiness..Live, open the door and if you do not want what you see, then simply close the door to that problem. If a human being looks for a problem then one will come their way...
2006-11-20 13:58:15 · answer #3 · answered by Lesha a Canadian. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Therapist to help you get rid of the anxiety that is causing you to worry about all those things too much. Being weary is one thing, just normal to look out for yourself, but it goes too far when it's hurting your life.
Nothing wrong with trying out a relationship with someone and just making sure things are good, safe, and not too clingy before going too far with it.
2006-11-20 00:18:43 · answer #4 · answered by Indigo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find one woman and stick with her and have some red wine on occasion. If you mix women with booze then you are looking for trouble.
2006-11-20 00:18:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have the freedom to control your life.have friends but informative one and truthful.some of your present companions might misguiding you that is why you become nervous and don't know how to approach well the life situations you have right now.avoid the disadvantageous activities or choices but accept the positive one.life will go on with purpose especially when believing GOD.in jesus name!
2006-11-20 00:19:53 · answer #6 · answered by katagalugan9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are depressed and a little paranoid. I suggest you get help from a professional therapist.
2006-11-20 00:19:33 · answer #7 · answered by brand_new_monkey 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are plagued by neuroses and phobias. Please see a therapist. It will change your life. No one needs to know about it. Don't waste any more time trapped in all of these problems that can be overcome.
2006-11-20 00:16:39 · answer #8 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you should pray about it. If you don't pray then you should start and then things will start coming into focus and then you will finally see the purpose in your life.
2006-11-20 00:18:17 · answer #9 · answered by Blue Phoenix 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join a monastery.
2006-11-20 00:16:37 · answer #10 · answered by yvetta2203 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋