hi y'all, I have friend who recently came out to me that she's a lesbian. anyway, I've noticed that she's been acting really weirdly around me ever since. For example, whenever she sees me around, she'll start to get really nervous, and she doesn't like to sit nearby me anymore. she also seems very tentative whenever i give her hugs, or try to make any physical contact with her I'm concerned that she might have a crush on me. A friend of mine noticed her strange behaivour also, and asked me if she had asked me out- apparently it's quite obvious that she's not herself. I'm not gay, and I'm not attracted to her, but I don't know what I should do to fix this problem. Help!!!!
2006-11-19 16:05:13 · 14 answers · asked by jemm4president 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ouch that is an extremely hard one... if she asks you out just say ur kinda attracked to the opposite sex and you dont love her in that way... you do like her as a friend though
2006-11-19 16:08:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey I think is the other way around. It seems to me like she understands exactly that you are not attracted to her and that you are not gay. That's why she dont seat next to you or acts funny when you hug her. Listen I am bisexual and trust me that the girl telling you she's gay was either to let all you know that "Hey i like Women" Guess what you are a woman and most likely unless you grew up with this girl as if you were sisters maybe she does find you attractive and a possibly wouldnt mind getting it on with you. Or maybe she really does not find you attractive at all whatsoever and feels uncomfortable with you doing this stuff. I mean would you want a guy you dont like touching on you. If she's not herself when you are around and you guys are good friends than you should be honest and grown up and asked her. What's up? She could only give you 2 answers as I explained before. Now you have to ask yourself if you are not gay and are attracted to her why does it bother you so much how she acts. You should let it go especially if you feel you will have a problem with her telling you that she likes you. Because if you reject her your friendship could end up in a worse way. Now, I think you are a little curious yourself but I might be wrong.
2006-11-19 17:54:42 · answer #2 · answered by onelia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
iv had this problem being a lesbian myself. She could just be acting weird because she just came out to you and she feels that if she does hug you that you might get the wrong impression now that you know. I mean she just came out to you that's kind of a big step and she could just be a little paranoid and nervous about things. I would have a talk with her though and see whats up with her but don't come off in a mean way if she does like you just talk to her she'll understand trust me.
2006-11-19 16:26:56 · answer #3 · answered by aeh_emopunk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, just because she's gay doesnt mean she has a thing for you. When i came out to my friends I was as nervous as hell. I didn't want people to think I was in love with them all the time so I kept myself a bit distant from them incase they thought I was going to jump them. Just let her be, she's obviously worried that you might think she has a crush on you (and is she right???). Let her work it out for herself and when she realises that you are all still her friend she become alot more comfortable again.
2006-11-19 16:12:00 · answer #4 · answered by Shar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she could be. Are you uncomfortable with this though? If so, you need to talk to her about it. Don't let it ruin your friendship. If she does, take it as a compliment. I've had people tell me their flattered before, but they aren't into me like that. I bow out gracefully because I know there is a line to be crossed. Because of my respect to them, my friendships with them stayed in tact.
2016-03-29 02:15:58 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should just talk to her straight out about it and tell her something like I'm sorry but i don't like you that way but i still want to be friends, or maybe give her a hint that you don't like how she acts around you.... I 'm just going by what I'd do I have never had a friend like me like that...sorry I'm not much help.... good luck!
2006-11-19 16:10:35 · answer #6 · answered by gayle d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be that she is just nervous because she is afraid you will think of her in a different way....which you are. Treat her like you normally would, and if she makes a move, just explain to her that you just are not attracted to girls, and you really value her friendship and hope you can remain friends....but 'just' friends.
2006-11-19 16:15:13 · answer #7 · answered by Deanna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me help you out a little.
Yo.
Listen.
The best way is to let her no in a nice way that you not gay.
Now ask her does she have a crush on any of her friends.
If she says yes ask who.
Then say im know it is strange to ask but is it me.
Then laugh a little bit.
But be for real a little tell her its ok to let you know.
And dont hurt her feelings.
Tell her your not gay.
Peace out.
Brick city for life.
2006-11-19 16:13:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dang, if you were really friends before, she already knows that you're NOT gay!! Maybe you're the one that's freaked out by the whole thing and don't know how to react to the info. You can still be her friend and support her w/o being gay. Get over yourself!
2006-11-19 16:17:53 · answer #9 · answered by browneyes23 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe she is just uncomfortable around you cause she feels you are uncomfortable around her and i think if she was attracted to you she would have told you when she told you she was a lesbian. if she had a crush on you wouldnt she like giving you hugs in stead of being uncomfortable about it?
2006-11-19 16:13:46 · answer #10 · answered by cute redhead 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋