2006-11-19 16:04:45 · 12 answers · asked by lost 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Show her you are head of the household, my husbands a huge wimp when he gets home, it pisses me off, if he'd take control I'd probably be a much better wife...
2006-11-19 16:07:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there done this and worked with the navy family services on long term deployment and reattachment.
First off you HAVE TO ACCEPT the fact she is now a independent single mom. Nothing against you but she had to become this because for all that time that is what she was. Your "marrige life" did not change for you from when you left. You will have the natural tendency to think that everything should come back to the way it was because you have not had the forces of family changes that she has had. The Military has family counseling units designed just for this....USE IT. Start telling her about it. dont think you can do it all your self. dont think it will go away.
THANK YOU FOR SERVING. This is not a great way to repay u but it is what it is. Good luck...
Military has a web... militaryonesorce.com
2006-11-20 00:17:40 · answer #2 · answered by canned_stuff 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all understand that your wife has been running things at home for the time you were overseas. Don't try and come back and take over totally. Remember that the time you have been apart has been tough on both of you and that it will take some time to re adjust. Talk a lot about things that have happened while you were gone. Be open for communications and tell them that you love them.
2006-11-20 00:09:30 · answer #3 · answered by dwjohnsonkonduz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're Dad, and when your back in your surroundings things will fall back into place on their own. It takes about a month, wife has to get used to you being back also. Hope you two plan on having a little romantic get away when you get back, that's what me and my husband do when he gets back from deployment, then when we go home we're relaxed and ready for the every day family life thing, together.
2006-11-20 00:31:29 · answer #4 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough question.
They have probably been anticipating your return and will be very excited to see you. The first few days may be a bit awkward but remember that they love you and have missed you and it will work itself out. They are the same family that they were when you left, just 15 months older. They probably have not changed as much as you have. Go slow and spend a lot of time with all of them. Good luck and God bless.
2006-11-20 00:12:37 · answer #5 · answered by knowitall 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same way you did before you left , the love is still there just have and keep the faith your wife and your children love you don't you ever forget that and so does God he's never going to leave your side go home to your family and embrass them they're waiting for you and have been waiting for a long time.
2006-11-20 00:19:26 · answer #6 · answered by junk in the truck 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose your question is, "How do I fit back in?" You just have to relax, express to them what a hard time you have had and will have while reassimilating to civilian life. They love you, they will understand. Take your time and maybe see a counselor. Even if you didn't see "action" I now it can still be hard! Thanks for serving the country.
2006-11-20 00:07:01 · answer #7 · answered by but_ya_are_blanche 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was where you are a year ago-----just have to go with the flow and adjust at your own pace
things will be different,but you may be surprised how easy it can be
just be your self and love your family
God Bless You
2006-11-20 00:11:04 · answer #8 · answered by mcspic63 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to them and tell them how much you missed them and just hug them for the longest time (thats what they really want is to know youre there and safe with them after all this time)
2006-11-20 00:07:50 · answer #9 · answered by john 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IM GLAD THAT YOU ARE COMING HOME, GOD BLESS YOU
BUT DONT WORRY ABOUT IT, YOUR FAMILY JUST WONT'
TO SEE AND BE WITH YOU. SO YOU DONT HAVE TO
DO ANYTHING BEING HOME IS ALL THEY WANT. TRUST
ME. IM HAPPY THAT YOU BACK.
2006-11-20 00:10:16 · answer #10 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋