What to do? My marriage is in two days. She says she loves me but I still tend heavily towards guys. Should I try? or Should I recognize my need and find a bf that can love me as I need? I told her I wasn't so sure about getting married. She knows my whole story, but she said now it's too late and that she'll make a scandal if I dump her. I think i'll just pretend everything's fine, but I won't show up. What do you think?
2006-11-19 15:52:38 · 13 answers · asked by Fabulous, young and broke! 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
That's just GRRRRRRREAT!
2006-11-19 15:54:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most mature way to handle this would be to end it as soon as possible if you are truly sure you do not want to marry this woman. If her only response to what you said to her was that she would "make a scandal", your marriage does not sound to be based upon a solid foundation. However, if the conversation was somewhat different from this and you were only quoting a small factor that twisted the meaning, you could just simply be getting cold feet. Think long and hard and make sure that you and her are truly not meant to be together.
If she truly had nothing else to say, or if the communication and emotions are not there between the two of you, there is no reason for you to be married to this woman. Therefore, ending this now would be the best thing.
Waiting until everyone is waiting for you to show up is only going to make you look even worse. Imagine how you would feel attending your daughter's/sister's/cousin's/friend's wedding, and the groom just did not show up. He would look like the idiot, not the bride.
Give her a long discussion as soon as possible about how you feel, why you should not get married, the possiblilities of the future, and so on. If she is not responsive, she wouldn't be worth beginning a marriage with, anyway. Marriage, especially today, must be based upon a very, very strong foundation. If there are cracks in the foundation of your relationship, you are only looking towards heartache, financial troubles, and divorce in the future.
The best thing for you to do is end this now, today.
I hope you find what is best for you and your future, and good luck. Hopefully in the end everything will work out to be in your favor.
2006-11-19 16:01:35 · answer #2 · answered by Marisa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-29 07:20:51 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're fiance is threatening a scandal if you don't show up to a wedding? Doesn't sound like love - sounds like a really controlling woman. Man or woman - never marry a partner that blackmails you to the altar. But make sure you tell her you won't be there. And if you lean towards men - that means you probably won't enjoy a lesbian marriage. You'll just end up wanting to cheat.
Be true to yourself and give yourself time to grieve the lost relationship and give yourself the chance to love a man again.
2006-11-19 15:56:39 · answer #4 · answered by Stella Bing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to do what you feel is right in your heart. If she is threatening scandal that is blackmail and you don't need her anyway. She does not love you if she is threatening you. If that is the way you feel then don't show up, if you do marry her that will only be worse in the long run, but whatever you do best of luck.
2006-11-19 21:52:03 · answer #5 · answered by spiritcavegrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better not show up if you are not into that kind of a relationship. She is not being very nice anyway trying to cause a scandal and all.
2006-11-19 15:56:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should get married. Marriage is based on trust, love, and unity. There is no trust here or unity because you obviously dont seem to want this, but she does in spite of your feelings. If you get married you will regret it. things are going to get worse than one scandal
2006-11-19 16:04:06 · answer #7 · answered by franklin g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On that day - take a train to some resort and stay a few days. dont marry her -ever. Look for a nice guy to love.
2006-11-19 19:44:53 · answer #8 · answered by blackbird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you won't marry her and don't show up...let her create a scandal.....if you don't show up for the wedding that'll cause an even bigger scandal when she tells them....
2006-11-19 17:02:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Should I marry a woman when I like men? Hmm.... Decisions...decisions....
You need Yahoo Answers to figure this out?
2006-11-26 13:56:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude...Anull your marriage before you become financially liable to her.
2006-11-19 15:57:46 · answer #11 · answered by JOHN G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋