I have been in a relationship for 2 years and engaged. We got on so well & were into each other so much.
She was married for 15 years & her ex left her and their 2 year old boy (whom he didn't want!) for another women, which crushed & force her to councilling. We got talking at a mutual friend's birthday and hit it off, then she pursued & caught me.
Things were going along well in our relationship, until her ex finished relations with the women he left her for. She started playing on the pregnancy and kick me out 3 times with pretty lame excuses. I have spent the last 2 months trying to finish stuff at her house for the baby coming & she has been quite cold toward me. She said her ex & her are friends, he's a support at the moment and nothing is going on, but yet he is staying nights at her place. I'm torn by all this & now have to deal with being a dad under these conditions. Want is she doing? Does she still have feelings for him? How will this pan out & how should I handle it!
2006-11-19 15:13:53 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like this woman doesnt know what she wants. It doesnt sound fair that she is kicking you out of her life so she can let that loser back into hers. She doesnt sound to secure of what she wants, and that's a red flag. I suggest finding a woman who is devoted to her fionce and her child's future and wont leave them for a man who goes from woman to woman. Find someone more worth your time.
2006-11-19 15:18:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a mess you've got. Sounds like her and the ex are working on getting back together (after all he spends the night), he could be using her until something else comes along, but it sounds like now she is using you. Wants to make sure everything is set for the new baby and she knows where you are when it comes time to get child support. I'd be straight to the point, "it's either me or him and you have to choose now, not in day, week, month or after the baby comes".
2006-11-19 23:21:35 · answer #2 · answered by Just Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she got what she wanted - this is how a manipulative woman behaves.... learn from this and don't be caught again by a woman who's on the rebound .... before entering a relationship make sure you check her out for stability and sound decision making.....
Now, you have to establish if the child is really yours and then get child support and visitations started and be the stable parent if the child is yours.
2006-11-19 23:24:38 · answer #3 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure it's your baby? That sound kinda harsh, but she is acting very strange. She should want you there 24/7. You better request a paternity test right after the birth. I don't know many women that would do this for any other reasons, other than you abuse her, or it's not yours. I feel sorry to hear that you care, but protect yourself and get the test. Good Luck.
2006-11-19 23:18:47 · answer #4 · answered by lilyvix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The lesson is get married before you have children. Men as well as women need that commitment. Maybe she will come to her senses after the baby is born. If not make sure you get visitation rights.
By the way, are you sure it is your child? Considering how this turned out, you might want to take a paternity test.
2006-11-19 23:18:21 · answer #5 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you was her re-bound. She is still in love with her ex. It will never work out between them because he is just using her until he meets someone else then he will leave her again. If I were you i would not have her back. I am sure she will come crawling back to you when he dumps her again. I would definitly get a Paternity test and if the baby is yours then fight for your parental rights.
2006-11-19 23:31:03 · answer #6 · answered by horsecrazy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course nothing's going on when he spends the night. Uhhhhh.....well, maybe she's not being quite truthful about that, you reckon? She keeps kicking you out...she's messing with her ex....she's cold toward you....
Do you really see a good outcome for you in this mess? Do you feel used....like a throw rug maybe? Do you wonder if the baby is really yours? Do you really see a future with this person....a future that is based on love, trust, honesty, loyalty? You'd better protect yourself because I see things getting pretty ugly very soon.
2006-11-19 23:21:56 · answer #7 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's pretty obvious that she wants another dose of the ex.
And, there's not much, if anything, that you can do to change that.
Focus on YOUR life. Figure out how you can best be part of your child's life. Move on and enjoy your life. She's got TOO MANY problems for you to stay involved with.
2006-11-19 23:19:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then the question is, is it your baby? Do you not think it is a little ironic that she would do that to you right before she has the baby? No offencse. But honestly, I would look into it.
2006-11-19 23:19:50 · answer #9 · answered by little bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first get some real help this is a q and a site but you really need some couples couselling whatever you did to piss your chick off she is mad at you you might want to talk to this " X " if he is staying the night there might be somthing to your suspcisions.
2006-11-19 23:18:05 · answer #10 · answered by C.W. 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋