My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years and we have a 22 month old little girl. And I am absolutely unhappy in my relationship. Sometimes I'm happy,but most of the time I'm not. He's always making me feel stupid, and he puts me down a-lot. He's always telling me to leave, or to go find somebody else to have sex with. The urge to leave is so strong, I don't know what to do. Most of all I don't want to ruin my daughter's life by leaving her daddy. He says he wants to marry me, he's been saying that for two years. But I feel mostly like I'm in this relationship just for the sex. I just don't wanna leave, and it end up being a big mistake? But I'm just not happy here with him anymore. Sometimes I ask myself if I'm still in love with him at all. What do you think I should do?
2006-11-19 15:11:35 · 14 answers · asked by melodys_mommy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Only you can make that decision. I think you already know the answer or you wouldn't be on here trying to get support. Follow your heart and mind. You already know what most of us would tell you.
2006-11-19 15:16:00 · answer #1 · answered by unicornfarie1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read your question as if you've fast forwarded 20 years and it's your daughter asking the question. Would it be appropriate and healthy for her to stay in the relationship? It's hard to leave him because he's all you know, but when you do, you'll feel as if a weight has been lifted! There was a lesson to learn by being with him, and you've learned it. Now move on. Never make any decisions based on fear. If you should stay with him, then you wouldn't be asking this question in the first place. If you're afraid of being without him, then leave. You'll feel stronger (for yourself and your daughter) when you do. Good luck!
2006-11-19 15:21:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please leave now. It all begins with emotional abuse, and escalates to physical abuse. You and your daughter will be better off without him always around. If you give into him "making you feel stupid," your daughter will end up feeling the same way. You, and your daughter, deserve a life without "feeling stupid," and, honey, there is good sex everywhere. That's an excuse, and you know it, or you would not be writing about this. How can I say this with absoluteness? Because I have been there, and the verbal abuse resulted in broken bones. Please take care.
2006-11-19 15:35:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would leave him...it sounds like he doesnt treat you right and you may feel like you are ruining your daughters life. But take this information from me. my mom divorced my dad i felt really bad but i understood. I would rather have my mom feel happy and wouldnt want her to be put through all this pain just for me. And if your in it just for the sex i think you should reevaluate wat u r doing because if u dont leave him your daughter will grow up in an unhealthy relationship and may never know what a functual relationship is. i wish you the best and i promise you whatever you do your daugter will grow up to support.
2006-11-19 15:20:01 · answer #4 · answered by Kendall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is always putting you down and making yiu feel stupid , how can that be good for your daughters self esteem. he may only being verbally abusive now how long will it be before he becomes physically abusive , i don't really have any answers here but i would leave with my daughter if i were you
2006-11-19 15:18:29 · answer #5 · answered by robert s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-22 09:43:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... first of all...dont stay unhappy because of your baby, if you are happy your baby will be happy, and if you are not your baby can feel that.There is not a single reason to be in an unhappy relationship, is not healthy for anyone, is obvious he doesnt love you anymore, he doesnt treat you well, what a shame to be verbal abused for someone who is your father's baby...leave him and move on!!!!
2006-11-19 15:17:33 · answer #7 · answered by lovetoyou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already know the answer to your question. You want validation and I'm here to give it to you. Get out of this relationship NOW. You won't ruin your daughter's life, in fact you may be saving her life. Find yourself, then eventually you'll find someone who loves and appreciates you for all the good qualities you have. Good Luck to you!!!
2006-11-19 15:14:49 · answer #8 · answered by 7thWave 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Melody's Mum:
U should leave. Melody deserves a happy childhood, and having a mother who is desperately unhappy and is being insulted and mentally tortured is not a happy childhood.
Have you thought of taking up counselling?
God be with you.
2006-11-19 15:15:17 · answer #9 · answered by Sushobhan M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Abusive relationships aren't healthy. It could be hard on the kid, but you have to do something. First, try talking to the guy. Tell him how you feel. If that doesn't work, you might have to get out of it.
2006-11-19 15:14:16 · answer #10 · answered by nekokitsunegrrl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋