I went out with a group of friends a few nights ago and ended up french kissing another guy (whom I have flirted with.) I have a boyfriend and love him so much, but the idea of experimenting and trying something new have come to my mind a lot. My boyfriend and I have been together for so long and that I miss 'the moment' where everything is fresh and new. I know it is a self fish thing to do, but really, we aren't married.
Now I am worried. The guy I kissed is the one who has made it clear he likes me. Even though I like him, but don't want anything further. He isn't a BF material. However sexual tension between us is strong. I have hold myself together for a while now, but eventually we kissed last weekend. Is it so bad? I mean, am I cheating to my BF now?
2006-11-19 15:04:22 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think you already have your answer, but if you don't, ask yourself this question, what if he kissed another girl? Would you consider him to be a cheater? You have already mentioned that this other guy is not bf material and yet you are willing to throw away a relationship, because there is strong sexual tension. You are the one that has to decide what it is you want, but make no mistake, kissing other guys will cost you your current bf.
2006-11-19 15:16:53 · answer #1 · answered by roganddeb2001 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are cheating on your boyfriend. If not physically as much as emotionally. I honestly don't believe that physical chemistry is EVER strong enough to blame as an excuse for cheating on someone you love. Of course, we all want something new and surprising every once in a while, but if you love the person you're with then you should know how much it would hurt them. Hurting someone you love should never sound attractive.
2006-11-19 23:08:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are cheating girlfriend, this can turn into a one night stand and you will regret it later if you love your BF. This guy you kissed could be a justifying juggler. Don't go there unless you know the end result will be. You will have to decide if is worth the relationship that you had built between you and your BF.
2006-11-19 23:23:01 · answer #3 · answered by YKK 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Kissing will not lead to sex, necessarily. However, you ARE cheating on your boyfriend. Doing anything remotely sexual with another person is CHEATING, and kissing is a sexual action. You need to come to clean to your boyfriend. He deserves to know what's going on and to have the ability to decide if the relationship is worth it after this.
2006-11-19 23:07:06 · answer #4 · answered by Esma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT YOU NEED TO DO IS SIT DOWN AND GO THREW THE PROS'S AND CON'S OF WHAT YOU WANT.
IF YOU ARE JUST PHYSICALLY ATTRACTED THEN STAY AWAY BECAUSE CHEATING IS NOT COOL
WHERE IF YOU REALLY LOVED YOUR BF YOU WOULDN'T EVEN THINK ABOUT HAVING SEX OR KISS OR WHAT EVER YOU DO. WITH ANOTHER GUY.
I GUESS IT REALLY DEPENDS ON YOUR AGE AN WHAT YOU HAVE EXPERIENCED, IF YOU ARE YOUNG AND HAVE NOT TESTED THE WATERS THEN MAYBE YOU NEED TO BREAK UP. AND EXPERIMENT.
NO MATER HOW YOU LOOK AT THIS. SOMEONES HEART IS GO IN TO GET BROKEN.
DON'T THINK YOUR BF ISN'T GOING TO FIND OUT. BECAUSE HE PROBABLY WILL
GOOD LUCK KIDDO!
2006-11-19 23:21:16 · answer #5 · answered by tabatha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I strongly believe that kissing will lead to sex. Not always, but most of the time if you do feel that "ELECTRIC SPARK" it will lead to one thing, then another. Kissing actually helps you gauge whether or not you want to go all the way with someone.. during kissing, a lot emotions rise and take place, so it will definitely lead to something....
2006-11-19 23:16:51 · answer #6 · answered by Elaine T 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Youth is a time to see whats out there.You have cheated on your boyfriend by kissing someone else.You really need to think about maybe deciding you want to date other people for awhile.Honesty is best in life.A relationship without honesty is a bad relationship.
2006-11-19 23:06:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you have cheated! How would you feel if your bf's lips touch another girl's lips? Think about it. You probably get sick just thinking about it dont you. You are right you are selfish B**** and need to come clean. If you love him and respect him. Treat him like you want to be treated. If you are not sweating anyways than let him go. He deserves better than you.
2006-11-19 23:56:14 · answer #8 · answered by onelia 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
absolutli!! u are soo cheatin on ur man! u've just got alot of thinking to do and u've gotta figure out wut u realli want...if u kno tha relationship w/ tha crazi new guy won't last then y even try to ruin things with the 1 u love...talk 2 ur bf and tell him ya'll need to spice things up a notch, not saying go out and do it or do anything more than kissing, but u can't just ruin a relationship for your "sexual pleasure" do u realli love him, or are u more in love with urself? good luck! :]]
2006-11-19 23:09:07 · answer #9 · answered by beachxchicaxmg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, in my view you are cheating. And I DO N OT believe kissing will lead to sex, because you still could break up with him
2006-11-19 23:07:47 · answer #10 · answered by 2manyquestions 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋