I have maintained a "friendship" w/ many people from my former employer. Some closer than others. Many of us stay in contact with emails if nothing else.
I thought I had a "friendship" w/ my former boss, who I adored. My boss often includes me in many emails sent out containing interesting information, jokes etc... A couple of times the boss shared frustrations w/ different jobs we've had since our time at this great company we all worked for 3 years ago.
Tonight at the bottom of an email this person had sent to one of their close friends, was a comment making fun of me and a project I'm working on, involving inviting everyone in our "network" to a big party. The comment was left on by mistake by the person RSVP'ng to me.
I hoped that I could offer a business deal down the road to the ex-boss, who had responded to that as if they would be interested.
Now I don't even feel like talking to this person any more.
Sounds like behavior of people much younger than their 50's.
2006-11-19 14:53:47 · 7 answers · asked by K.B. 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The best thing to do is confront them and find out where the comment came from?
Was it intended for you to see it?
Otherwise hold your head up high and brush it off! You are the better person to not be talking about them!
2006-11-19 14:57:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on at your age you should know by now, that there will always be buttheads out there. There is no reason that you cannot still do business with the boss, just keep it at that "Be all business". It's their loss of a good friend, and your loss of a bad one. You won that one.
2006-11-19 14:58:39 · answer #2 · answered by lilyvix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she may be jealous. I would maintain a working relationship, and not be so chummy with her. Talking behind someones back is very petty and immature, but it happens. Be the bigger person and ignore it but don't include her in friendly e-mails as much...keep it to business.
2006-11-19 14:58:48 · answer #3 · answered by bheithcao 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what I would do. You can absolutely not talk to this person but I would send the email back with the last sentence underlined and say in the beginning : What is this all about! And at least they have to own up to their two facedness.
2006-11-19 14:59:32 · answer #4 · answered by steffy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to re-think the idea that this person was my friend....I would consider sending this e-mail on to her with a comment that I was disappointed to discover this about her. Then I would cool my "friendship" with her. Life is rough enough without dealing with people who are two-faced.
2006-11-19 15:01:16 · answer #5 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This has happened before, and will happen again. I'm sorry it happened to you. It's happened to me time and time again.
It has to do with a lack of honesty, a lack of loyalty, and the sin of gossip, which can destroy reputations.
Forgive, even if it's hard to forget, and move on. Offer your business to someone more worthy of trust. Seek and thou shalt find.
2006-11-19 14:57:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't let him get to you. some people don't feel confident about their situation so they find someone to pick on. find some new (true) friends
2006-11-19 14:57:56 · answer #7 · answered by Mel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋