My european exwife left me cause I didnt want to migrate to Europe?

Question

and saying me we are from "different cultures". Was she a neo-racist??

(neo-racism: discrimination by culture or nationality).
I simply wanted to live with her here in my country cause we had good jobs here and I know how inmigrants use to be discriminated in Europe. On the contrary, here in Latinoamerica always inmigrants hav been welcomed.

Hey Sally, what about my family. It´s more difficult for my family to go to Europe (visas permission, high cost of life) it was much more cheap and easy for an european family to visit us here cause tickets and staying is very cheap and there are no limits for an european passport. You really are as uncomprenssive as my ex.

marijuana: she´s from a nordic country but in fact, she only wanted to go to live in Spain. no homesick being...

there is no return to our relation. It´s completely over. After have a very big love between us, we offend several times to each other still divorce. very sadness and pain.

Answer 1

my place of birth is hongkong, was a while in the USA, mexico, brasil, peru, the UK and i`m now in germany. the cultures are really very different - funny and a adventure for me, but very hard for conservative europeans. in the case u both are still in love, try your luck there in europe! guess your wife isn`t from spain, the UK or germany, right? i don`t think she is or was a neo racist, to much news in a short time should be the answer. good luck and best regards;
Lucy

Answer 2

I understand your point of view but a new place, new people, new opportunities - I wish that I could have been brave enough to start over in a new place. However, I have heard what you describe - treatment of others in foreign countries. I don't know how true it is but man, the opportunity for something new and different at an age when I could have done it without all the responsibility that I presently have - I do envy you your position, your choice!
Also, maybe you should have considered more than just the job and cultural diferences. Obviously your wife did when she came and stayed here. It doesn't seem like you even gave it a chance. But I don't know.

Answer 3

Hi, I would like to say two things to you (I am only trying to help). The first is really a question - why did you not sort out where you would permanently live before you married? If you agreed between you and she changed her mind, then I am afraid she did not love you as much as you thought she did, otherwise she would have lived anywhere with you. Secondly, why are you torturing yourself with this now? You say there is no way you two will get back together. The only way forward is to stop thinking about why, if or but - just move on, get on with your life and put the whole sorry episode behind you. I think perhaps you did not have proper 'closure' with her. By that I mean you didn't sort out all the differences and say goodbye and end it properly. I do hope you are able to put all this behind you, move on and find someone who will love you wherever you live. Good luck.

Answer 4

not a neo-racist, rather a culture clash.

You took on an independent European and expected her to behave like a local.

She married an adventurous South American only to find he was a stick in the mud.

Just another way to look at it. Cross culture marriages take a lot of work and if you think it is OK to make the decisions you have to live with the consequences.

Answer 5

YOU FOOL!!

well she shouldn't have left you. but if you say you had good jobs, I might assume that you had some assets saved.

you could have bought or built a mansion cheaply with lots of land and beautiful scenary and retired at a very young age to enjoy your lives, and even go back to America if that is your need.

i say you're a fool because many women from europe usually make good wives and know about hardship so they don't waste good opportunities.

I suppose she probably had too much that drew her back home compared to the single thing that kept her with you. i think that if there was no other problem in your relationship, you should have gone.

Marriage is precious, jobs and lifestyle can be duplicated and improved anywhere, with marriage, it's difficult to re-establish what you've got because the circumstances all round are so different between people and their life stages.

Answer 6

This story sounds pretty much like mine so I guess I have a valuable comment to make. Provided you two dont have children, I don't see a problem. It's always painful to finish a relationship yes, but believe me, none of you would have been happy in either way, i e, she staying in your country or you moving to Europe. Just move on and learn from this experience and if it helps, it is not unusual at all that people that have moved abroad all of a sudden realize they need to go back to their roots.

Answer 7

Actually, this happens a lot. Many women need to be close to their families, whereever they are. If you loved her, you'd probably move there with her and find a job there. Since you didn't, you didn't really love her, but she isn't necessarily a neo-racist. I'm betting she's from the Netherlands. They have the hardest time adjusting to the U.S.

Answer 8

my husband is Greek and i left south Africa to live in Greece !it is not easy but if you really love your wife you will move ! after a few years i really came to love Greece ! all my family is in south Africa , but you know what i am now very happy and even if you paid me i would not leave Greece ! love is more important than what country you live in ! i think you are being a little bit selfish in not giving it a try ! or maybe you just don't love your wife that much !i would move to the north pole with my husband ! you might even like Europe but you are too stubborn to give it a try ! where is the adventure in you??

Answer 9

Didn't she (and you) know that you were from different cultures?
Why have you married without sorting out this things before?
And i think it is unfair to say that she's a racist because she doesn't agree with you, doesn't that make you a racist too?
And if you call her that, maybe you never loved her.
If you love someone you do things for each other.
One sided relationships never work.
And Latino men, sorry but my opinion of them is that they treat women just as objects and maybe that's got to her.
European women are strong minded and educated and like to be treated equally.
But that's just my opinion!

Answer 10

using fact many Europeans wanted to stay in Europe and not migrate to usa. the vast majority of Africans in early circumstances did not come to the "new worldwide" via selection. They have been given a loose cost tag via evil slave investors. i could say, "undesirable Africans!"