Why does my my husband keep telling people and throwing 5150 in my face??it hurts..?

Question

3yrs. ago i was admitted to hospital for 3 days and released. i had depression but not suicidal. he always tell me "at least im not a 5150" and laughs.

Answer 1

5150 (as you may or may not know) is the Calif Health and Safety Code Section that defines someone who is a danger to themselves because of a mental health situation or illness. It allows particular persons ( Doctors, cops, EMTs, and others defined in the code) to cause someone to be admitted to a medical or mental facility against their will for a period of time for evaluation by qualified persons. It can get complicated but you get the picture. After a time has passed and the medical people make a determination there is no danger the person is released. Your husband sounds like a jerk,ie; not being supportive etc,etc.. Get some professional help for you and he together or dump him!

Answer 2

Tell him that he would be 5150 too if he was married to an abusive prick.

Hon, you need to seriously make arrangements to be single. This person is not a healthy one for you to be around. Don't be ashamed of your short stay. At least you had the presence of mind to get help. Depression is a disease and can surface in different degrees depending upon the individual situation. Depression affects millions of people. You are not alone and you did the right thing. Your husband throwing it into your face and belittling you to others is not a loving thing nor does it demonstrate any kind of respect for you. Why do you stay? This is abuse and it will escalate if you allow it to continue. Don't let him see that this bothers you. Be flippant right back to him. If he says what he usually does ; you can simply say "don't be so sure" or "it takes one to know one". Childish I know but you have to find a point at which you convey to him that his antics won't affect you the way he intends. I think you will find that he will try another tactic and this is why I believe you should check out of his life the way you checked out of the hospital and don't look back. Good Luck!

Answer 3

That is mean of him to do you that way after being in the hospital for depression, been there done that, I wasn't suicidal either. But one thing that I never heard of while there or any other time for that part....what is 5150?

Answer 4

5150 of the Welfare and Institutions Code is the section that allows law enforcement officers to detain persons who are considered a danger to themselves, a danger to others, or disabled due to a mental condition. It's often used as the radio code for someone who is acting emotionally distressed or has attempted suicide. It is apparent from your question this is what your husband is referring to.

Answer 5

A lot of people who have never delt with depression &/or mental health have a stigma about it. Your husband is using this to belittle you and justify his own insecurites in his actions by saying "at least I'm not crazy". You took the right steps to make yourself a better person and if your husband uses this against you that he is not much a loving or caring person.

Answer 6

I don't think three days in a hospital would take care of HIS problem. Obviously he is a control freak. He's trying to make you feel you're incompetent and that he is superior to you. Also, I don't understand why you LET him say these things. Maybe since you are still living with him, perhaps, you are still depressed?

Answer 7

He sure doesn't sound like a caring, loving husband to me. Maybe you had depression because you are married to a sick jerk! Mental illness is a physical illness (brain illness). If you had had a cancer would he be acting like that and talking about it to everyone? That is just plain rude and ugly. I wouldn't tolerate such a jerk. I'll bet you'll be a whole lot happier and feel well again, once you leave him. Try it.

Answer 8

and you still staying with him?

FIVE WAYS TO KNOW IF A POTENTIAL MATE IS COMPATIBLE
1) His or her goals and aspirations align with your goals for the future?
2) You feel comfort in the presence of the individual rather than negative anxiety.
3) The majority of your time together is not spent in conflict.
4) He or she does not pressure you to do things that go against your moral judgement.
5) You’re able to resolve conflicts in a healthy manner without the other mate shutting down.

Answer 9

You need to give your husband an ultimatum and then follow through on it. That behavior is unacceptable from anybody and certainly does nothing to benefit himself or you. Be prepared to leave or have him leave...i doubt he can stop it, he sounds too immature and insensitive, i sense other problems. Good luck.

Answer 10

Is it some sort of police code ?, for criminally insane or something? Whatever, thats abusive and mental illness is not a funny subject, you need compassion, not ridicule, good luck.