We're both 17 and I've know her for 14 years, but lately, especially since she went to a drama college she's completely self obcessed. She talks to me about how brilliant she is compared to others and I don't like it but feel like I should agree with her to keep the peace. Also I feel like this is a front as she sometimes acts like she used to.
She's very fake and wears very deep tan, dyes her hair and will never be without alot of make-up which I see as a mask. I'm friends with her younger brother who is so understanding, like she used to be and I'm starting to prefer him! I know this is wrong but I'm king of a goth so I don't understand her chav like behaviour. What can I do to help her be herself?
2006-11-19 14:24:04 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I wish I could hang with her brother but I can't see him seperately!
2006-11-19 14:35:41 · update #1
As you say you are kind of a goth. Some people would find that an unusual choice, but it is your choice. Your friend is entitled to make her choices as well, but in saying that it doesnt mean that you should sit by and agree to her puffing herself up. Let the issues of the makeup and tanning go, but politely let her know that while you think she is great, she is a bit over the top thinking she is brilliant compared to others. if you really cant tolerate her then hang out more with her brother while she works through this phase. Hopefully it is a phase.
2006-11-19 14:28:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's being the person she wants to be at the moment. Don't get obsessed with her skin, hair and make-up. If she's into drama, changing her look (as if for a dramatic part) is an understandable interest. If you think she's wearing a mask, well, drama is a kind of mask. You go on stage as somebody completely different from yourself, as a form of entertainment. If you identify yourself as a goth, you too are playing a part, to some extent. We all do, to an extent.
Why not take a little interest in drama? I don't mean you should take part in it. But since it is a major part of her life now, why not learn a little, enjoy it a little?
If you really can't muster any interest in the thing that she is now spending her life on, maybe you just won't be spending as much time together. There's really nothing wrong with that, and you can still be friends. If a close friend of mine suddenly took up football, and spent all their time on it, I might drift away as well. But I wouldn't hold it against the person.
2006-11-19 14:44:07 · answer #2 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in short, you choose for to tell her to her face that she's only hallucinating? is it worth it? i do no longer think of you may. you're her pal precise? she does those issues because of the fact it extremely is her way of hiding her insecurities. have self belief me she already is usual with that she's no longer the guy who she tells others. i also have a pal like her. yet he already stopped being like that. probable have been given drained because of the fact no person will pay interest to what he says. genuinely all and sundry went with the aid of this component of their lives. some are only too plenty while in comparison with something. and he or she is a style of few who're too plenty. yet being her 'pal' you may understand what she's dealing with. and not attempt to locate strategies on the thank you to hold her down. possibly you may attempt to be certain how a great number of a pal you're to her. that's the undesirable element? her being very arrogant, or you attempting to hold her down? as i see it, you're no distinctive from her.
2016-11-25 20:36:08 · answer #3 · answered by quijada 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her if she dies her hair she'd look like an oompa loompa... of jk but seriously, you need to talk to her about this. tell her what you've been noticing lately and that you miss the old her. good luck self absorbed people are almost impossible to get through to.
2006-11-19 14:27:17 · answer #4 · answered by kiss the cook 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
trip her in front of a whole bunch of people
preferably in the grass so she gets dirty
when she says something just tell her
that she needed to come down a lil bit
off her high horse
2006-11-19 14:30:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe it's just you two have different interests now, and have grown apart.
2006-11-19 14:30:27 · answer #6 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋