My 7 year talks back!!??

Question

I have a 7year old son talks back to me and i dont know what to do! I punish him but he still talks back and throws temper tantrums!! does anyone have any advice???

Answer 1

THROW HIM OUT IN THE COLD AND GO OUT AND MAKE SOME MONEY IN THE CORNER!!

Answer 2

My son talked back at 7 and continues to talk back at 24. So does my gf, sister, and relatives kids. I think if it stays at "No, I don't want to" your fine. When my tried to switch to 4 letter words, he was severely punished. Everything was taken away, grounded, no tv/games/music. The only thing he was allowed to do was read.

As for the temper tantrum, just walk away. If your in a store, walk around an aisle and see how fast he stops. This worked well for me. If your home, go into another room and let him scream, no attention no tantrum. And never ever reward him to get him to shut up.

Answer 3

Is there any reason why he would be desperate for attention? Special treatment being given to a sibling? New baby in the home? Jealousy of something?

Obviously punishing bad behavior isn't working as well as you'd hope, so try and make sure you are rewarding good behavior adequately. This doesn't mean you go and buy him something everytime he says please and thank you, it just means when he is having a good day and when he is pleasant that you hug him, tell him you are proud of him and that you love him, etc. This could work if he is just doing things for attention - you'll be giving him positive attention so he won't feel the need to act out to get negative attention. Just make sure he is getting plenty of one-on-one quality time - either watching movies, reading, etc. Also make sure he is getting enough rest because kids can just be overall moody when they don't get enough sleep.

If he does something bad - ask him why he did it in a calm voice. Kids will tend to be more in control of their voice level if you are not raising your voice as well.

Best of luck.

Answer 4

definitely DO NOT let him boss you around.day in and day out, i see adults who are being manipulated and bossed around by their young children, and i think it is absurd. You need to show him who is boss. I would take a guess that your punishments arent strong enough he he continues to talk back. You need to make your punishments much more severe, until he gets the picture. And, he is not a baby, he is 7 years old..he is growing up and needs to learn how to behave. Make sure you get this message to him NOW and clear, because down the road, he is just not going to have any proper social skills or respect for adults or others, which is harmful to someone. I hope this helps!

Answer 5

When my son was little I tried a lot of reverse psychology. Something my mom did on me, then I figured it out and did it back to her! I also explain why I have a certain rule, or why he cannot do something. I would be careful about my tone of voice. Very rarely do I say, "because I said so" My son is 12 now. At age 7 I discovered he was realizing he could figure a lot out for himself, and he was a little wise *** for a while. I taught him why you get further in life by respecting others, being polite. Thankfully, he is not rebellious. If none of this helps, you could try to imagine why he is feeling the way he is. Ask him questions and try to dig out of him what happened at school, or whatever. Now I get to deal with puberty! Ye Haaa...So our big topic is testosterone surges and how it is affecting his attitude and his huge distraction with girls. My best for you and yours.

Answer 6

I have never let my son talk back disrespectfully. I will however let him speak his mind. If he has a valid argument I will listen to him, but to let him smart off I won't stand for it. My son is 12 now. The last time I had to spank him was when he was 6. And by spank I mean smacking his butt a couple good times. Learn to guide a child's heart and you can guide his actions. Communication is key. Let him know that he can't disrespect you, but give him space to be able to communicate with you too.

Answer 7

A lot of kids are 'learning' and copying things they see on tv. Also at school. What is he watching, and what are his friends saying? These things need to be monitored, and you might talk to his teachers to see if he does the same thing at school. Personally, i would just ignore it. I had to baby sit a kid like that, and i just ignored him and did my homework. Tantrums normally wear 'em out and he might calm down after it.

Answer 8

This may sound harsh but...ignore him! and I mean completely. Only converse with him if u have to!..Tell him that u dont deserve his attitude and that u will ignore him until he treats u better...It worked on my 8 year old...it took him a couple of weeks but it was really quiet at my house for those 2 weeks..lol (it was kinda nice actually. No arguing). I wish u the best of luck... xx

Answer 9

Just make him go sit in his room and take away his privileges and ignore him until he shows some respect. Take away every thing he likes and make him sit there with nothing do to. That will make him think twice about what he does. Demand your respect from him and do not give him his stuff back until he shows it. BE CONSISTENT that's really important too.

Answer 10

You need to take away something that he likes and he would most likely calm down, I believe. Talk to him, tell him you do not like the way he is treating you. Most times when people are confronted by another's feelings then they tend to change their ways a bit. Use the "I" statements...I feel hurt when you act this way, not, "You made me feel..." They become defensive when you say that.

Answer 11

I think that the best solution is just to ignore him. Do not react too much to these tantrums. It may take a while, but hopeflly he'll get tired of them.