Why do some people joke about stalking?

Question

I wish to have some serious answers please- nothing derogatory. When a person has suffered from a terrifying past experience, should they take it to heart when people currently make jokes and don't understand what they're doing. ??? Input please, thank you for your time.

Answer 1

Stalking is NOT a joke -- and I take my protections seriously.

Those who have never had to deal with a Stalker (and my stalker is an Abusive, violent ex-spouse) -- have no clue how terrifying it can be to have to deal with one for years -- and I mean years.

Because the stalker is one who is not predictable -- they come and go as they please -- leaving you alone for days, weeks, months or years, then ALWAYS, ALWAYS, they come back when you do not expect -- and you have to start filing police reports all over again.

To have a stalker means to NOT feel comfortable at night arriving HOME to YOUR HOME -- having lights on all the time around your residence, having a security system that is hard-wired to your local police, and having to wear a Panic Alarm/Body Alarm so that in case he does try to attack, the notification of where you are right now can be made -- and hopefully, you will be saved before they kill you.

To have to check around, under and on top of your vehicle in the morning -- checking the tires, checking the doors, checking the windows and trunk, and the engine compartment -- is there any damage or things that do not belong there that just showed up? Any suspicious marks or damage?

To have to be AWARE at all times of everyone and everything around you. To know that you are time limited .. and to be forced to plan ahead -- because there is one thing that is precious indeed -- LIFE, and your life is NOT worth staying in YOUR HOME or being in your vehicle if it is not secure.

To constantly worry about what is going to happen next - - when is the next burglary, the next theft, the next time he will try to find you at your office (and demand money and call you names), when is the next time your car will be missing from the parking lot and show up with broken window and all somewhere else a little later.

Where is the key? Oh, to always have to rekey and redo the locks and replace the mechanisms because he once again stole your keys because some IDIOT let him into your office while you were at a meeting or giving a briefing.

To realize that you can't leave your purse anywhere, or to even carry much cash -- because as soon as you set it down, or if you decide to put it in your desk drawer and step out for a minute -- he will be there STEALING your Purse, your IDs, and then ASSUMING your Identity.

To realize that there is NO SAFE PLACE -- he can find the ones for your siblings, your parents (if they are alive) or other relatives with ease.

BUT ... do the police find him? NO THEY DO NOT -- I don't even think they try at times either.

SO NO -- it is NOT a joke ... but SERIOUS -- it is NOT worth losing a life over, and for the REST of my Life, I will have to be overly cautious -- living behind a screen of alarms, security systems and just having to go -- anywhere, anyhow, at a moment's notice -- and I know that there is nothing I can do EXCEPT file ANOTHER Police Report in a LONG STRING of Police Reports.

Answer 2

Although we hear more and more about the occurance of stalking, I still think that if people have not experienced something like this themselves, then they don't know how to understand the weight of the seriousness of it. They can't comprehend how it feels, what it can do to a person's mental health, how it can change their relationships with other people, how difficult it is to learn to trust again (if ever).
Other problems in the world today are handled the same way. Look at the problems happening over in the middle east. People are dying, or soldiers are dying...and society still manages to joke about it.
Look at the human beings starving to death in parts of the world...but some how society still manages to find ways to joke about it.....on and on....Drug problems, abuse problems.... etc.etc.
So, you ask why do people joke?
Joking...laughing...I think this is a type of coping mechanism built into us. It is sometimes too difficult to face problems, or try and understand them...so we either turn and walk away, or joke about them.
You may even find yourself joking about that years from now. It will help you feel stronger, knowing you made it through... and it will help to open your heart up again. That that doesn't break us, only makes us stronger...isn't that how the saying goes? :o) Take care of you. ( Sorry for getting so carried away! ;o) )

Answer 3

I've never stalked -- in fact, I may have the opposite problem. I don't make my presence known enough. I think some people become obsessed and they have no sense of concern for the other person's feelings. It's selfishness. My wife basically stalked me in a lighthearted way. I should have run!

Answer 4

I think people don't actually understand that stalking can go to serious, scary degrees. Most people haven't heard about serious stalking or don't know anybody who's had it happen to them. It's very hard to understand soemthing that serious (to degrees) if you know nothing about it. Also, there's a bunch of "fake stalking" like of knowing where someone lives, knowing where they work or what class they have, or knowing their favorite foods....which is funny in the long run and just lame.

So yeah.

Answer 5

it could be because other people might have never had the experience of being stalked by someone else. So they feel it is somewhat ludicrous..like its a myth, there is no such things as stalker or you know, something like that.

Answer 6

to most it is just a story they hear-they dont know the horrors of the reality-they also cant tell you've been hurt-if you dont want to hear it-kindly explain that you've had a serious encounter and would like them to stop joking about it as you are more sensitive to it

Answer 7

Because the right person ,it will stop on-that day which will happen, without ,the hunter can be hunted.

Answer 8

Because they know where you live!