Does anyone know any confidence tips to help someone who is shy around new people?

Question

I am really open and i have fun with my really close friends but at school and stuff when i am around a lot of people that i know but am not close to i tend to just sit there and act like im in my own world. i just need to know how to lossen up an have fun around new people If any one can help me it would be appreciated a lot

Answer 1

You need to get involved, just make an effort to connect to someone in the room or whatever. Ask them questions about themselves, people loooove to talk about themselves, so you should be in conversation for a while. Just ask them a simple question like, "where do you live?" you might be surprised where the conversation goes. It might sound silly to just start asking someone questions, but introduce yourself, say something like "I don't know many people here, who did you come with?" I think you'll find that doing something as simple as asking a question will go a long way and help to get you involved.

Good luck!

Answer 2

Put yourself into situations where you are only around a few people you are not close to and see if you can add to the conversation without feeling terribly self-conscious. Go into a group like that w/one or two close friends to help boost your confidence.

Once you realize that you can do that, then open yourself up to other opportunities. Everybody feels the way you do to one extent or other. We all feel more at ease w/those we are close to and whom we know well.

Don't think of yourself as "shy" in a negative way. There are many advantages to the feelings you have. By being a little laidback, you give yourself the chance to listen and observe and gain a feel for things. By sitting back, watching and listening, you can better gauge the circumstances before you jump in.

Answer 3

Well I was in the same shoes before but the trick is to listen to people - so that when it comes to your turn to say something you will be saying something related or in other words you will be talking sense. And generally ppl click or connect because one of the party has said something that is somewhat similar to what they want to hear. Eventually when the conversation gets going you would loosen up naturally. Hope it helps.