My boyfriend is american and is obsessed with japan,but i have a feeling he only likes me because i am japanese.I don't know if I should break up though.My american friends also think that is the only reason he likes me.
2006-11-19 13:38:19 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Travel ➔ Asia Pacific ➔ Japan
I dont think so.
however He likes you.
no big problem if you continue the friendship...
more,
be careful that that's "YOUR FEELING" not the real...
however it's up to you.
take it easy and join your frienship.
;)
2006-11-19 13:46:30 · answer #1 · answered by Mehdi_tiger 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well I think the question is why is he with you when there are tons of OTHER Japanese girls out there?
Let's just say he likes you only because you're japanese, he's still with you and staying with you because out of all the Japanese girls out there you were the best one. Does that count for anything? It would for me.
I think nationality is the same thing as your appearence.
There are people who like tall people and there are people who like short people. If being Japanese is a trait that he likes, then that's his thing. Doesn't mean that's his ONLY thing.
I'm sure he's with you beacuse of your personality, your likes and dislikes, your cultural background, your outward appearence etc etc all those things combined which makes up YOU.
Just because he specifically likes a certain race and you happen to be that nationality doesn't mean he doesn't care about the other things a relationship is made up of.
I like the idea of bluffing him out and saying you're actually Chinese or Korean and seeing how that goes.
A bit cruel but I think it's an easy way to find out.
I know many overseas Chinese and Korean who were born and raised in Japan and can only speak Japanese. So the idea of someone from Japan actually being of Chinese or Korean descent is not totally far-fetched.
Good luck!
2006-11-20 15:59:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
well you should ask him first before making any decision. Maybe it is just one of the reasons why he likes you. why dont you ask him the main reason why he likes you that much. And ask him specificaly on what feelings does he had about you. Then its up to you on how to decide for the answer you've got from him!!anyway there are billions of man in this world why you should have to stock youre self in a guy that doesnt know how to show the proper interpretation of love in a woman like you!!!you deserve to treat like a Princess...if i were him, ill give you everything to make you happy... coz life is short youll never know when you ganna leave this cruel world right... smile have a nice day
2006-11-20 10:31:06 · answer #3 · answered by Led 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you are American just like your American friends unless you were born in Japan. Second, your ancestory DNA should not be the most important issue here. Finally, why dont you ask him istead of assuming that is the fact.
2006-11-19 21:47:55 · answer #4 · answered by Cpn Ron 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You 'have a feeling'? Is this just insecurity on your part??
As for your friends, they're a bit harsh on YOU to suggest that he only likes you because you're Japanese!! I'm sure you've got a whole lot MORE going for you than that..!!! Maybe they're jealous? Or are your friends just agreeing with your doubts in the hope that you'll stop worrying and talking about him all the time?
When you're with him, do you feel that he's a little distant from you? Does he behave differently when you're alone to the way he behaves when other people are around? Most young men behave that way, so if that's all it is, just try meeting him without your (or his) friends around more often!
Just because he's 'obsessed' with Japan does NOT mean that he'd get a trophy Japanese girlfriend..! But I think you should get him on his own, maybe at a cinema - and start snuggling up to him and being all lovey-dovey. See how keen he is. I know they say it's easy for a man to fake love, but it's not totally true. You should be able to spot it if he'd rather be somewhere else - especially as you already have doubts about him.
2006-11-20 00:45:15 · answer #5 · answered by _ 6 · 1⤊ 5⤋
Do u want to break up with him or keep him. If u care ask him how he feels about u. If hes a jerk He cant help it hes a man. Talk to him. Ur friends don't live with him. How do they have the right to judge him. u can though.
2006-11-19 21:42:26 · answer #6 · answered by someones sister 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are really serious about this relationship with him, you have to do something ...because it takes a lot of time and caring in respect of his sides too.. Don't depend on friends for what they think because it won't help, they are not the ones who will live with your boyfriend but it is you..
being obsessed with Japan way of life has nothing to do with his relationship with you.. he chose you to be his girlfriend and when the time he would like to break up with you, he can do that too unless he is not promising you a marriage, he can do so..
But when he became serious about you, no matter how much doubt and obsessions coming, he would still love you and be with you.. I think you are young and not experienced about international love affair but it has its ups and downs and the more your relationship grows strong the more you will be confident and learn to give him more time to understand his feelings between you and his obsession if ever.. you can help him feel that love is stronger than anything he sees in Japan.
As they are more open about love and relation, the way we see things is different..we can learn from them how they handle relationship as well as they need to learn how we would like to be loved and respected in this relationship..it takes time... give and take process..
I believe you could do something to save this relationship, but it takes both of you to decide what is the best.... talk to him..communication helps a lot....
but then if you are willing to give up, you both deserves someone else...but again and again..relationships needs time and acceptance on both sides, nobody is perfect.. being a Japanese for liking you? I agree on this....he could like most of the Japanese girl he would meet..but you are the best in his eyes and his heart... that is why he chose you...breaking up with him now and doing nothing is not working in any relationship..to win a relationship, both of you must be willing to support and understand each other.passion and culture , not one sided love affair.
sincerely...
2006-11-21 00:52:10 · answer #7 · answered by Ny 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Ofcourse you should. Love is important in arelationship. If you feel that he doesnt like you, there is no reason to be with him still.There are lot of guys out there that can love you as you are and not just because you are Japanese.
2006-11-19 21:41:36 · answer #8 · answered by dWade03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
really depenends, have a talk with him see what you both get out of being togeather, if its not fun say by by. Is it hot between the 2 of u? if not same same. Life goes by so fast so move on if you see no future.
2006-11-19 21:51:20 · answer #9 · answered by mark f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's that shallow then yes, dump the chump. He doesn't sound too bright and is probably bringing you down in the process as well.
Get rid of him.
2006-11-19 21:46:53 · answer #10 · answered by Lonnie P 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he only likes you 4 that reason then break up with him!!!!!!!
2006-11-19 22:03:43 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋