Familiar Things?

Question

I am a 40yom that's been married for 18 years; although I love my wife... my relationship is not without its fair share of problems. Over the course of our married both my wife and I have had an affair (mine emotional 14y ago, hers physical 5y ago) while I understand that neither of these affairs carry any greater weight than the other, I have truly learned to love my wife all over again and in many ways with even greater depth. I have long time forgiven her and I no longer hold her affair against her, and I don’t live in the past (although I feel she does). We are both charismatic people and often speak with people of the opposite sex (work or socially) for which I was comfortable until today. I am starting to see Familiar signs of the past. While I shower her with love she dose not receive it and says she fells empty. I am not involved with any one but she has for 10 accused me of having an affair with some one. The accusations and Familiar Things are wearing on me HELP.

Answer 1

Maybe this is the one time in your life that you should truely show her how you really feel about her and make her believe that you havent had any more affairs. Take a day off and do somthing that you guys once did while your love for eachother was still burning. Make her long for what she is missing out on. Show her that she is the only woman that you care for no matter how many women you talk to. Be open and honest with her show the devotion you have for her. =] I hope all is well after that

Answer 2

you guys are strangers to each other, now. you can believe all you want that the affairs didnt have impact, but they do. see you guys have kept secrets away from each other at the time, when doing it. basically in a nut shell, the trust is gone and so is the love. get out before your in a wheelchair and wearing pampers.

Answer 3

Why don't you try counsellling??? That might help. Good Luck.