Heart was broken by a married man?

Question

I am totally completley heart broken.I know I shouldnt have gotten involved with a married man but this is why.Told many people at work that he is leaving his wife not just me. Talks nasty about his wife all the time and said he just needed time to leave. We did everything together .He told me he loves me and wants to spend the rest of his life with me because no one has ever made him this happy even tho he is 13 years older then me. Now mind you him and his wife went to marriage counsiling and it didnt work. The other day his wife found out he was cheating and she kicked him out for a night. In the mean while the wife called me and we spoke for a very long time.She was very annoyed that he lied to her and told her the I am a piece of s***. I have not spoken to him in over a weed and it is killing me that we made some great memories and he could just ignore me.I just dont know how to handle this. I think about him all the time and wonder if he thinks about me at all. please help.

I want to thank everyone that answered me. But a few more details he wanted to have another baby, and get a house together. He has four kids of his own and I have one. Why would this go on for 4 months if I didnt mean anything to him and why would his wife call me and talk for hours just to take him back.

Answer 1

i to have been in the same situation. i know how you are feeling. i would try to suppress the feelings you have for him, because it doesn't get better. he will only bring you more heartache, i can promise you that. look what he's been doing to his wife!! even if you was his wife he would not respect you either. he is selfish, and wants his cake and eat it too. i know this is not what you want to hear, however, if you forget about him and find someone who can love you and only you, you will SO much happier and better off. he is a liar!! always remember that. he may have told you he loved you. dint believe it. he doesn't love you or his wife and not even his self. i wouldn't waste any more time, energy, or even a thought on him. he's not worth it. let someone else worry about him, it won't be long until he's breaking someone Else's heart. focus on yourself, forgive yourself. there is someone out there ready to love you- forget about him and go find the guy who you can build a relationship with because there is no future with a married man. good luck!!

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I know it's hard to see it this way, but honey, he did you a favor. This is not an honorable man at all, he's a user and he used you to fill a void in his life and then tossed you aside when he no longer needed you.

His poor wife. She should leave him, because he's no good at handling his own emotional business. He uses people to get by and has probably been using his wife their entire marriage. You do not want to make a life with this person. Again, he did you a favor.

Thank God because he allowed you to dodge this bullet. Cry, be mad, hate his guts, be angry at yourself for a while, but only for a little while. Set a time limit and then move on. Don't look back until you are ready to analyze why you allowed someone to treat you with such disrespect because you do not deserves this, no matter who on here says that this is some form of karmic justice.

Once you repair and are able to move on you will thank your lucky stars you never married this creep or had any of his children. God did you a favor.

Answer 4

first of all you have answered your own question ...'i shouldn't have got involved with a married man'.you have learned a valuable lesson. all men play around to an extent and tell the prospective new mate that his wife is a dragon etc when they are caught out they reverse the deal and you become the dragon and you came onto him etc .stand up and walk away and have more respect for yourself in the future by never dating a married man again ., find out next time before you even go out with a man if he is married , ask other staff members .friends, etc all they want is free sex.,free from the obligation of responsibility. mean while you get a bad name for dating some womans' husband . even tho you believed him to be honest and reliable .you could make it public and tell everyone about him so he never has a chance to do that to someone else again .right now you feel quite bad but you have to go on living so spoil yourself for a while and go out with girlfriends and be happy. think of all the good things you've done in life , not the mistakes and that's all this is .

Answer 5

Well first of all you fell in love with a lying cheating no good for nothing man. If he was having all of those problems with his wife why didn't he just get a divorce? Why would you want a man that would leave his wife and children? I am not saying this to be mean but you are not that special he would of probably ended up doing the same thing to you. Just think of this as a learning lesson and find a single man.

Answer 6

OK,let's put it this way.maybe he really likes you,but can't leave his wife yet...girl,don't waste your time and love on him.there are so many men that you deserve far more than him!!!when the time comes that he's not committed,and you still like each other,then go ahead!but not now.remember this, any relationship that started in a bad way, even if in the long run it may seem everything is falling into the right place, in the end, you will definitely regret all that had happened.

i know someone who had the same situation.her man was committed when they met.they had a secret relationship,unfortunately my friend got pregnant.her man chose her instead of the 1st woman in his life...she was ecstatic of what was happening at first...then she realizes one day,when she knew everything about his man,she wanted out--but can't escape reality...so use your head.

he's lying to his wife...and one day when the two of you will be together,i'm sure you're going to have some doubts!!!once a liar,always a liar...forget him. i know it will be hard at first...just focus on something else...

Answer 7

You made a poor choice to involve yourself with a married man. This situation is only one possible miserable outcome. What did you think you were going to get if he left his wife for you? A cheater for your very own? If someone is bad mouthing someone, they will eventually bad mouth you too, it's like a universal truth, not only applicable in romance. And stealing husbands only hurts you, someday you may have a husband. Have you ever heard the phrase "what goes around comes around"?

Detach from him and mend your broken heart in solitude. And avoid married men in the future. Men who get girlfriends when they're unhappy with their wives instead of working it out or leaving them are losers anyway, no matter how nice they seem.

Answer 8

Sweetie Don't be dumb!!!!! Do not have a child for or with this man because if it doesn't work out you will be stuck!! then have 2 kids to worry about instaed of one plus all this other stuff on top of it. Married or not sometimes peoples hearts not in it and they just don't have the guts to get out. Enjoy your fun but don't drag another child in this!! Good Luck!

Answer 9

Sorry, but you made a mistake by getting involved with a married man. If he treated his wife this way it is nearly GUARANTEED he will treat you the same way in the future, no matter what he says. Accept this and move on and find someone with better morals.

Answer 10

well i went through that and i loved that man gurl u hear me no greater love than i felt for this man well i did get pregnant our daughter is 7 and beautiful looks like him and all guess what he doesnt do anything for her the same guy who told me he loved me the same guy who did anything for me in the end i had to want better for myself so i left him gurl i cried for weeks but now i am much happier even though our daughter wasnt planned i love her no matter who he is his wife find out and she mustve wanted him more than i did bc i left and i hope hes happy bc iam ...sometimes the right thing to do is the hardest thing to do ....this is how i look at it i never asked him to leave her but i wasnt worth him losing everything he had build with her either to start over with me so i did us both a favor and left.....u hurt now but believe me time heals all wounds....