I am 18 years old and have been with my boyfriend for a year, she knew I wanted to be with him in Florida sooner or later, but I told her today and she flipped out on my telling my that I'm just going to play house, and end up getting pregnant, first of all I'm not that stupid, and second of all I plan to go down there get a job and go to college and make a life for ourselves, we are getting married in 2008 so I don't see what the big deal is, so now she's not talking to me and it hurts it really does, we live in the same house and it seems like we are on other planets. :(
2006-11-19 12:29:01 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just be careful...you're still very young! Living with someone and dating them are two different things. Its very diffcult, even when you have a good relationship. Why don't you just stay there for the summer and see how things go...and if that works out then move in with him. I wouldn't just throw my bag over my shoulder and go down there without a plan (i.e. a job lined up, a school that's accepted you). Your mom is right in being concerned b/c it seems to me like you don't have a real plan other than moving in with your boyfriend. If you want your mom to accept this plan you need to show her that you actually have a PLAN. Just moving in is not a plan. Apply to some schools down there, and apply for some jobs, and maybe she'll be more apt to support your move.
2006-11-19 12:34:18 · answer #1 · answered by tangyterp83 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eighteen is very young to be making this kind of committment. If you really plan to go to college, have you registered yet? Have you started job-hunting? Have you actually set a wedding date or is it still in the talking stage? Have you graduated from high school yet? It sounds as though he is already in Florida and you have been having a long-distance relationship with him. And at your age, that isn't a good way to start a marriage.
Tell your Mom you don't want to hurt her, and you respect her advice. Then take it. Finish high school, and do your first year of college at home. If you still feel the same way about him in a year, your Mom will probably be happy for you. But listen to the lady -- she's got a lot of experience, and she loves you too much to see you get hurt.
2006-11-19 20:37:05 · answer #2 · answered by old lady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As soon as you get to Florida, file a Declaration of Domicile so you can become a resident of Florida and not have to pay out of state tuition for school.
Understand that you will have to work your butt-off to keep a relationship, a job, a household and succeed in school at the same time. I guess it just boils down to how badly you want it.
2006-11-19 21:24:40 · answer #3 · answered by murkglider 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you only going down there to suck his dick and play wifey!! Youre mother is right youre GOING to end up with 5 kids and be on welfare and foodstamps. Sooner or later the boyfriend will break up with you for a big booty black girl with a pretty face!
2006-11-19 20:33:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
being that you already crushed your moms dreams for you. your mothers 100% right if you made plans to go to college in florida y didnt you dorm in school? instead of going to play house with a man your not even married to.ull still be close to him and mk ur mom happy. moving in with this guy is not the right thing to do its to fast no matter how much your in love things could happen. what if you move down there and hes totally diff? please dont go live with someone b4 ur married wat r u guys gonna do? have sex no supervision .... jus think about it
2006-11-19 20:34:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 18 and should make your own decisions. if your Mom is upset about you moving out and moving a distance away Then your Mom needs to talk about her feelings about it. Your life is your life. you need to do what you need to do. To me , it sounds like you are on the right path for a good life. Your Mom needs to let go.If she is upset , it is her up set. You can make her more comfortable by laying out your plans.
2006-11-19 20:39:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It seems like you got it all figured out. As long as you stick to your plans you should be fine. Your mom will come around. She just doesnt want to let go of her baby yet.
2006-11-19 20:31:44 · answer #7 · answered by skylar 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
go to college
2006-11-19 20:30:47 · answer #8 · answered by Good S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid I would have to tell her in English.
2006-11-19 20:32:31 · answer #9 · answered by Sunshine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋