What are some unique ways to talk to your teenager about sex without sounding like a nagging parent?

Question

Just need some creative ways to talk to my daugther so I want sound boring and she's not listening..and says..."ok mom..I know mom"...Please help

Answer 1

take her for a walk, or for a drive. and just ask her how stuff is going right now. And tell her the truth about stuff as you see it. Make sure she knows that she could get pregnant or get sick if she isn't careful. Do it gently. Do it nice. Don't nag. Just ask what she knows already about all this stuff. Tell her you want her to be smart. Dumb women don't last long in this tough world. And if she is smart, she will be strong. And gods know, we need more and more strong women. Look, you have a pretty good foundation already. She isn't yelling I HATE YOU MOM at the top of her lungs yet. Just talk hon. Don't worry about repeating yourself. She has teenage ears. They sometimes get stuffed up with music, school, boys, clothing, and all kinds of things we don't even remember anymore, being grown up old fuddies.

Answer 2

A good way to talk about sex without being "gross" is to buy a book that talks about all the things you'd like to talk about with your daughter. Leave the book on a bookshelf, not hidden, but not too obvious. Eventually your daughter will find it and (I promise) read the entire thing. It's a hands off approach, but it gets the entire message across without the threat of "okay mom, I know mom". As a mother you should always be approachable, that way if she has any follw up question she won't feel like she can't ask you.

Hope this helps. Good luck!

Answer 3

When she says that she knows... SHE KNOWS! Especially in this day and age... have some more trust. If you believe that she's smart enough to not have unprotected sex (with a girl, guy, or whatever), then there's no need to have "the talk." Just be BLUNT. Tell her, "If you ever have sex, which you better not until you're at least legal (depending on your beliefs because I personally don't care as long as no one gets knocked up or gets STDs...), use a condom. There. That's your sex talk, sweetie." I promise you that THAT will be attention-grabbing.

Answer 4

The best way is the tough way: talk about your own experiences and be honest. Nothing turns a teen off from sex more than the thought, "My mom told me about this! She did the same thing! I don't want to be that much like her!"

Then, when she is older, and she finds a young man she wants to settle down with, she will be ready for it and she will see it as a responsibility to her spouse, not as something to indulge in with every gene challenged specimen that comes down the pike.

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Answer 5

Ask her if she has any questions. Then when she claims to know it all .. go into a little story about what you learned and what a funny, uncomfortable talk you had with you mom.

Make her WANT to listen to your silly antics. Share with her a silly story. No need for you to be embarrassed, she knows you had sex at least once if she is with you. I always make the point of mentioning "we shared a body for 9 months now sit down and lets talk".

I never did understand why people have trouble talking about sex, birth control, abstinence, pleasure, and problems. I just blurt it out and soon its over, AND NO KID OF MINE can say I didn't inform them! Including our exchange students!!!

Answer 6

notice: you have had a intercourse communicate a LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOng time( terrific time between an prolonged time 8-12) in the past yet howdy greater effective late than on no account nicely according to hazard circulate have a females day holiday then circulate domicile have a cope with for the two one in all you. have colour photograph pictures of stds get condoms and a vegetable to coach putting them on and photograph of alternative risk-free practices then once you're taking a seat basically blur out ( have you ever've intercourse yet /or plan to any time quickly) the 1st sentence is often the toughest then tell her which you have confidence her yet you propose to make certain that interior the destiny ( while she is a hundred% waiting or greater) for intercourse she be attentive to the thank you to be sensible and risk-free. tell her the type you experience on intercourse at her age ( in case you waited until marriage or a sturdy age tell her) tell her each and every of the myths you right here and how they at the instant are not actual clarify start administration and how they artwork ( in case you could) and how effective they're.( all techniques pointing out that risk-free practices isn't a a hundred% yet greater effective than no longer something & greater risk-free practices is greater effective different than 2 condoms male/or female) with the stds percentexplain what they're how you may get them, tell her that some human beings might have an std and no tutor any element so as that they could constantly be verify. constantly ask her if she ask any question and is familiar with tell what she could do until now having intercourse: being a hundred% waiting or greater being knowledgeable on what could take place, circulate to the gyno until now having intercourse and locate the start administration precise for her. tell her what you will possibly do if she pick to have intercourse below 18 : occasion: i might tell my daughter that i might pay for her first start administration yet she could get a activity and pay me for something, she additionally could initiate going to the gyno until now having intercourse and each year, after the long communicate and assembly the guy. save clam do no longer yell, and if she does not experience risk-free confiding to you enable her meet a gyno so at lest she as some one with each and every of the documents that she would be in a position to have confidence.

Answer 7

It's best to find out how much she knows already. Parents have a tendency to talk AT their children.
If all else fails you could tell her bluntly that sex is not a pasttime and she could put her own health and life on the line if she engages in irresponsible sex.

Answer 8

You could start out asking her questions about her thoughts and feelings about sex. I have had a few discussions with my G-daughter and that is how I have started some of them. I have also had her tell me things that are going on at school and when she mentions something then I will ask questions again. After asking her and getting her thoughts I will give her mine, and it is amazing how a lot of hers are similar to mine.
She is 16 and yes still a virgin. I know because of our talks and I trust her. She also states that she doesn't plan on having sex until she gets married.

Answer 9

When the time came to talk to my son, I waited until it was just him and me, riding in the car. I told him we needed to chat about something very important and it wasn't only for him, but for me, too. I explained the way things were when I was his age and asked him to tell me if things had changed. I told him that being a parent didn't come with a book that tells you how, so I do my best to lead you in the right direction, but I need your input to do it. I told him he should always feel comfortable coming to me to ask any questions, and even if it wasn't easy, maybe we could both learn together. He still thanks me for that talk.

Answer 10

There is a book called "It's Perfectly Normal". That is an excellent book and covers a little bit of everything. See link below for what cover of book looks like and description. Good luck!

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