im gay so its even harder to let a girl down when she lks me since I dont want 2 hurt her but at the same time, im latino and christian so it doesnt look rite if i dont hav a girl by my side. I know that most people are going to say that if I dont lk a girl I'm hurting her even more by going out w/her but still just try not to criticize me so much...
2006-11-19 11:48:31 · 7 answers · asked by chillguy6 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You should only go out with a girl if she interests you. not if u just want a girlfriend.
2006-11-19 11:54:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it will just become worse when it later comes out that you are gay because even those who are accepting of gay people will feel that you are a liar, and that will make it harder on you.
I know it's difficult, but you should be true to yourself, because if you are not true to yourself, then there will be others who will think it is okay to hide in the closet and lead a girl on to thinking that he likes her when he really doesn't. By lying about this, you will continue a vicious cycle of being in the closet and being a liar, if you can break the cycle, then others can break it as well and it will remove this pressure to like someone you don't like simply because that is "expected" of you.
2006-11-19 21:08:51 · answer #2 · answered by Michael M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a straight man i can give you the best advice. If she is beautiful and you love her as a friend ofcourse because you are gay go out with her BUT, tell her that you are gay and she better not fall in love with you because she is going to get hurt. Once you are onest about it and she still wants to go out with you that means she just likes you sexualy as a man, nothing wrong with that you can pretend that you are having fun and bang the chick, Again make sure she understand that you can not be there for ever and ever and you only have sex with her cause she is hot and she is your friend. She will be fine with it, and hell you will have a straight experience,,, how hard can it be to satify a woman???? let me know how it turns out....remember if you dont take care of her some other straight facker will and he will hurt her, you will just help her cause you will be onest....
2006-11-19 19:57:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say no. You don't have to go out with her just because she likes you, and you don't have to let her down even more by going out with her. And you don't need a girlfriend if you don't want one. It is completely up to you to decide what is best for you. If she likes you just tell her that you are gay but that if she's ok with that you can still be friends. You'll know that if she is then she is worth your friendship and if she isn't then you don't need her attention. Do what you think is right, don't need people telling you who you should date or what you should think is right.
2006-11-19 20:33:20 · answer #4 · answered by starr_wix_wickens_aka.starreyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do Not Use Women. You would not want to be used would you? Come on. I am sorry if your culture makes it hard on you to come out, but that is no excuse for leading an innocent human being on. Have some dignity and tell the girl up front that you are gay but need an escort.
2006-11-19 19:52:38 · answer #5 · answered by Isis 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. Don't let society turn you into manipulative filth. If you don't feel comfortable dating men then no one is gonna force you, but you have no right to manipulate women because of it.
If you want to pretend to go out with her and she's okay with it then go ahead, it's a little dishonest for my tastes but whatever. Just don't lead her on.
2006-11-19 20:09:45 · answer #6 · answered by Rageling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will be easier if you let her down easy from the very beginnin instead of startin a relationship and worry about tryin to hide your true colors every second your together thats like going back into the closet and i kno you dont wanna do that it will be easier on the both of you and this way your not wastin her time on somthin that would end badly anyway and your not stoppin yourself from achieving wat you really want. but you already knew that ....didnt you. hope this helps a lil
2006-11-19 21:48:43 · answer #7 · answered by HP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋