buys you stuff... but doesn't say "I love you."
What if he pays your rent.... but doesn't kiss you.
What if he talks to you about stuff, but doesn't care to meet your family or friends and doesn't want you to meet his.
What if he pays the bills... but doesn't touch you.
Says "no" all the time, but later does what you asked.
Is cold and removed, but doesn't want you to go.
What if you adore him and can't stand feeling like a fool for staying, but can't leave because you adore him.
And this goes on for years.
What would you do?
2006-11-19 11:48:09 · 19 answers · asked by Ade 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Mine sounds just like yours as though they were twins or the same person. Only thing that is different in the two of them is the fact that we do (did) sleep together and we did make love all the time. Other than that, they sound like the same guy. I did finally give him a wake up call and moved out. He is starting to change his attitude toward me now, but I'm going to hold out a little longer.
2006-11-19 12:56:34 · answer #1 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
All you have discribed indicate a Sugar Daddy.You never say i love him,You say Adore him.Two totally different words,with two totally different meanings.Also it is control over what you say and do.As long as he does these things for you and you let him.You won't have much say so in any matter.Your like a puppet on a string.He is navigating your every move.If that's what you like,then stay.If not then leave and make your own life,and learn to do without the stuff he buys.You are capable of paying your own rent and pay your own bills if you really want to be your own person.
2006-11-20 20:05:24 · answer #2 · answered by Willnotlietoyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he was raised in a freezer. Paying the bills is good, doing what I asked is good, but at some point along the way there has to be some lovin'. Without the touch of another human, we would go crazy. Not too sure I would become more involved with this individual, I would deem his actions too murderous and leave.
2006-11-19 19:52:08 · answer #3 · answered by Special K 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
To me this is very clear how he feels. He doesn't really want you but doesn't want for any other man to have you. He is sort of like holding onto you in his own little world, but doesn't really love you at all. You need to leave this guy and find someone who will love you the way you deserve to be loved and someone who will be there for you through thick and thin. Someone who adores you so much he wants the whole world to know you and that he loves you. Get away from this hold you have on this guy. He is just a waste of your time and if you continue to stay with him, it will get harder and harder to leave him. This relationship you have with him is going absolutely no where. I think deep down you know this and I know it hurts, but move on and get someone who will treat you right. Good luck.
2006-11-19 19:54:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he doesn't want to touch you there could be a couple of problems:
1 He may be afraid of intimacy
2 He may suffer from erectile dysfunction and not want to start something he cannot finish.
2006-11-19 20:44:27 · answer #5 · answered by miner32001 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would ask myself if I feel happy, if I do is my decision to accept the reality and facts. If I don't I would try to do something to change the situation, one thing would be approaching him to let him know about my feelings and what would make me happier, if he is not willing to do his own part, then the other thing is to end it.
2006-11-19 20:59:45 · answer #6 · answered by Lilian 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What if you sat down with him and had a long talk to find out all the answers to all these what if questions you have??
2006-11-19 22:12:11 · answer #7 · answered by john316tdh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess it all depends on your situation. I guess this cannot go on forever. You know what to do. Just go with it. I would say that your feelings or person is being bought.
2006-11-19 19:51:41 · answer #8 · answered by CK1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him you love him....kiss him...take him to your family..thouch him....stay with him....stop beating around the bush girl. take a step he could just be verrry shy and is scared to take the first step. you dont want to spend your hole life like that so just do it now or it will get more akward
2006-11-19 19:53:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Divorce him..
The best way to mend a broken heart is to find a new love..
2006-11-19 19:50:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋