I want to become a better communicator of my thoughts and feelings, and want to be expressive, opinionated, and open, even when not asked to. How could I work on these qualities?
2006-11-19 11:42:37 · 9 answers · asked by carl 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You underestimate yourself. This question seemed quite articulate to me so I researched some of your Questions and Answers and "articulation" is NOT a problem for you. You definitely express yourself much better than the average person.
So, perhaps it is that you are, indeed, shy. Others gave good advice about getting over shyness so I will just say this:
You sound like a very interesting person whom I would actually enjoy speaking with, at a party, over dinner, at a gathering. (I am not hitting on you, I'm married. But I like conversing with people with interesting ideas FAR more than with people who just flap their gums). So the next time you find yourself in a situation where you want to talk.... just think about what I have told you.
:-)
2006-11-19 12:01:19 · answer #1 · answered by Yinzer from Sixburgh 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are shy, force yourself to be in situations where you'll have to talk, or communicate an opinion. Join Toastmasters (or another local public speaking group), take community college classes in liberal arts or social sciences that revolve around dynamic opinions and debate, join a book club which will be a smaller and more intimate environment for you to voice your views, or just get yourself out in more social situations where you'll want to talk to people--like bars, coffee shops, etc.
If you're worried about how to communicate your ideas, make sure you read and write every day. Read newspapers, magazines, and all sorts of books--this will give you a great foundation of topics about which to talk about, and it will likely increase your vocabulary, so you'll feel more articulate. Keep a journal, too. Cut out interesting clips from what you've been reading and comment on them, or just write in general diary format.
Hope this helps!
2006-11-19 19:51:14 · answer #2 · answered by lanterne_rouge 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Step 1: CONFIDENCE!!!!! To be someone who is outloud about everything, you have to know you're the ****! Think of yourself as someone so cool,so important, that everyone wants to know what you think. Just make sure you don't get too cocky, or no one will like you.
Step 2: THINK FIRST!!! Being opinionated and talking out your *** are two different things. Recognize what you think on the said topic and then say it.
Step 3: DON'T SWEAT!!! Why be afraid to say what you want? It's not like a chick is gonna pull a gun and kill you just because you told her she's hot! I always think "what's the worst case scenario?" and in the case of talking to people it's just being laughed at....but if you got step 1 covered, you shouldn't care if someone laughs at you. I mean it's not like 5 years down the road that chick will turn to her friend and be like "Remember that time that dude just out and told me I was hot? OMG he was so dumb". What do you have to lose that is worth being shy for?
"It's called esteem of your mothafucken self!!!"-Kat Williams
2006-11-19 20:10:39 · answer #3 · answered by rwesheep 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seriously? If so, look into "Toastmasters". It's people who get together weekly to listen to each other's prepared speeches on a given topic. I knew an extremely shy person who stuttered, who overcame both by joining Toastmasters.
2006-11-19 19:53:36 · answer #4 · answered by Miz Teri 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Learn to know yourself,
don't become too opiniated; leave some room for others to speak,
and just practise talking within groups.
2006-11-19 19:49:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
read to expand your vocabulary and don't try to be the first to respond or speak up all the time; if you think about what to say before you speak your answers will be more intelligent and articulated
2006-11-19 19:46:11 · answer #6 · answered by damnitjannet09 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm well when ur talking to people about stuff that happend to u or sumthing tell about how u felt about it. like if u went on a roller coaster for the first time and it wus super fun and ur telling sum1 about it. instead of saying i went on a roller coaster for the first time and it wus fun say i went on a roller coaster of the first time, it wus so much fun. i felt like i was flying. i felt....blah blah blah and so on
2006-11-19 19:46:40 · answer #7 · answered by V 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
basically whenever you have an idea/thought/feeling that you feel you want to express.....just say it!
yeah, i'm kinda like that too
good luck!
2006-11-19 19:44:30 · answer #8 · answered by maya 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
force it, engage people in conversation
2006-11-19 19:44:29 · answer #9 · answered by Bamos 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋