Possibly Fake Friend?

Question

Hi, i have a "friend" who recently thought it was a good idea to bring up my past and throw it in my face, when she, at the same time has not had too good of a past herself. Sometimes the things she says is hypocritical but i know that we are imperfect, so i try to overlook those things sometimes. like one minute she will act christian, and the next minute she doesnt want to act christian. she contradicts alot of things she says and this bothers me. I dont know if i should drop her as a friend or if i should tell her whats bothering me. shes 25 years old!! and she made her parents think i MADE her do something bad. she is responsible for her OWN actions.. dont blame me! anyway, im thinkin about calin her this evening and i know shes gonna ask me why i havent talked to her in almost a month.. anyone got some good advice for me to say when i call her?? thanks

Answer 1

just go with the conversation you haven't spoken for a month, i am sure that you can have a decent conversation with her tonite that does not have to have a bad vibe on it.

just note the things she does that really push your buttons, and the next time she does it, call her on her actions right then and there.... eventually she will realize what she is doing and will either make moves to improve herself, or not. by then it prob won't matter, because she won't want to surround herself with people who notice her flaws anyway.

it is hard for people to change, but even harder for them to understand the way they come off to other people, but if you are honest and call her out on these things, at least in that moment she will be forced to think about what she just said and how it is a contradiciton, if she choses not to improve herself then that is her life long loss, not yours.

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Answer 2

ok thats a dum relationship if you are grown its how you should act but have fun every once in awhile. lifes way too short to do all this. friends like that keep you away from meeting other people. you get so focused on 1 person then the other good people out there are left at the deep end. if she does ask why then tell her. tell her what she is doing and its immature and you could give her another chance and thats it nothing elese...if you want to either that or do it for the rest of your life!!!

Answer 3

DITCH THEM! i only went with the aid of a very comparable subject. you will benefit acquaintances bvack interior a month tops. and have confidence ME in spite of in case you have one stable pal for a at the same time as its extra suitable then having damaging ones. And by utilising staying with undesirable acquaintances you should be gaining a bad acceptance and it will make it harder to depart them so only pull out now!

Answer 4

Sometime we have friends who are loyal and some who aren;t And then we have those friends who think they are perfect and that nobody else can be perfect like them. And when you do something they think is wrong, they will throw it in your face and tellyou that you have problems and don't understand, etc...
Dump this friend . YOu don't need friends like this.

Answer 5

tell her how you feel, but true friends don't make others feel as if they are a bad influence on them they would know that they are accountable for their own actions and have to be accountable for them without bringing someone else into it....

Answer 6

if you haven't called her in almost a month, i'm sure she found someone else to take her bs. if she ever comes around, just tell her how you feel and that it would be best if you two never talked again.

Answer 7

Dump her. You're right to call her a "friend". Make sure you tell her why, just incase it's a misunderstanding.Doubt that though.

Answer 8

Find somethings to throw back in her face.

Answer 9

friends don't rub painful things in your face it's not a "Friend" thing to do, she was wring, ur better off

Answer 10

That ***** doesn't sound like a friend to me