How do you see the good in each situation in life?

Question

I don't see any good in my situation in my life.

I divorced my husband and he has custody of my child who lives in another state. My child is not doing well in school or emotionally or mentally. She needs help and says that she needs a friend and help with school.

I have started a new job that I can't stand. Each and every minute is terrible. There was no training provided and they have already asked me to work on Saturday when I just started on Monday. When I interviewed, they said there was work/ life balance.

I am living with my parents, but do not want to discuss my feelings with them. They say that I will have to sacrifice my life if I go back to live with my ex and child.

My ex constantly sends me mean and nasty e-mails.

My child was here for the summer with me. I promised her that I would come back and live with her, but decided not because I saw my ex being abusive and controlling again.

Answer 1

It would be nice if you could have custody of your daughter, if you want. Sounds like your ex is a real jerk. Can't you use that against him somehow?
As for you job, politely ask (i.e. remind) them what the policy is regarding working weekends since you were told in the interview that you would have more time for your personal life. But, maybe this is a 1-time thing or they're testing your loyalty to the company or something. Work this Saturday, but when it comes up again ask about it. In the meantime, keep looking for a new job. No need to be miserable.
Sometimes life really sucks. But, I just assume that God has me where I am for a reason. Maybe you are supposed to learn something about yourself and figure out your priorities. Is there anyone you can discuss your problems with? You don't want to keep it bottled up inside. Good Luck to you.

Answer 2

I'v been there 3 times, there is so much hell on earth, however if u stay in the game long enough, (and not shoot out your brains like my beautiful sister in law) then you will again experience the most wonderful heaven on earth, you'll see hang in there, and while the xmen has the kid let him send and say nasty stuff, just keep being sweet, quit your job if u want and work 2 smaller ones for now, join some stupid group and after awhile you'll find new friends and people to talk to.

Answer 3

First of all, stop making promises to your child that you cant keep. Its just not fair.Work at your job and at the same time, search for one you would like better. Save your money, get a place of your own, prove that you can take care of your child, and get him or her back.Make something of your life. Only you can do that.If your ex was abusive, don't you worry about the child's environment, or even the child's safety? There is a bright side to your life. You just have to make one.

Answer 4

Your daughter needs you and she needs some emotional help - get her into therapy and seek some for yourself as well. Don't live with your x but move close enough so you can help support your daughter. She should be your number one priority. If your x was abusive to you don't you think there is a possibility he can harm your daughter. How is it that he has custody if he is abusive? You need help. Please get it!! God Bless!!

Answer 5

You can't always see the good in each situation, sometimes it looks and feels terrible and you wonder why. Why me? Why this?

The best you can do is to keep a faith that sustains you and never give up hope. We can't understand why things happen as they do and sometimes we see why things happened in retrospect.

Answer 6

Why are you leaving your child with a abusive/controling person?...Your child should come first in your life always.You can have your child and not your husband you know...Me? I would move back to be near my child...(not with him) Your child needs you...and stability in her life...You don't say how old she is...First thing I would do is go to court and do right by that child....

Answer 7

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Answer 8

for one stay away from that jerk. second work hard and get your life on track because if you cant help your self how can you help your daughter. i know it sucks becuz im in a similiar problem.but be strong and sooner or later stuff will work out . but if you give up how can you help your daughter later.this is yor chance to get stuff in order.

Answer 9

I force myself to see the good in each situation
some days it works.. other days- it doesn't
BUT the more you force yourself to act positive , the easier it will get and someday you will actually believe again

Answer 10

here is what you need to do....
you should move out of your parents house
and start thinking about what 's important to you!!! and your child... not to your ex or parents... You should start making decisions on your own...and don't let your parents dictate your life....