i just found out i was pregnant i'm only 15 what do i do?

Question

i was raped

Answer 1

Tell your parents and you guys should sit down and talk about your options

Answer 2

I'm going to assume that you are pregnant by the same guy who was/is abusing you? Statistics show that the incidence of violence go up markedly during pregnancy. And that pregnant women who were abused before getting pregnant have a much higher incidence of being murdered by their significant other than women whe have not been abused before pregnancy.
That being said.....
1) Talk to your parents, a teacher, a friend's parent about the pregnancy.
2) Talk you your parents, a teacher, etc about the guy abusing you.
3) Talk with the police about a restraining order.
4) Begin prenatal care, and keep all of your appointments.
5) With your mom see a counselor about your options after the baby is born - keeping or placing for adoption. If you decide to keep the baby...
6) See an attorney about termination of the guy's parental rights, or how to go about securing child support after you deliver. You're going to have to decide if you want the guy in your life and your child's life after you deliver.
7) Do not...DO NOT put yourself in any situation that might result in you being alone with the guy.--------Abusers don't change unless they really want to - AND they have had anger management counseling.
I know that's a lot to put on a 15 year old, but you have a baby to think about now - and that means growing up fast. It doesn't mean being alone though. If your parents aren't supportive, again turn to a teacher you trust, a friend's parent, someone from church or - go to your school counselor and ask for a referral to "children's services". They can intercede for you and get you the help and resources you need.
Best of luck to you, hun.

Answer 3

U r to young to have a baby girl but I had my first when I was 17 and im 27 now and have 4 it is alot of work and money but if u really want this baby then do the best u can I do I dont have much a life but I have 4 so dont have anymore till ur ready good luck u will be ok if u have any questions girl email me at [e-mail]

Answer 4

If you are sure you are pregnant you have to first gain the courage to tell your parents and make it clear that you want to be part of the decision making. Whatever they decide does not have to be what you should do. The choice is up to you in the end so make it clear to them.

So you can consider the options. Abortion, Adoption or to keep the baby. You should also tell the father and you should both decide. But really, everything is up to you. Make sure you have a good support system and work out any differences between your family. Your parents might be upset and it's important you communicate with them and put all feelings to rest and really think about the future.

Also, finish school.

Answer 5

You are not the first person to have this sort of dilemma: Tell your Mom or Dad now so you can know all your options and they can help you. I know you are thinking you do not want to tell them but it really is best unless you fear they will harm you.

If you fear bodily harm from anyone (parents or baby's father) then go and tell a teacher you trust or the guidance counselor at your school; these people are professionals and they will get you connected so you can get some help. You do not have to deal with this alone and you should not deal with this alone because too many things have gone wrong to girls who had no idea what they were doing.

Hiding the pregnancy will not be good for your health or the baby's (should you decide to go through with the pregnancy). If you decide to terminate it is best to do so within the first 3 months. There are plenty of people wanting to adopt and and they will pay for your expenses while you are pregnant.

Pregnancy is very hard on a young body.

You have to do what you think is right. Please do not listen to all these people who are going to try to tell you not to have the baby or to have the baby because they are anti-abortion: they are not the ones with the choices to make: you are the one who decides for yourself and the child.

You need to know all of your options.

Answer 6

What you do in the end is ultimately your decision. Obviously you are feeling a little scared, possibly even guilty depending on if this was a voluntary action or the result of something that was forced or coerced. Depending how helpful your parents are you should probably confide in them and let them help you. I'm sure they will be upset and it will be hard to do but in the long run it is probably the smart thing to do. (obviously I don't know your situation so you would be the better judge) As for the father to be, if he's around the same age as you there really isn't much he can do for you right now so whether you tell him is really up to you. If you tell him looking for child support I can tell you dropping out of high school to get a job to pay child support is not going to get either of you anywhere. It is really your parents you have to lean on for support right now. The best way to get their support is to apologize to them for your irresponsible behavior and promise to change that behavior (then actually do that) Do not drop out of school. You care about your child and you want to do the best thing for that little one growing inside you. The best thing for that child is for both parents to at least graduate high school, possibly go to a community college or university depending on how much money you have (any amount of college really makes a difference, let me tell you!) Then you can support your child and insure the baby has a good life as well. The situation may seem dire to you right now, and it is a difficult thing to go through, obviously, so make sure you have the support you need from family, do whatever you need to get that support, and 20 years from now you could be a very proud mom. Take care of yourself, eat well, see a doctor regularly, take vitamins, make sure someone knows whats going on with you and make sure you have someone you can confide in. You have a bigger responsibility than just yourself now, you have to grow up quickly and that can be very difficult and stressful. The best advice I can give you from my point of view is this, become educated, be sure to make yourself smart about everything from now on, take control and be decisive, don't do anything on impulse.

Answer 7

Go to the police station, let the police handle the criminal act, talk to your parents, I am sure they are already aware of the rape, tell them that now you are pregnant. Decide whether to keep the baby, this is the only case where I agree with abortion, if you decide to keep the baby it is better to give it up for adoption, you are just a little girl, not even fully grown yet with so much to look forward to so, ACT NOW.

Answer 8

Go see an ob/gyn, and talk to your parents (or another trusted adult). This is too big of a decision for a young person (or even an adult) to handle alone. You are going to need support and help- not only with dealing with things like insurance (you are on your parent's, so they will have to sign for doc's visits and stuff), but you will also need emotional help. Being pregnant is an emotional time- and being as young as you are, very scary. You need the help of a trusted adult, and you need to talk to the father of the baby and his parents. Good luck!

Answer 9

Discuss this with an adult that you can confide in to help make the right decision for YOU.
No one is going to be able to tell you the right or wrong thing to do. The most important thing here is you don't have to do (what ever you choose) alone - I'm sure you have loving family and friends around you to support your choice.
Best of luck hun.

Answer 10

This is a very hard question and answer to have to deal with you are very young and have a whole life ahead of ya having a child this young and the possibility of having to take care of the baby on your own is gonna be very difficult. I had my baby at 22 now am 27 her father and i are still together have decent jobs work 40 hours a week and it's still very hard. I'm not directing you towards abortion because theres also other options but i know its hard because i have gone through it but at a older age. it is very hard

Answer 11

Allison,

If you can talk to your parents, go seek their advice first. It'll take a lot of courage but in the long run, it will be worth it.

If your parents are not the type that you can run to then I suggest finding the nearest Planned Parenthood and to make an appointment with them about what to do:

http://www.plannedparenthood.org/

Either way, millions of young women go through this everyday but just realize that you aren't alone.