My husband says he's going through a mid life crisis. I have feelings he might have had an affair but can not prove it just yet. One day we talk he says he loves me then the next day he says he doesn't think he wants to be married anymore. He's swaying back and forth everyday. So at this time I feel like a legal seperation might give us both the time to decide what we want to do. But I have a problem, we have 2 cars and both cars are in my name (loan and title). He has one of the cars right now. But if I give him the car in a legal seperation I won't be doing the payments or insurance anymore. Problem is that his DL is suspended and won't be fixed untill he pays off over $5000 in fines and spends 30 days in jail (which he won't do). So if I give him the car and he has an accident will I be held liable? Even if I have a legal piece of paper saying he took full responsibility? He's offering to pay both car payments as long as I keep the insurance. What do I do? Where do I stand?
2006-11-19 10:29:37 · 7 answers · asked by icesweetp 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We are currently living apart. His idea I might add. 2 days ago he says to me that if I loved him I wouldn't have left him. But he asked me to come home to my parents for a little while so we could think and get our heads together. He's so hot then cold then hot then cold that my head is spinning and I'm trying to fix everything to where I am covered if something happens while we are apart or do decide to get a divorce.
2006-11-19 10:31:49 · update #1
Neither of us have the money for a lawyer. We have no children together so the only dispute is the car.
2006-11-19 10:33:55 · update #2
YES I STILL LOVE HIM. But my feelings for him are not affecting the way he's acting toward me. Or the fact that he hasn't called me in 2 days now. He won't answer my calls or voicemails at all.
2006-11-19 10:37:03 · update #3
Knowing about his suspended license and letting him use your car anyways still make you liable for anything he gets into with the car. Also just because your living apart still make you married to him. Any paper he signs is no good in this case because of what you know. It sounds like he is going thru a mid life crisis real bad as hes real confused and has no idea what he wants. As for the cars he knows exactly what he has to do to remedy the problem but yet still avoids it and lets you worry. Not a good scenario here. You just have to figure out whether youre better off with or without him and go from there. Good luck
2006-11-19 10:56:39 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do a legal seperation you don't have to give him a car. That and I don't know what state you live in but if he is driving the care and gets stops the car will be taken away and you will get in turble to becuase DL is suspended. And if he dosn't know from one day from the next if he loves you it's not that if he loves you get's if he walk to walk way from the money. You may not have a lot but I can tell that you are the one has the money so it's not love anymore to him that he doesn't know from day to day it's can i find someone new like you that will do everything you do but new because for what ever reason he doesn't want to be their anymore. Maybe you stop the money ? But please look at everything before you do anything because you might see something their you didn't see before because you never see the turth inless you are a out sider so step back And look at your marriage before you do anything. I wish you hope to see what ever it is you need to see andd to have a wounderful life .
2006-11-19 10:48:15 · answer #2 · answered by lostsoul 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You will commit a insurance fraud if you enter in such arrangement. The insurance fraud is in all state a felony punishable by fines and jail time. Further more the car he will be writing will not be insured. If he drives car with suspended DL you also committed similar crime. and you will be liable also for the damage caused by him.
I think you should get legal advise now and soon.
2006-11-19 10:39:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should try not to baby him. i realize that you care about him, and don't want to put him in the position of not having a vehicle, but i would venture a guess that some of your marital problems may stem from the fact that he is acting adolescent..... he must have done something pretty serious to be fined that much money and to have to do 30 days in jail... he's needs to take his punishment like a man, and you should not allow him to put you in a dangerous situation.
send him on his way, and while he thinks about your relationship and what to do... have him think also about cleaning up his record.
i think he is cheating on you... 1, because you suspect it. 2, because you haven't heard from him in 2 days.
2006-11-19 10:48:04 · answer #4 · answered by don't be rude. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer fast and stop calling him.If he wants to work things out, let him come to you. You deserve better than to have someone who doesnt love you with his whole being.If he calls, tell him you want all of him, or nothing.In the mean time, get a lawyer, start some kind of proceedings and protect yourself. And, get the car back, or out of your name.
2006-11-19 11:03:01 · answer #5 · answered by me 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer to protect yourself.
2006-11-19 10:32:22 · answer #6 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are about to divorce and you think about money? Maybe you should think one more time: do you stil love him?
2006-11-19 10:33:08 · answer #7 · answered by alexu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋