is this normal?

Question

okay well im 13 and i feel depressed. i feel really lonely lately. i cant tell my parents cause they are always to busy, or we r constantilly gettin into fights(about being independant). wat should i do?i saw a counsellor but it didnt work. i keep all my feelings inside, and if i tell my mom, she doesnt really mention or ask about it again. i cant tell my friends cause it never really comes up in a conversation. please dont say that im to young to be feeling depressed

Answer 1

Of course you're not too young to feel depression! What you feel is very real. I'm 42 but I'll tell you right now, I remember when I was 17 and felt my life was in total and complete turmoil and I said to myself 'I'll never, ever forget how I'm feeling right now and how difficult it is to cope with life'. At the time it was so overwhelming. The changes you're experiencing with your hormones at the age of 13 is probably one of the most difficult periods of time you'll experience YOUR ENTIRE LIFE! The good thing about that is, it can (and will) get better. I feel for you like you wouldn't beleive. My best advice would be 'ride the wave' of life. Yes, it's unbelivably hard but I promise you, you'll feel better and things will be in better perspective as you grow a bit older. Truthfully, there's no quick solution. Please try to accept that it's very, very natural to feel like you do. Try to find a girlfriend who's going through the same thing so you can voice your feelings. If you feel you can't confide in anyone, remember your strengths and focus on them. You are a valuable, worthy person who, like many adults, is going through a difficult time. We're all faced with challenges no matter what our age but I'll be the first to say, those years between 13-17 are the most challenging. Think of it as looking towards the light at the end of the tunnel where you'll grow into adulthood and this difficult time will just be part of your journey. I wish you all the luck in the world but I know you'll do o.k. :-)

Answer 2

yeah it does sound pretty normal when i was your age thats pretty much sums it up you just feel like crap like no one cares things seem so pointless you just want some one to understand and that will listen and not boss you around . It prolly wont help but..... dont worry about it to much... it does get better though you may go through an angry phase too where everybody that you care about just starts to really piss you off. as far as talking to your friends sometimes their is no rite moment just call one up to talk to if that friend dosnt work call a different one up and keep calling them until you feel at least a little better and maybe not so out alone in the dark most of your friends prolly feel the same at times. to maybe your parents are a little self absorbed right now to let you lean on them it kind of sucks growing up especially at that age 13 it can can be cruel year for you. just grin and bear it try to make the best of it before to long you'll get a license and be working and wish you could be 13 again sorry for writing a book hope you dont think im lecturing you

Answer 3

I think what you are feeling is normal and yes even 5 year olds can get depressed, as to you problem I know it is difficult but if you can do some volunteer work it will I promise help you, helping others is a soul refresher, Find a place that really appeals to you , a seniors Home. a animal shelter, or animal hospital always needs people that will walk animals or feed them, there are so many places that need you and you need them go get it OK. Please try

Answer 4

Do you have a friend who's parents you feel close with? Perhaps their mom/dad. Or a teacher, or if you go to church someone with your youth group? You definitely can be depressed at your age. Adolescence is a difficult time. I understand what you are going thru. My parents never "got it" when I tried to talk to them about stuff. They were always to "busy". Quite frankly I don't think they knew what to do. At your age, its hard to tell friends because of what they may think, but perhaps telling a best friend who you trust may help also. Growing up is tough. Hugs and Good Luck to you. You will make it. ; )

Answer 5

Whether or not mom & dad are too busy.. You need to be heard by them. I would see your guidance counselor at school. Maybe with help from school, mom & dad can slow down the pace & really absorb what you are trying to tell them. Even though we don't say it all the time, our kids are our world. Your parents would not want you feeling this way & would want to help.

Answer 6

hey jaskiran!!!!!I am 13 myself & i thoroughly understand what u r facing, since i have transfered, my life's become hell.I was a teacher's pet,studious,a topper & i used to love spending time with my friends, but now........I am in the same condition as u.Even though I have friends i don't feel like going out with them.THUS, I am lonely.But u have to talk to ur parents & make them understand.Life is really short & u have to live it.Ifeel out of ur friends u got to find a true one.Meanwhile u have to do something that makes u chirpy.But what is the reason of ur depression????find out & u can contact me 'cause i feel as i am suffering from the same situation, I can understand u.ALL THE BEST!!!!!

Answer 7

if you're a christian, go see your pastor. if you're not a Christian, go find a pastor. I know it sounds dumb if you're not a christian, but it probably is the answer. By the way, I'm 14 so I know how you feel about people think we're are too young to have feelings and that's sooooo dumb. (Sorry for people of other religions, but I am a Christians and I know that MY pastor could help me if I was in the same situation.)

Answer 8

you need to talk about it to someone not a whole bunch of random people on the internet. find someone you can trust that will actually listen. it could be a teacher a relitive like a grandparent or an aunt or cousin or maybe your best friend but seriously it will get better if you can actually talk about it and let the whole thing out.

Answer 9

I think you need to go back to your conselour and let them know that something is really bothering your and that your really depressed. If that doesnt work you should go to your parents and express everything thats on your mind. Whether it involves screaming, crying or alot of both.Something needs to get said.

Answer 10

Ask your family physician. He will refer you to a qualified professional. To fix anything you need to know what is wrong first but don't despair you are not alone and you can be helped.