I confronted him he denied, of course,got sent to iraq for a year I waited, said he wanted to get married but treated me wrong , then said he was just checking out his options,loved me but wasnt in love with me. then said he just wants me to love him with all my heart , and i never trusted him gee wonder why lol. but when i play it out in my mind he says here we go again then turns around and goes to sleep on me . never really snuggles unless its trying to get intimate , got 2 girls with him 11 and 6 i thought he loved me was always there for me , now its like , get over it . also told me could of been with this option if he wasnt with me , says he felt it was fate, I said well you better take it then , may never come again , but says be quite i love you, but i sure dont feel it much anymore just heart ache and tears. that he doesnt even care. and He was so good to me before so iam just soo shocked and hurt,
2006-11-19 10:21:48 · 17 answers · asked by dontcha 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Loves you , but isn't "in love with you"? What a line of crap!! Girl, move on!!
2006-11-19 10:28:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him
Take your kids and go
Make sure you have evidence of his cheating
Get everything that you are owed
House
Car
Investments
Alimony
Child support
You waited for him while he went to war. He is back now. Move on. He already has!
If he does not love you that is fine but make dam sure he provides to the fullest extent for his children.
Do you want you daughters to grow up with this example?
Then doom them to the same situation?
Don’t let you daughter think this is normal!
It is never too late to correct your mistake of assuming that he loved you & could be faithful.
2006-11-19 18:28:30 · answer #2 · answered by Ryce Queen 13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes when troops go to war esp. Iraq they come back acting totally different ( not making excuses). They are waverly minded. We have to be sensitive b/c we don't know what they engaged in or had to do. I suggest you try to encourage him to go to counseling and see how it goes from there. You could give him an ultimatum but it could come back to haunt you. If he does decidce to marry you, he may throw up in your face later that you forced him. Here are 3 options that I can think of: go ahead and give him the ultimatum leave him and give him the chance to come around and make up his mind or 3 leave him for good I know it will be hard but it will be for the better.Someone will find you that will give you the desires of your heart!
2006-11-19 18:30:46 · answer #3 · answered by lovelife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you felt after you saw his profile online. It was shock and hurt and a tears in the eye too. That is how I felt. I been with my hubby for 8 yrs he is my 1st love and I never thought that we will end up like this a open marriage. I have 2 kids with him.
My hubby didn't interest in having sex with me. We only have sex no more than 3 times a month. Now he is online most of the time at house. His profile in Yahoo and adult dating. Be honest with you men will never pose their profile online ONLY NO more love.
Here is the answer for you question that He say he love you but not in love with you. It mean that he just love and care about you but he is not in love with you. No more feeling in the heart. That mean he not in love with you as B4, so it sound like as a friend.
I also say that to my hubby I love him but not in love with him. I stayed married b/c the kids but no more feeling, love. I love my hubby as a friend as a father of my kids. I care about him but not
inlove with him.
2006-11-19 18:45:35 · answer #4 · answered by prettysweetrite 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OUCH!
You are a convenience for this guy. A soft place to rest when he needs you.
Listen to what he is telling you.
You deserve happiness and respect. Give it to yourself and the rest will come easily and you will know what you have to do. Take care of your heart. It is warm and kind.
2006-11-19 18:26:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why give him an option to stay?! Kick his a$$ out and move on with your life! Don't give the man so much power!!
2006-11-19 19:00:22 · answer #6 · answered by bluez 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cut your losses and leave him. Any man should be willing to give it all if he really loves you, but he obviously doesn't. if he doesn't even want to talk about it, that should be a flag because he may be trying to hide something.
2006-11-19 18:25:35 · answer #7 · answered by jess_davis08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave his *** before you can even finish reading this. pack up the girls, and be sure to leave him a note telling him you left, so he doesn't file a missing persons report for you and the kids (although i wonder if he will care).
good luck, and god bless
2006-11-19 18:26:29 · answer #8 · answered by cutegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, what's wrong with being online? He's cheating on you? I didn't read any part of it in here.
2006-11-19 18:24:35 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on or get over it and get on with your lives...
2006-11-19 19:21:30 · answer #10 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋