Ok. See no matter what you guys say i know its a personal decision so please dont tell me that! but i am 13 now my birthday is on wednesday! i just posted a question about the chances of me being pregnant right now and i am certain that i am with a day waiting for me to find out! I want to have this child but yet i have so many things going for me right now like im taking honor classes i am the top player on my basketball team i am the president of student council and much more! i dont know what exactly to do! not only that if i do have it how do i come out to my MOM who we all live in her parents(my grandparents) house! my sister my mom and me share a realy small room and my brother has a room and my grandparents! were all in a struggle and a baby will make it worse!
2006-11-19 10:21:38 · 28 answers · asked by Sunshine 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
well, this is tough. I am against abortion. I believe if you can't keep up with a baby, then adopting the baby out is in yourbest interest. You can still go to school while pregnant. You may not be able to play basketball, but some sacrafices have to be made. I hope that you chose not to have an abortion. I had one, and regret it everyday of my life, and often find it hard to like myself for that reason. I would talk to your momand grandma, and see what they say, and remember, it is your baby and your life, don't let anyone force you to do something you don't want to.
2006-11-19 10:26:39 · answer #1 · answered by sr22racing 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would suggest talking to your mom. Im sure you dont want to tell her..but you have to. This is a really tough decision and you need someone a little older and with more life experiences to help you through this. I would also go to planned parenthood and see what they say. It is a personal decision and something you have to live with for the rest of your life. You have many options. There is always adoption..and you might be able to find a situation in which you could still be a part of the baby's life. This might be a little tough to find good parents willing to do this..but I've heard of it before. Dont know if you're religious or not..but there might be some advice and help if you talk to a church. There might be some couples desperate to have a child and willing to let you visit or send you pictures. Good luck...but first..talk to your mom.
2006-11-19 10:26:37 · answer #2 · answered by trevnme 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
... if you don't want me to tell you that it's a personal decision, you shouldn't have posted. It *IS* your decision because it's your body. Do NOT let religious crackheads tell you otherwise. I do, however, find it hard that someone who has those credentials would be so stupid as to get knocked up, but with all the reasons you listed, I think you've already made up your mind. It's either you have the kid or you don't. Either way, it's going to haunt you for a while. I am pro-choice, but I still know that I have no right to influence you to get an abortion. It's either you want it or you don't... I only know what I would do in your situation. I can't decide for YOU, though.
If you DO put the kid up for adoption, that's STILL something you have to think about. Will the kid be happy then? Doubtful... especially with the enormous mass overpopulation in the world and the sad fact that everyone still wants to have their own kids instead of adopting.
Also, you do not have to tell your parents if you do not want to (depending on what state you live in... here in Cali, you don't have to) because some parents can get violent. Thus, it would be a safety issue. It's not exactly "nice" to leave them in the dark, but an abortion is a serious situation, so no need to create more stress.
2006-11-19 10:28:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Abortion isn't your only other option. You could also adopt your baby out to a loving family. One who can provide well for the child. This is a decision you need to make together with your mom, besides no matter what YOU decide you are still under the age of majority and your mother cannot be left in the dark. It will be hard on you and your family, no matter what you choose to do. Please for the love of an unborn child and the respect for all the couples that cannot have their own babies, and are waiting to adopt, choose life. Good luck with all that is going good for you right now. Keep your head up, things always get better.
2006-11-19 10:29:30 · answer #4 · answered by Lindsay M 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, here's my advice. I got pregnant 6 months ago, and I'm 19. By the time I have my child I'll be 20. The point is, either way 10 or 30 it's not gonna be easy, people gonna give you a hard time, you're gonna miss out on some things, but it's all about you. Love your child, love yourself and stay positive. And when things get hard, just think of the blessing which you possess. Take care.
2006-11-19 11:00:17 · answer #5 · answered by bre714 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your decision you have to make it you have a lot of thinking to do and soon. You have all these things to look forward to and basically your life is p[lanned and is great, but on the other hand this baby didnt ask you to be brought intro this world either. I would never push someone towards abprtion but it is still your decision and theres others out there you need to think hard, soon, and fast. BUt you are very young it is very hard take it from a non single parent
2006-11-19 10:46:28 · answer #6 · answered by crrousey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so pro-adoption. There are so many loving happy couples who want that child more than anything and can provide it with everything it deserves. If money is an issue for you even being pregnant, many couples are willing to help cover some of the pregnancy expenses when they are going to be the ones to adopt your child
2006-11-19 10:39:23 · answer #7 · answered by SweetLaura 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe you are answering your own question. Your age, your living situation, you school activities. Your life would be forever changed. And you are only 14. You did not say anything about the father. But I would presume that if he is young like you, he will not be too involved. If you were my daughter, I would drive you to a clinic myself. You have a long life ahead of you to have children. And if you are sexually active - where is the birth control, Girl??? For goodnes sake, get some condoms, or start on birth control pills. You need to take control of your body. And start now, so that the rest of your life can be the best it can be!!!
2006-11-19 10:31:06 · answer #8 · answered by monkey 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, as you said, no one can tell you but yourself, but the bottom line to me is this.... Think 10 years down the line what your life would be like both with, and without, a child. And if your decision turns out to be that you do not want to raise the child, but you also don't want an abortion, remember how many thousands of couples are begging to adopt.
Good luck. Email me if you'd like to talk.
2006-11-19 10:25:26 · answer #9 · answered by arsenalamie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't abort the baby. There are other options besides that that can help you, including putting the baby up for adoption when it's born. Besides the fact that you shouldn't have had sex (especially unprotected, if it was), a life is a life. Are you just going to take its life away because you did something?
Plus, abortions are risky business. There can be long term physical and mental effects for you. Are you sure your up for taking that chance?
*shrugs* I don't know your head, but that's just my advice. You don't have to listen.
I know it's tough, but if you need to talk, you can e-mail me. Just look in your heart and make your decision. No one can judge your own self.
2006-11-19 10:27:00 · answer #10 · answered by browncoat_llama 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋