Thus far most MEN have told me to stay single and enjoy life and stay away from the institution called marriage. And there's been many mature women say the exact same thing. My parents divorced, and same with my siblings. They are the same people people who used to tell me that marriage was a great and most wonderful thing. NOW they say it was a MISTAKE. So please tell me people ,,,,NEVER GET MARRIED??? I especially appreciate answers from those that gone through the gauntlet of MARRIAGE & DIVORCE.
2006-11-19 09:39:32 · 22 answers · asked by chaseki 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think that marriage shouldn't even had existed really...
2006-11-19 09:42:02 · answer #1 · answered by Curiousity 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is more than one reason that people get married: love, money, childcare, lust, etc, and there are many loose ends for whatever the reasons for marriage may be. Most people in this modern society marry too quickly, whether they are assuming what the person is like from the beginning and not paying attention to what they have become, or if they married someone due to their income/beauty despite their horrid personality. The unfortunate part is that many people are immature about who they should pick, which henceforth leads to divorce.
Am I saying NEVER get married? Not necessarily. I'm just saying that it is difficult to find the proper person that you should spend with for the rest of your life. For instance, the right person could very well be in your field of work and therefore have the same interests as you or be able to help you for the rest of your life. So yes, it is possible to have the right person where you shouldn't have to divorce.
If you do not find the right person, it would be immature to give up and marry someone at random. The person needs to be someone you can stand to be with for the rest of your life, as I've said before. So no, don't put your foot down on being a singleton for a lifetime if you find the perfect person for you that you've known for a REALLY long time. But no, don't jump the gun either. Having this balance may be difficult for a lot of people though, which is why they're saying 'never get married'. It takes years after meeting the person before you can assume they are the right sort of person for you. In this regard, time and research is crucial.
2006-11-19 10:09:27 · answer #2 · answered by Unspecified User 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what to tell you about the marriage.
But everyone is different in every relationship. Before I always thought that marriage is the great thing that ever happen in my life.
But after 8 yrs of marriage is not the same. It really suck and depress. I have 2 kids and I want to get divorce but I have to thought about my kids without a daddy. So I stayed.
My hubby always on the computer until 7am. He didn't care about the kids and me. I don't want to live in a marriage like this.
But what can I do, I know that I don't love him any more.
SO now we have a open marriage and if one day he want to get divorce, he have to wait until the kids is older.
So I think that marrried is not that great it just a piece of paper. So if you love someone just live together and wait until you really sure he is the right one for you. But just to let you know that everyone is different in any relationship, At this time most marriage don't last that long no more than 3 yrs.
SO good luck
2006-11-19 09:55:38 · answer #3 · answered by prettysweetrite 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first marriage ( I was 25 and she was 24) lasted 15 months.
My second marriage lasted 17 years and the divorce is inevitable. Women change and mature as time goes on. Some men don't mature at that same rate. The marriages that last have 1 dominant and 1passive personality.
2006-11-19 09:45:41 · answer #4 · answered by Jet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't assume that all marriages will end up in divorce. That is very close minded. Marriage can be a wonderful thing, you just have to find the right person. Sure, lots of people make mistakes, but learn from their mistakes and search for a sould mate. Good luck and I hope that you may find true love someday.
2006-11-19 09:43:55 · answer #5 · answered by Jer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I had to do it all over again, I would've stayed single. Marriage is great if you are both mature, don't have any real problems going into the marriage, you're both mature and have a passionate love and trust with each other and truly enjoy one another just as they are. Otherwise, stay away! Also, it helps if you like the way your mate treats and respects others. It shows alot about what kind of person they are, and like someone else said, watch how he treats his mother/sisters. It's true.
2006-11-19 10:42:35 · answer #6 · answered by animal_mother 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that may not be the best indicator of whether or not you should get married. I know many people who are happily married. I also know many people who are divorced, I among them. I could tell you my sad story but all that matters is how YOU feel about marriage and what you want for your life. Being single is fine as long as you are happy. If you think you want more then decide what you want your marriage to look like and find a man that meets your needs as a mate. Don't just look for sex appeal or looks. He needs to be emotionally present, financially stable and compassionate. Watch how he treats his mom and that will tell you how he treats his wife. GL
2006-11-19 09:54:44 · answer #7 · answered by TotallylovesTodd! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is hard you have to make the best of it like everything else. The thing about marriage is you have to compromise because two people become one. When you really love someone you can make it work, Without love it will not work. So find that special person and take it from there.
2006-11-19 09:51:44 · answer #8 · answered by vato 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did get divorced and even if nowadays it is very ,very difficult to keep the marriage togheter, I am in love again ,have been dating for 3 years and I would love to get married again. It all depends .
The only thing I would suggest is :never get married too young, statistically most couples that got married very young will experience divorce.
2006-11-19 09:48:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
some say you should by no potential say by no potential, yet besides the undeniable fact that, some people do mean by no potential. there is not something you or anybody else can do to regulate this human being's recommendations. in the journey that they are determined now to not get married, they received't. circumstances and regulate and adult adult males were common to regulate their minds. So have women people. purely time can tell in this count number. once you're sitting round hoping that this guy will by wonder awaken one morning and say - sure! She's the single! forget it. It doesn't artwork that way. savour your existence and stay it. after all, isn't that what he's doing?
2016-11-29 07:05:48 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am divorce and I will never get married again....in this day and age its only a peice of paper. Marriage is not what it used to be and people do not know how to be faithful. Better off living with one another. This way you wont have to give half_
2006-11-19 09:47:56 · answer #11 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋